I Can T Even Enjoy My Son

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Danielle19 - February 9

I can't take much more crying thats all my son does, he happy about 45mins a day total, and i just hate that i can't enjoy my son like other moms enjoy there children, i love him so much but i just wish things were different, it seems like all other moms are playing and cuddling and enjoying there little ones and i spend most my time crying and stressing out, i try and play with him sing songs play games he likes it for about a minute then hes screamming he doesn't really like his toys he hates rocking and cuddling, its sad but i can't wait for him to go to day each tuesday just so i can get a grip on myself, i just wish so bad that things were different, so for venting but i just had to tell someone

 

Danielle19 - February 9

sorry for venting not so for venting

 

Steph - February 9

How old is your little guy?

 

luviduvi - February 9

Yea, how old is he? Is he colicky? I have no experience with colick but either Kara H. or torbman does. Which ever one it was said to get the book "Happiest Baby on the Block" I have heard good things about this book from many people. Are you sure your ds doesn't have acid reflux???

 

Steph - February 9

IMO, the first 3 months are the hardest....that's why I asked how old your lo is. Newborns can be very hard to take care of and I can certainly understand your frustration. If he is crying on and on for hours at a time, he might possibliy have reflux, so you may want to google infant reflux symptoms and do a little bit of research on that. Another note, if your lo is crying inconsoleably, try turing on the vacc_m cleaner. It used to shut my son right up! He was a pretty difficult newborn and spent the first few months of his life with reflux and a lot of crying. Luviduvi is right, the happiest baby on the block is a great book and has some really helpful tips.

 

Danielle19 - February 9

hes 7 months, he had reflux as a newborn but it is gone now

 

Danielle19 - February 9

ive also read some of that book, i've pretty much tried everything there is to try, and the doctor said he healthy hes never even been sick, i can't even think of what it will be like if he were to get sick

 

luviduvi - February 9

Is he teething? Some may not agree with me on this one, but if your lo is crying this much and seems to be crying hard, I would (only once) give him a recommended dose of Tylenol to see if he is in pain, perhaps from teething. But, if the one dose does not stop the crying, DO NOT try to give him anymore meds. and get a second opinion from a ped.

 

dee23 - February 9

danielle, i cant help you much, but i can sympathis. it seems to me as though every mother on this forum has perfect babies that are always happy, because i never hear anyone say that there babies cry. ds is also 7 months and had reflux, still has it to a degree, but it is much better and he never smells of acid anymore. he also has had 4 teeth coming through since 3 months, but there are still not through. today, i have the option of going to family houses or going to shopping centers, but im am, as always, scared to death of the stress ds causes me while i am out. he is grumpy most of the time like you say, but always seems the worst when we are out and about. my family and friends know him as the baby who only crys, and alot of ppl come up off the street to ask whats wrong with him, as if, he is the only baby in the world who is grumpy. and to make things worse, all i get from ppl is, 'well a baby always reflects the nature of the mother', like if the baby is upset all the time, well the mother has to be causing it. i am, and always have been a happy person, it is only when he starts screaming in the middle of a croud for hour an hour plus straight, when i get so stressed. alot of ppl dont understand that he crys always, before he falls asleep. if i initiate sleep, he crys, and he crys and fights it for about 10 minutes before he sleeps. this is soo hard on me because he sleeps alot and is always tired, and when i am out, i have to hold him while he screasm infront of everyone....and if i dont try to get him to sleep, he is super grumpy, and if he does fall asleep, it is only for 10 minutes and then wakes up grumpy....so at the moment i feel house bound. im guessing ur ds isnt this bad, as i havent met heard of or saw any other baby that gives there mothers a hard time like mine does. if he wasent so cute i swear id be pulling my hair out.

 

dee23 - February 9

i should mention that he is also very healthy. does your ds laugh and smile alot too? i find that ds only laughs once in a blue moon and smiles here and there. i also try and play games with him, only to think 'what the' ?? because he wont have a bar of any of it. i wish there was some miracle cure for this as i am getting married in 3 weeks and ds is also having his naming ceremonie that day. you have actually made me feel that i am not alone in all this, im happy to chat to you about it more.

 

ssmith - February 9

Why is he crying? There must be something wrong for a 7 month old to be crying SO much. I think I might take him to the Dr. and have him thoroughly checked out. Are you sure the reflux is gone? Poor little guy.....something has got to be wrong. I hope, for both your sake, that it gets better.

 

AmandaManns - February 9

Danielle19 I can totally feel your pain. My son just turn 1 on Dec. 20, but when he was first born and up until he was about 6 months old all he did was cry. The doctor said he did not have colic, but he cried all of the time. If he was not eating or sleeping, he was crying. He was not a big sleeper, but he loved to eat. It does get easier with everyday, but there were days when I would call my mom crying because I did not know what to do with him. My best advice is to let him cry sometimes. A baby has never died from crying, so place him in a safe place, walk out of the room, and just eat dinner, take a shower, or something because you have done all you can do and if you do not get a grip on yourself the baby will feel your stress. Just remember to take it easy, easier said than done I know, and it will get better I promise. My son now is the happiest baby ever and has the sweetest personality, back then I would have never thought it would be possible.

 

dee23 - February 9

well im sure danielle has taken her ds in to get checked and has been told that he is fine..like mine!

 

ssmith - February 9

But, he's not fine though, is he? A baby doesn't just cry for all but 45 minutes a day for no reason.....

 

Bonnie - February 10

I can tell you from my own personaly experience along with many reflux mommies that I know....pediatricians are not always the best at judging reflux. I can't tell you how many times I was told that Mason was fine and made to feel like I was making it all up. When I about had a nervous breakdown and was seriously considering giving up my child, since any mother would do a better job than me, they finally ran some tests. And boy were they wrong and suddenly singing a different tune. I am not saying people should think all ped's suck, heck, I worked for one for years. BUT....just because a doc says your baby is fine, does not mean it is. Danielle, seeing some of your posts in the past has made me question for a long time about whether or not your child has reflux. Did you know that it peeks at 4-6 months? So the odds of him outgrowing it are less likely. I am not going to tell you that you are dealing with reflux as I have never seen your LO. Maybe all of his teeth are coming in. Maybe it is somethign else. But I do know that crying that much is not normal. I would most definately seek out a second opinion. And if that does not work, then a third. If there is ANY possibility that you are dealing with reflux, it could do some long term damage. I pray it is somethign else and that it pa__ses soon. But for your own peace of mind, and your sons, get a second opinion. :)

 

jennyr - February 10

Maybe he is not getting enough food. maybe he is still hungry. Have you tried to feed a bit more. It is just a suggestion. I know colic goes away at about 6 months and if everything else is ok with him then maybe that is it or his formula is upsetting his tummy. I hope things get better for both of you!

 

Danielle19 - February 10

Hes been to the doctors about 100 times everytime he's fine they even did a ph probe thing to make sure the reflux wasn't the culprit, which im sure the reflux is gone to because he pretty much sleeps all night unless he gets his arm caught inbetween the rails or needs his paci, he does smile and laugh but it will go from smiling and laughing to screaming, i even had him to the chiropractor to make sure everything was in place, we've tried new formulas and more feedings nothing works, dee23 that makes me feel better that someone understands where im coming from, and my son does the same thing when he gets rocked for his naps he fights for about10-15mins then he goes to sleep, is your son crawling yet? dee23 keep in touch and if you find any ways to get your lo to cry less let me know, thanks everyone for answering

 

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