Help Need Some Support ASAP

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JAI - June 7

It is 1:10AM and I am trying the CIO method with my ds who is 7 months old. This is so hard and it is killing me. I so badly just want to bring him into my room and cuddle him, but I know I can't. If I do I will never go through with this. Please tell me it does get easier.

 

jas - June 7

It does get easier... We did that with our now 11 year old... It is VERY hard. But I think it's harder for you then it is your son. I know I am not looking forward to doing it again with my now 11 wk old. Hang in there!!!

 

Bonnie - June 7

It's harder than labor isn't it? Like Jas said, it DOES get easier. My doc told me that most babies get it down within a week of it. Mason had it perfect by 4 days but the first 2 days of CIO were hell. Hang in there!! (((HUGS)))

 

JAI - June 7

Thanks ladies!!! Well I stuck to it, finally by 3AM he was asleep and stayed there until 8AM. Tonight I will do it again. I wish it was already next week and he was trained...LOL! What a horrible terrible feeling. My poor ds was probably saying to himself mommy and daddy just left me. I think each time I checked on him it made it worse. Well we shall see how tonight goes. Thanks again!

 

ry - June 7

Oh Jai, I dont have to do that yet but dread the day I might. Hang in there and know that you are doing this for his own good and well being and everyone here supports you and is here for you! ((HUGS))

 

Bonnie - June 7

Ya know what's funny...when Mason DID sleep through on that 4th night I actually felt even worse, lol. I thought he'd stopped crying because he thought I had abandoned him and just gave up! (LOL Amazing what message boards can do to you!)....BUT...that morning (and every morning since) he greeted me with a big giant smile and gets all happy to see mommy (apparently babies do not holg grudges, lol). In the end it was SO worth it, he is much happier when he gets that long sleep in!

 

JAI - June 7

Round 2 well my ds has been crying for 1 hour now. But I am sticking to it. Errr I hate this!

 

mama3 - June 8

I know you all are supporting each other, but i have to ask. How do you think putting your baby through this is for there own good? I never forced any of my girls to sleep when I wanted them too and they were fine. My toddler started sleeping through the night at 22 months. They will do it when they are ready. She still naps for 2-4 hrs a day and sleeps 12 hrs a night. My oldest was 1 when she started sleeping 10 hrs a night with a 2 hr nap each day. Your babies get up at night to make sure your still there and to eat. Why would you want to take that from them? Just wondering. Wether you work or not I personally don't see the need in making your BABY cry for more than 20 mintues at the most. Do you tell your baby when they can eat and poop too? I'm sure alot of you are going to come back with anger towards me and thats fine everyone is ent_tled to there own opinion.

 

JAI - June 8

My son does not eat during the night to begin with, He sleeps through the night on the regular but that is in my bed. I do not sleep properly with him in our bed, my husband rolls and moves around alot and I lay awake in fear that he may turn over and g-d forbid accidently smother my son. I love having him but the is best for all of us in "our " family. What you choose to do in "your" family mama3 is your choice, but please do not say in a round about way that I am abusing or doing something to harm my son.

 

mama3 - June 8

JAI--- forst of all none of my children ever slept in my bed. I never said that. Now as far as you thinking that I said in a round about way that you are abusing or harming your baby. I never said that nor intended for you to take it that way. If you think that then maybe you should take a 2nd look inside your self on how you are feeling about what you are doing. All I am saying is that I think it is cruel to forsce you BABY to sleep through the night before they are ready. That would be like beating your child everytime they pee or poo in there pants cause the parent has decided they dont need to be in diapers anymore. I just wanted to know why you all felt the need to make your BABY's sleep all nite? Cause it don't make them healthier then the ones who don't. Could you answer the question without taking what I'm saying out of context?

 

JAI - June 8

This whole posting is about sleeping in his crib and not in my bed. You need to learn to stop being so cruel. WOW

 

Bonnie - June 8

Jai, do not even listen to people who spout off like that. It is uncalled for and personally I find it very rude. It is one thing to have an opinion, it's another thing to act like someone else is a bad parent when you may not neca__sarily agree with them. Everyone has a different style when it comes to parenting. There are no right or wrongs when it comes to this issue. And obviously (as I am sure someone would have to get a dig in) I am not talking about peopel who plop their kid in a bit to cry for 24 hours while they are ignored. We are talking about a normal CIO technique. If that is not your style, so be it. But I highly disagree with acting like your way is the only way. Mama3, to answer your questions as to why I (and others who do the CIO technique) feel it is for my child's own good is simple.....I prefer to teach early sleeping habits ratehr than later. My son does far better when he has had a great night's sleep. And while yes, it is very hard to do CIO, it does work and Mason has been sleeping 10-12 hours everynight since he was 9 weeks old (he was started early per our doctor because he was a very large baby who drank more than enough to sustain himself through the night). There is nothing wrong with attachment parenting if that is what makes youfeel good and I know that technique works well also. But it was not for me. For my own sanity, as well as my son, it was better for him to learn right away. You may not like it or agree with it...that's your problem, not mine or Jai's. There are ways to post a strong opinion without insuating things.

 

Bonnie - June 8

Bed, not bit* pardon the typos, it's late......jai, how did it go? E-mail me anytime if you want to talk without having to deal with perfect-know-it-all parents. [email protected]

 

mama3 - June 8

JAI you are making my laugh. As I said in the begining, to each person ther own opinion. I just wanted to know why these babies are being forced to sleep all night. I'm not understanding why you all are doing this. I for one wasnt the one who brought it up about your baby sleeping in your bed. You did. So are you making your baby cry all night because you don't want him/her sleeping in your bed anymore? I really am curious about why people do this. I just find that doing that is being cruel. I don't see how asking a question and stating my opinion is being cruel WOW... Can you answer my question? IAre you doing this to brake him from a sleeping habbit you started or so you can get more sleep or ??? why. I am just wanting to understand. Thats all. It's not needed to turn into some big debat or issue. I'm just wondering, okay...

 

JAI - June 8

Bonnie...thank you kindly for words of wisdom. Listen I know I am a wonderful parent and Mama3's remarks mean nothing too me. She obvisouly has issues within herself, to come on here and make the awful and rude statements that she did. I mean saying it is the same as making your baby poop only when you want them to has to be one of the dumbest things I have ever heard. In fact it almost sounded like a 10 year old wrote that. Actually nah they would be even too smart to say that. I come on the chat boards for advice and to try to give advice....never to fight with people. I am way too busy for that, and I hope more mature than that. By the way my wonderful boy has been sleeping in his crib without crying since 11pm....I am so excited.

 

Bonnie - June 8

I was gonna make a comment about that anaology and decided not to even tough that one, lol. If anyone has questions about different techniques of teching your baby to sleep, I suggest go to the library and read up. One one extreme you have Dr.Sears and the attchment parenting, on the other extreme end you have Dr.Spock and the original CIO method and a whole slew of books in between. Personally I fall on the in between section. It was recommended by Mason's 2 doctors (ped and GI) and my DH did it with my stpe twins (who live with us). They are 12, honer roll and awesome kids who ADORE their daddy. So the OMG it is cruel and does psych harm is complete BS. Do what you feel is best, there are no right or wrongs..............Jai, I am SO glad to hear she went down. I am jealous! That was fast!! lol I wish you both a fabulous night's sleep!~

 

Bonnie - June 8

UGH!!! TRY that one I meant...okay I am going to bed! rofl

 

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