Have Any Inlaws You Dont Like

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BreaunasMommy - January 23

I cant stand my sil. She is dh older sister (he has 2) Sometimes I feel like such a terrible person because I cant stand her. We get along and everything but its just her expectations of other people that I cant stand. She wants everyone to bow down to her and so what she wants and the drop of dime but if anyone else needs a favor she is no where to be found. She is so controlling and I cant stand it. Sometimes I think im just overreacting but then she will go an do something else. Sometimes I make us late for stuff just because I know it will tick her off lol childish I know. I dont know how to deal with this because I dont want my dd to not like her or know that I dont like her. Shes not always that bad but still when I see her I just want to scream, Does anyone else have this problem if so how do you deal with it. and how does your dh deal with you not likeing a family member of his.

 

SonyaM - January 23

I could write a book on my two sil's. They are older and think they know everything. Let's start with the fact that they BOTH wore black to our wedding, didn't get us a gift much less a card and are just evil. They have said horrible things about me which were repeated to me by their children. They say inapproriate things to my kids, go out of their way to make me look/feel like a bad parent and I could go on and on. Luckily my dh feels the same way I do so we try to limit our time with them. One of them lives about 2 minutes away but we dont' see them much. I have tried my hardest to be nice but it doesn't work. So now I just do my thing and let them do theirs. Just because we are family doesn't mean we have to like eachother.

 

BreaunasMommy - January 23

Well I think she likes me I think lol she isnt mean to me or doesnt say mean things about me that I know of. And as far as I know she has no idea that I dont like her. Im not mean or rude to her face. Most of the time Im just quiet around her.She probably just thinks Im stuck up. We dont see her that often but I complain when we do have to go around her. The only time she calls dh is when she wants something and then if he isnt able to do it she gets p__sed and like I said if someone else needs something she wont help. When there is a family thing we are the very last to know I mean she will tell us the day before or the day of and I HATE that. god I could write about 4 books on just her.

 

mcatherine - January 23

lol, SonyaM - everybody wore black to my wedding! (It was at night..hehe). I don't like most of my inlaws. We got lucky - someone offered my husband a job across the state two years ago so I don't have to deal with them that much. When we did live around them, we didn't make them a very big part of our lives. My husband and I had a conversation about how miserable they made me and then he caught his mother giving me one of those "mil looks" and she turned around smiling and tried to pretend nothing was wrong, but that really did it for my husband and he pretty much told her so. Now, we are polite - but thats about it!

 

BreaunasMommy - January 23

yall are luck my dh gets mad and is like Im not like that with your family and Im like my mom stepdad and dad love him like a real son! I had a brother but my he was kill in a car accident 1mth after dh and I met so we never had a chance to have that kind of an issue even though I know we wouldnt have. Shes just a drag to be aroung and dh knows it he is just scared to stand up to her. He has gotten better since we first got together though but still. Anyways thanks for listening to me complain lol

 

sahmof3 - January 23

Well, I used to be pretty good friends with my one SIL (this isn't dh's side of the family, but mine... it's my brother's wife). When she and my brother were dating I got to know her and really liked her. She and my brother decided to move to CO. and he went out 1 1/2 months before her to get things established (job, apartment, etc.). They weren't married at that point, so she wasn't my SIL yet, but we would go do things... coffee, movies, shopping... a lot because she was bored waiting to make her move to CO. So they got married, had a daughter soon after I had my oldest, blah, blah, blah. Well, 2 years ago when her daughter (my niece) was 3 1/2 she up and decided that she wants her freedom and left my brother and niece. My brother has found out that she's into drugs and he's actually caught her twice at bars with other guys (he was tipped off by mutual friends as to where to find her). She went away for a weekend at an expensive hotel and completely drained their life savings!! Then, she had the nerve to get into a fight with my brother. She started punching him, ripped his shirt and broke his gla__ses... that was on an elevator. When they got out there were people there and she told them to call the police b/c he was beating her (he never touched her and she didn't have a scratch on her). So, after a long, separate police interviews SHE was arrested for a__sault and a restraining order was automatically put into place against her. My brother decided not to press charges and even told her that he would modify the restraining order so she could see my niece, but she never took him up on it. What a nice mother, huh? So, now my brother's a single dad. I can't believe she has turned out to be such an a**. I've only seen her once since all of this began... she came in here (PA.) to visit her family (this was early on in the problems... basically at the point in time where my brother was just getting suspicious of some of her behavior)... she had my niece with her... and it was around my niece's b-day, so my mom planned a b-day party for her and we had it at my house. My SIL was so rude!! She called us hicks because my dh loves to garden. We have a very large garden. She said we don't know what excitement is and if we want to be boring like our parents it would be bad for our kids. So, yeah, I guess her way is GREAT for her daughter :-( Anyway, I'm getting carried away here. Can you tell I have had it with the brat?

 

sahmof3 - January 23

Yikes... didn't know it was that long. Sorry for the novel ;-)

 

shelly - January 23

sahmof3 she sounds like a nightmare, your poor brother. how does your niece feel about her. breaunasmommy your in goos company here,i cant stand my sil, because they are well off they like to lord it over everyone else,she hasnt a happy marriage thro her own fault but id rather be a bit poorer but happy.

 

shelly - January 23

forgot to say dh takes no notice now because hes used to me with the mil problems but hes not that keen on my family so its swings and roundabouts.

 

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