Hannahbaby

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Jamie - April 24

Hey, okay - let's have it out right here and now. Having read several posts in several threads, I'm beginning to put the pieces together. #1) The way I phrase things offends you. #2) The way you phrase things offends me. #3) We probably have more in common that either of us realizes. #4) This is me waving a white flag in truce, and offering the opportunity to open a discussion to find some common ground, and make this forum slightly less nasty than it has been.

 

HannahBaby - April 24

ok, I am 21 years old. I have a 15 month old daughter, and am 15 weeks pregnant. I am a stay at home mom, dont have many friends where i live because they all just turned 21. My husband is a police officer and paints on the side, I live in NY, I didnt bf my first child but will be working with a lactation consultant this time around, I love staying home with my child and wouldent have it any other way. I hope to have 3 kids, but if i have a 3rd it wont be for a while. Im only 21 so feel like i have an entire life time to have another one after this one. I love taking long walks with my daughter (hannah, thats her name) and am addicted to TV, espically Prison Break. I dont think you are from US so you may not know about prison break. I am catholic, and like long walks on the beach (haha)

 

Jamie - April 24

All About Me. I am 23, 24 in 2 days, and a SAHM. I have one daughter, who is not quite 9 months old. My husband is a Specialist, E-4, Active Duty Army, stationed in Darmstadt, Germany. I was Active Duty Army prior to becoming pregnant. The same week I found out I was pregnant, my unit received orders to deploy to Iraq. Rather than be separated from my daughter for more than a year when she was only 6 months old, I chaptered. I would re-enlist, except my DH is very much against it, feeling that our child needs at least one parent who is a civilian. As he can't get out prior to the end of his original enlistment (2010), it falls to me. I plan on taking cla__ses in the fall, to work towards a nursing degree. I hope to become a doula, to help other women avoid the problematic pregnancy I experienced. I chose to b___stfeed because it didn't occur to me not to. It was difficult for the first 2 months, but I stuck at it, probably because I was p__sed off that I was unable to give birth to my daughter naturally, and I'd be d__ned if I was going to fail at feeding her, too. I co-sleep pretty much by accident. After my c-section, I could not move without severe pain; I kept my daughter in bed with me so that I could care for her without straining myself. I got used to it, as did DH. We made one attempt, when she was 6 weeks, to put her in the crib we purchased. She slept perfectly, we did not. I attempted to use prefold cloth diapers at the beginning but couldn't keep up with the laundry and my reduced mobility. After hating disposables for many months, I found a cloth diapering system that worked. Coincidentally, this was about the same time I decided to potty train her. Now diapers are practically pointless, because I am able to predict when she needs to pee and poop.

 

HannahBaby - April 24

YOUR DAUGHTER IS POTTY TRAINED AT 9 MONTHS?? o my god!! I can ususally tell when shes gona be, right before she pees on me!! Thats so funny. Is your husband in Iraq? I hope not. Are you from the us? I want to be a nurse too, i was an a__sistant at the maternity floor that i delivered on. I had a really hard labor/ delivery with my daughter too. I was 3 cervidils, then finally pitocin, then almost had an emergency c section because my daughter heart rate dropped dramatically after a few hours of the pit, then i had to dialate on my own, which took forever, I had a internal fetal monitor (scalp electrode) and at 9 cms her heart rate was not good so i had to push throught that cm. i didnt push very long but my contractions were so unregular i wouldent have one for 10 mins. I dont think that i will ever do that again.....but i also dont want a section because ill have 2 babies to take care of and my hubby can only take about a week off from work. Have you ever been on the PNP website? I am so sick of all the posts that they are posting here. whats it like in germany? Do you miss your family?

 

Jamie - April 24

I wouldn't say my daughter is "potty trained" - she hasn't started initiating it, though I always keep her potty chair in the same room where we are, in the hopes that she will. When she's about to do her business, I take off her diaper and set her on the potty and I make a small sound while she's going. I've been working on this for about a month. It took me a week to learn her signals, and another week to get into the hang of getting her onto the potty in time. Now we are to the point where if I set her on the potty and make the sound, she'll go. It's really useful at preventing her from peeing in the bathwater, and also when we're going out somewhere. But, I only have to change dirty diapers when she first wakes up in the morning, and after her naps. I've started putting her on the potty before she takes a nap, but that hasn't been consistently successful yet. ** DH is with a non-deployable unit, thank god. Or rather, they never deploy to Iraq. He has had to go to Kosovo and Afghanistan, but has never been gone for more than 3 weeks. He narrowly avoided a 3 month deployment to Iraq, but only because another soldier volunteered to go in his place, as I was 8 months pregnant. (I was induced and delivered a week after he would have left) I had a difficult pregnancy, and started displaying symptoms of pre-eclampsia at 16 weeks. At 30 weeks, I had severe pain just under my right b___st, and was told to go to the ER. The doctor there diagnosed the pre-eclampsia, and wanted to do an emergency c-section. DH and I got the doctor to admit that 24 hours wouldn't kill either me or the baby, and refused the c-section. We then went to an American hospital 3 hours away, and explained the situation there. The doctors there felt that I hadn't reached the critical stage of needing a c-section that night, but monitored me for the following 7 weeks. Finally, at 37 weeks to the day, it was decided that I had reached the danger zone and needed to be induced. After 24 hours of labor, including 2 hours of pushing, the doctor decided that I needed a c-section because my daughter was caught on my pelvic bone. I am really resentful of having needed a c-section, and wish I hadn't wimped out and taken the epidural. It only took on one side, but that was enough to keep me laboring on my back, rather than up and moving around - I think that had I been able to get up and walk around, the labor wouldn't have been as intense, and my daughter might have shifted around my pelvic bone, allowing her to be born naturally. I can only hope that with my next pregnancy, I do not develop pre-eclampsia again, so that I can try for a VBAC.

 

Happy Mom - April 24

JAMIE is potty trained. Not her baby. Sorry Jamie I couldn't not say it.

 

Jamie - April 24

That last one was getting long. Germany is a beautiful country, with a lot of history. But, it's not the US, and it's not home. I miss my family terribly but I call my parents every day, and we chat on webcam frequently. It's hard, but I try to stay positive. We're halfway through our time here, and I'm hoping we're stationed Stateside next. I have been to the PnP website, I go there fairly frequently. I try to stay out of all of that drama, though, because I like people on both sides of the fight, and don't want to have to choose.

 

pbj - April 24

Jamie, I was lucky enough to visit Germany and Switzerland for my honeymoon. Germany was awesome, but Switzerland was absolutely breathtaking. Have you been able to visit other surrounding countries? If you haven't yet, I totally recommend a trip to Switzerland...though my honeymoon was 7 years ago, I think about it everyday. I would just love to visit once again, but I know it won't be until my husband and I are retired, years from now. Would love to know if you've traveled there and the place you loved the most.

 

krnj - April 24

I would love to go to Germany one day! I have relatives over there somewhere. Oh well guess the only place I'm going now is Babies R Us! LOL ;)

 

HannahBaby - April 24

Hey jamie!! Sounds like your pregnancy was just like mine. I starting developing preeclampsia at 36-37 weeks. Im so sorry that you had to get a c section. Arent you scared to have a v-bac? I would be a little scared. Where are you from in the states? I cant believe all the drama that is going on on this site about the PNP and all that. I cant even keep up because they are just out of controll. We co slept with my daughter until she starting rolling becuase i have a california king size bed (its almost up to my b___bs!!) So i was so scared for her to fall out because thats a LONG way down. Then she slept in her pack in play until she was 9 months, then my husband gave in and let me buy one of those camera monitors. Now i watch her all hours of the night. I plan on doing the same with this baby as well. How many kids do you plan on having? I wanted an epidural with my daughter my after her heart rate dipped for a while they said no to any more chemicals in my body. Thats when i felt like giving up but my husband was so supportive and helped me throught it all. I remember i was pushing and i said to my husband "i cant do this anymore" and he says to me "honey shes almost out" and i go "how do you know" and he know "um, shes looking at me!!" then i looked down and saw her head, pushed one more time, and there she was. All 5lbs of her. She was so tiny, 18 inches long. bald....haha shes still bald!!

 

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