I Know You Are Going Through This Too

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bekysu - February 1

Hi girls. I'm sorta in a pitty place and a "this is your life and your kids are healthy, BE HAPPY!" place. I'm 27 years old and I have lost all contact with all of my friends. Partly because I started having children sooner than my friends. Partly because our babies are still so little it makes it even harder to have "playdates." My husband and my children at this point is really all I have and that is okay except my husband works constantly. I love my children and cherish the moments that we spend together, it's just that I am beginning to speak "baby" to everyone I know. The closest thing that I have as far as friendships go are you guys. So, thank you. Anywho, just feeling nothing like my old self. The winter weather is bad at giving me cabin fever!

 

Danielle19 - February 1

i know how ya feel, my husband works all the time, and my friends are always going out, my mom lives like amiles from me so i go over there alot mostly just so i can talk to an adult, but im starting back to work in a couple of weeks and im actually looking forward to it!!

 

boolie79 - February 1

i totally sympathize... i am in that same situation.. i live in a town thats about 8 hrs away from my family... all i have is my hubby and kids.. and a few outlaws.. oops i mean inlaws.. that i dont care for...this is where i go for support and just adult conversation!

 

missy - February 1

I know exactly how you feel--I am also 27. Me and my dh met when I was 15 and got married when I was 20;so I lost all of my highschool friends b/c I wanted to spend all my time with Kevin. We had our first when I was 24 and now have a 9 month old. I do have 1 very close friend and I also consider my mom my best friend-but I cant talk to her about everything!! It used to bother me that I didnt have lots of friends but now I am just fine with 1 close one--and like you said it is so nice coming on hear to talk with other people that are going through the same things!!!!Keep your chin up-spring is almost here!!

 

EMBERBABY - February 1

I am so with you, I'm 26 and we just moved here, and I know no one in this city! I am not working and I won't be until dd is atleast 1 year old (she's 4 months) so I really haven't had to the opportunity make any friends. You girls are all I got as far as girlfriends go ;0)

 

bekysu - February 1

I don't live near my family either. I don't live near inlaws and don't know anyone in the town that I live in and neither does my hubby. I try to make the best of it as much as I can but I would like to set something up in my new "hometown" for mothers and thier children (or fathers and children or mommies and daddies both) where we can get together once a week just to feel part of the world again.

 

bekysu - February 1

missy-I still have one very close friend who just had a baby herself. But, we don't live close. Unfortunatley, my mom is not my best friend. We are close but b/c we are just a close family and I have learned that the things that are wrong with our relationship are not going to change on her end, and I have to accept that. I think that it is really nice that you are close to your mom. I hope to have a wonderful relationship with my daughter. :)

 

Renea - February 1

bekysu--don't know where you live, but have you checked to see if there is a MOPS group around you? Or you could check your local churches to see if they have a women's group. At my church, I belong to a group of moms that meet weekly--for fellowship and discussion, but it is nice to have "adult" conversation.

 

missy - February 1

bekysu--I am sure you and your dd will be very close!! You sound like a great mom! That sounds like a good idea about getting a support group started- I hope it works out for you--good luck!

 

bekysu - February 1

Renea, there is a MOPS in my town held at the baptist church. It sounds great but, I'm looking for something a little less structured and a little more casual. I know someone from my hometown who was involved with mops and said that it was really religous. I'm not saying that I'm not a Christian but I make time for God at church. I would just like something like I said a little more casual like at the park. I don't know. Thank You though. I am considering looking into MOPS.

 

Renea - February 1

Have you checked out your local library? Sometimes they have "story time" for little kids, which would be great for your older child, but you could also get to know a few other mothers. Could progress into a playdate with them. I don't attend MOPS either--because it is too structured for me too.

 

mandee25 - February 1

I am lucky because all three of my closest friends and I all had babies in the same year. I keep in close contact with one almost on a daily basis since our kids are 5 weeks apart. I consider you guys friends too and this site is the only thing I use when I get on the internet other than email. Beckysu, maybe you could join a mommy and me group or try to start one yourself. I can't wait until spring either because being cooped up is driving me bananas!

 

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