High Need Baby

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Andy - January 15

I have a 6 week old that seems to be a high need baby. Ever since she was a week or so old, she does not like to be put down. I've tried swings, bouncers, car seats, soft music, quiet rooms, noisy rooms, you name it. She will fall asleep in my arms and no matter how long I wait to put her down, she will wake up w/ in 5-10 mins and cry and then it leads to screaming if I don't come fast enough. She is br___tfed and is not hungry, since at her 1 month appointment she weighed in at 10 lbs, 10 oz (from 8 lbs 3oz at birth). I've tried Mylicon for gas, Zantac for possible reflux, since she spits up frequently, and even all natural Gripe Water. Nothing seems to help. Some days she will go all day w/ just 10-20 minute catnaps, since she will wake up after I put her down. I think she is so exhausted but doesn't know how to soothe herself when she is not being held. I have been told she is way to young to let her cry it out. I find myself holding her from morning till night and I have a 3-1/2 year old to care for too. She won't take a bottle or a pacifier either. Anyone in the same or similar situation or anyone with some advice? Thanks!!

 

dee23 - January 15

i have a 6 month old (today!) who has reflux that is alot better now, so he sleeps more now than he did in the first 4 months. at that age they cant be spoilt, and i know its hard beleive me!, but it will get better, the first 2 months are by far the hardest, then it just keeps getting better. reflux usually peeks from 3-5 months, for ds it was 1-4 months. becarfull of zantac, it gave my ds a really sore tummy, gripe water never worked for him either, its just one of those things you have to wait out. have u spoken to your ped about him? dont forget that at that age she still doesnt know that she is a seperate person from you, so being left alone could be frightning for her. anywho, i know how hard it can be, but it will get better i promise.

 

dee23 - January 15

i should proberbly add that if u havent had her checked for reflux, u should. because bad reflux left untreated can cause serious damage to their osophagus(sp?).

 

Aussie Beck - January 15

Do you swaddle her? Maybe if she is wrapped quite tight she will feel more secure. Just a thought. Do you have a baby carrier or sling? If holding her most of the time seems to comfort her then at least if you use one, your arms will be free to tend to your son and other things. It does seem strange that none of the other methods you've mentioned help her sleep longer, but who knows maybe she just needs her momma with her right now. Sorry I'm not much help, but I know that my dd was a very high-maintenance baby early on and would cry a lot. Eventually things improved and i now have a 1 year old who is a great sleeper and very happy. Good luck : )

 

Bonnie - January 16

Andy, reflux has varying degrees of severity. While Zantac wworks for most reflux babies, it does not work for all. Reflux is not always eay to treat.You may need a different cla__s of drug like Prevacid or prilosec. Please look at all the info pages on infantrefluxdisease.com and then also check out the message boards there. You may find the answers you need. :)

 

SuzieQ - January 16

I go to a mom and babe cla__s, and over half the babies there wanted to be held constantly for the first three months. All b___stfed, all healthy, just always wanting to be held. Have you tried using a sling to at least get your arms free? My dd was like this - no naps alone, no sleeping alone at night, etc. She's 14wks now and will sleep alone finally, but still prefers to be held onto during the day.

 

Andy - January 16

Thanks for all your responses. The newborn specialist she sees is not convinced that my daughter has reflux - but - she does have some of the symptoms. DEE23, how do they determine for sure whether she does or not? They told me we can try Prevacid next but I was trying to hold off after trying the Zantac to see if we can really determine if reflux is her problem or not. I am not convinced it is that either. She does spit up more some days than others but it seems that she does it more when she eats a lot, almost like she is over full. Last night, I swaddled her in one of those infant swaddle blankets w/ the velcro. She was so tight in there. She ended up sleeping all night from midnight until 8 am when I got her up to change her diaper and try to feed her, since my b___sts were so full and hurting. She was too tired to eat so I put her back down and pumped. It is now 9 am here and she is still sleeping. I have swaddled her before in one of the hospital blankets that I took home but she always wiggled her way out. These velcro ones are great! Anyway, we'll see how the day goes today, since she has had a good nights sleep. Aussie, I do have a sling and carrier. I have used them here and there but I find them to be a bit uncomfortable after a while.

 

krc - January 16

she sounds just like my son did when he was a newborn. He was exclusively b___stfed. I tried mylicon as well. But what it all came down to was he just wanted to be held 24/7. He was horrible when it came to naps as well. The only way I could get him to stay asleep was if I nursed him in the side-lying position and let him fall asleep at the b___st, then quietly sneek away from him and leave the room, LOL ! hE WOULDN'T TAKE A PACIFIER OR BOTTLE EIther. All he wanted was ME ME ME ME ME ME, lol . I think your son is behaving like any other baby...some are just more needy than others !!! Good luck !

 

krc - January 16

oops...i mean your daughter.....not son!

 

Andy - January 16

KRC and SUZIEQ, thanks for your responses too. It's so nice to know that I am not the only one out there that has a baby that wants to be held all day! My 1st dd was a COMPLETELY different baby. She would be entertained to sit in a swing or bouncer, etc for hours. I hate to keep pushing medicine on her, since I am just starting to think she is just high need and very tired. I am hoping that after a good nights sleep, she will be a little less fussy and 'easier' today. KRC, when did your son become less needy, do you remember? Did you ever get him to take a bottle? It makes it so hard to get away at all when they wont take one. Tomorrow I have 2 Dr appts to go to for myself and I literally have to rush to one, come home and feed and rush to the other, even though I will leave my dh bottles just in case!!

 

LisaB - January 16

My ds lvoed to be held and that was they only way he would sleep most of the time he outgrew it around 3 months but until then we had to suck it up and hold him pretty much 24/7 Get a sling so you can have your hands free and your lo is still cuddled and close to you.

 

Bonnie - January 16

Andy, I just posted a thread about how to tell the difference between colic and reflux. :)

 

Angela in California - January 16

Have you tried wearing your baby in a sling? This really helped with my baby. She could definitely have reflux, but since she is soothed by being held, she probably also just needs a lot of skin to skin contact. She's still adjusting to life outside the womb. For the first 3 months my son hardly ever wanted to be put down and I just wore him most of the day. Now at 11 months old he is all over the place and hardly ever wants to be held! This is common for babies that young. Definitely don't let her "cry it out"

 

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