He S Gone On Vacation

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Angela - January 20

And I didn't want him to! My baby is three months old now, and my guy has decided to go on a vacation over the weekend. He bought a last minute ticket to San Diego last night, flies out today, comes back Sunday. I'm so p___sed that in spite of the fact that I have very little money right now, he feels quite comfortable dropping $500 on a ticket, not to even mention he will spend plenty on beer, I'm sure. I am so mad, because as usual I'm with the baby, and he's off doing whatever. What's the deal with men?! He told me "I can't let your postpartum depression affect both of us, because if I do things I enjoy, then what's the point?" I think that's very smug.

 

tiffani - January 20

What a creep! What kind of man leaves his woman and child at home so that he can go off and have some postpardum depressionless fun? Does he fail to realize that he helped create this condition? He should have spent the $500 on pampering the very woman who just blessed him with a child. Ugghh.....men can be so ridiculous sometimes can't they? {{{{Hugs}}}} :o)

 

Heidi - January 20

Hey, a co-worker of mine left his wife and TWINS home so he could fly out east for a stupid Vikings game! I think the kids were only like 5 months old too. I'm sure his or her parents came to help but when my DH heard this I said if he ever did that he'd fly home to an empty house. Hee hee!

 

Kristina - January 20

omg I would be so ticked off!! It's so not fair that these men think they can go do whatever while we are stuck at home! So ignorant. Luckily Jer doesn't leave me high and dry like that...and he knows d__n well I'd be furious if he did. Instead, he actually offered to fly me and baby back home to see my family cause he can't get time off from work. =) I don't want to go without him though so I am toughing it out until he gets the time off.

 

Kelly K - January 20

I'd kill him!!! Thankfully my husband was smart enough (yet still stupid to even ask) to ask if I would mind if he went to a Titans game in Nashville. I would have been left at home for 18 hours with a 3 week old baby. I nipped that really quick.

 

KrYstaL - January 20

I can't believe that some men would actually do that. my BF knows better even to ask...if he did he wouldn't be coming home at all let alone to an empty house. He even feels guilty if he has to work a couple of extra hours.

 

amb - January 20

i swear MOST men think this kind of stuff is okay. im due at the end of march, well nascar starts up like a week later and theyll be in phoenix when the babys like 2-3 weeks old. he got mad cause i said he CANT go. no way will i be home for TWO days with a 6 year old and an infant. hed come home to his $hit outside in his car ready to go!!!

 

Kelly K - January 20

If he does go, amb.. don't even put his stuff in the car!! It would be on the front lawn for the neighbors to go through!

 

karen - January 20

Me ncan be real a__s*** sometimes.

 

Angela - January 20

No doubt! My guy is now in the friendly skies as I type. I was seeing red when I talked to him on the phone this morning. He said some crazy stuff about how this is our first time NOT together in the better part of this year, and I said, "Maybe it should be the beginning of a whole lot more time apart." But I didn't really mean it, I was just mad. I mean, I spend EVERY DAY with our daughter, hoarding money, trying to do a good job, and then he just decides that a little partying is just what he needs! I feel like he took a chance on our relationship, and that is NOT a good feeling.

 

KrYstaL - January 20

maybe if you tell them that they can go, but however long they are gone you are going to go find something to do when they get home and be gone for the same amount of time. just let them know that this would be an everytime thing. one night at basketball=one night out for you, weekend out for him= weekend out for you,....etc

 

Angela - January 20

KrYstaL, you're a genius. I have already decided that WILL be the case. My job of taking care of the baby is no less demanding that his job, and I will therefore be going to visit my best friend in TX next month. Made arrangements already. :)

 

KrYstaL - January 20

lol. my BF did that to me. went out drinking one night with his friends..thought everything would be fine. let me remind you that this is one of those men that sleep right through the baby crying in the middle of the night. anyways i told him that since he got a night out, that i would too and i did too like a week later. i went over to my cousins house party and stayed till 4 am.(hehe) and when i got home he was up waiting lol. he said that he didn't dare to sleep since he might not hear the baby. and to top it off, i made him get up in the morning too...and i slept in. i am happy to say that he hasn't done it since..( aobut 2.5 months ago)

 

Angela - January 20

You are funny, KrYstaL! I was so mad this morning that I had to vent. This lady, whose daughter I teach piano, called this morning and said she'd have to cancel her lesson, but we ended up chatting and I told her that I would be alone this weekend due to "The Vacation." She knowingly told me that when her husband first did the same thing, go on vacation, she made his life miserable by giving him the biggest guilt trip by calling him the whole time and saying that she didn't feel well, and her daughter didn't feel well, etc. It was rea__suring. But she and I both agreed that you've got to give to get, and that by being "cool" I can make it easier to go on vacation myself. I told her it was too late, we had already fought, and that the best he could hope for now is to make up. And only if I feel like it, if you know what I mean.

 

Andrews Mommy - January 20

OMG - I have PPD and I would have KILLED him if he did that! Actually, I used to get ANGRY if he just wanted to play games on the computer for a couple of hours on the weekend when he could be giving me a break........argh - some days I wish I had been born a lesbian - another woman would just have totally understood what was needed to help!

 

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