Imaginary Friends

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BriannasMummy - January 14

My dd has 2 imaginary friends. She has had these friends since May 2005. There names are Davin and Stacy. They are absolutely REAL to her! When we go to the mall... sometimes they come with us. We have to buckle them in the seatbelts, we have to hold the door for them. The other day, my sister sat on Stacy, and Brianna cried like her heart had been broken. Stacy works at Canadian Tire, and Davin works painting houses. Everytime I ask her about what they look like she says the exact same thing.. Davin is 5.. he is black and has very very dark hair. Stacy has long brown hair and is 16. There used to be a third imaginary friend Gerald (Stacys boyfriend). However.. one very sad day he got hit by a car and died.. she talks about him .. like she has sincerely lost a friend. Lately Brianna has been blaming things on Davin, and tells us that he tells her to do things that arent very nice. Some people tell me that when a child has come up with imaginary friends that something very bad has happened to her. I dont think this is true.. however, I wanted to see what your take on it is. Does anyone else have children with imaginary friends? Just curious. ~Kristin~

 

BriannasMummy - January 14

I also forgot to mention that sometimes.. i hear her talking.. when she is all by herself in her room.. its them that she is talking to. She talks to them on a regular basis.. probably as much as she talks to me (thats a lot). Perhaps she just has a good imagination. ~Kristin~

 

Kara H. - January 14

You need to watch "Foster's House" on cartoon network. It is a foster home for Imaginary Friends when their children has outgrown them. It is very cute. You didn't say how old your daughter was. but since she has had them for almost two years I'm guessing she is at least 4, maybe older? While I'm sure their are children who use imaginary friends as coping mechinisms, my nephews' imaginary friends disapeared when he made real friends. The IF started at around 4 with the older one, so she enrolled him in preschool and arranged play dates. The younger one got his IF when he was in kindergarden and wasn't bonding well with the other children. Sis talked to the teacher about it and she started pairing him up with one or two other little boys that were also shy and gave them activities to spark play/conversation. Once he clicked with one of them, she started booking play dates for them as well. In both cases, their IF were gone in a matter of days. Maybe they went to Foster's House! :)

 

BriannasMummy - January 14

I have watched Fosters house.. Brianna loves that show! She doesnt really match up that her imaginary friends are kind of like the ones on the show though. Again.. to her they are real. BTW.. she is 4. She has her own little circuit of real little friends though. She has a lot of playdates with her little friends. When she plays with her little friends..she brings Davin and Stacy along, so they can play too. Perhaps when she starts kindgergarden they will go for a very long vacation.. who knows. I dont mind the fact that she has them.. they place nice together hehehe. Just wondering if anyone else could relate! Thnx for ur suggestions Kara! ~Kristin~

 

Kara H. - January 14

She may be a little more socially advance and desiring a deeper friendship than she has now. Her level of imagination suggestst that she is probably quite intelligant. Maybe her circuit should be cut down a bit and encourage more playdates with just one or two to see if you can deepen the connection a little bit to give her a bit more social depth. She sounds like quite the character! :)

 

EMBERBABY - January 14

What strikes me as odd is "Stacy's " age. I can see 5yrs old but 15? Why would your dd imagine a much older friend and also later kill off one of the IF? (hehehe) That is a bit odd. I am not gonna lie it freaks me out a little bit. LOL

 

BriannasMummy - January 14

EMBERBABY.. you dont even know the half of it. When she came to me with tears in her eyes.. totally upset that Gerald had got hit by a car.. that freaked me out. It was real!!! She honestly acted like she knew this person and loved them, and that she was actually hurt by his death. I think the reason that she says stacy is 16 is because she herself wants to be 16. She has a huge imagination.. and honestly, she doesnt act like any 4 year old around her. She is very very mature for her age. She can carry on a very intelligent conversation, and use huge words in context. I think Kara might have a point.. perhaps she wants deeper connections with her friends. Usually her playdates include 1 friend at a time.. but it might not be long enough to have a deep relationship. ~Kristin~

 

Kara H. - January 14

EMBER BABY - Too funny! Come to think of it, I never have heard of a kid offing and IF before! Maybe she is sneaking in some soap operas during the day!

 

flower.momma - January 14

I had an imaginary friend when I was little. His name was "feefee" and he was from Mars. He resembled a cloud with a face, arms and legs. I turned out just fine... I think..... I'm sure she is alright. It is perfectly normal. She probably thinks that 16-year-old girls are cool, and wants to have one as a friend. The killing-off part is a little odd, but funny. Sounds like she has a wonderful imagination and is a very intelligent, fun little person.

 

EMBERBABY - January 14

Kara, soap opera's is right. LOL.Kristin, sounds like you have a future writer in your hands. Word of caution: watch what you say around her, it might end up in book soon. LOL

 

aurorabunny - January 14

Ok Briannasmummy I read your other post before this one and was about to post but I didn't want to put any creepy ideas into your head. But now that I see you've already had the same thoughts I feel free to comment away...LOL, Honestly that would scare the c___p out of me. I'm a wussy about that kind of stuff though. I dunno though, they say little ones can often see stuff that we can't see?? The imaginary friends thing doesn't bother me as much as what you said about her suddenly destroying her stuff. Could be a stage though, I dunno, don't have much experience with 4 year olds other than just my ex-stepson. Hope everything ends up working out with this and you get some answers!

 

baby-love - January 14

My son also had an imaginary friend which he forgot about around age 7. I know many who have had kids with IFs and what I remember reading about them is those children tend to be more creative in life. My son was also very social using larger vocabulary than the average 4 year old. I say don't worry about it- eventually she'll talk of them less and less.

 

BriannasMummy - January 14

baby-love.. perhaps you are right.. perhaps one day shell just forget about them. I hear about them soo much, and she talks to them soo much I cant see it happening anytime soon! Until then Davin and Stacy will be coming on many vacations and trips to the mall with us! ~Kristin~

 

angelbebe - January 14

Wow! This is a really interesting post. My opinion, and it sounds like you are probably already doing this, don't act weird about it around her whatsoever. Encourage her to talk about it. She sounds like a very special and fascinating little girl. Do some research and find books on the subject. Might put you at ease in some way or another. Whatever you do, don't deny her of what she is feeling and sensing. It may just go away, or maybe she truly is seeing something that we can't? Good luck!

 

vicky9989 - January 14

i saw a programe on something like this, and the kid had IF's and they recond they were people who had pa__sed over. just a thought as ur lo seems to speak about them in detail! she seems very special!x

 

ash2 - January 14

Ever seen sixth sense ??....hey, it can happen.!

 

BriannasMummy - January 14

LOL.. thanx a lot Ash!!! I let her have these imaginary friends as much as she wants.. I ask her where they are.. sometimes they are here and sometimes they are not.. a lot of the time they are at work. She tells me that Davin hates to play "GIRL" games. Today "he" got upset with her.. because all she wanted to do was play barbies. I heard her yelling at him. It doesnt freak me out that she has them.. it freaks me out how she has real emotions towards them. vicky: id like to see this program you seen... do you remember what kind of a program it was? Thank you all for your opinions! ~Kristin~

 

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