Middle Of The Night Feedings How Do You Do It

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excited2bemama - September 27

My lo will be 4 months on monday. I am still feeding her once at night. She is br___t-fed and goes to bed somewhere between 6:30 and 7:30 pm and gets up for the day between 6:30 am and 7:00 am. She typically wakes up around 1-2am ( not the exact same time every night) and nurses. But lately she has nursed less and less. at this feeding. SHe occasionaly wakes up around 11 or around 4 and I don't feed her. Just pop the paci back in and reswaddle. I am wondering if I should try to elminate this feeding?? But on the other hand since I am br___tfeeding - I don't know if I can go 12 hours without nursing-and if I am going to get up and pump I might as well just feed her. I was just wondering what everyone else does. Do yoou still feed your lo in the middle of the night. I don't really mind feeding her once at night- just curious what everyone else does.- She is a chubby baby so she definately doesn't really need to eat per say- she is about 15 lbs at 4 months.- ohh and the dream feed idea doesn't work for us b/c dh and I go to bed around 9 pm. Thanks.

 

DDT - September 27

Hmm....won't you eventually need to go 12 hrs without feeding her when she starts sleeping through the night? If she is waking up at different times during the night for a feeding then she is probably genuinely hungry. If you notice that she tends to wake up at the same time then its habit. What about offering her a bottle instead of b___st at this waking? maybe its the closeness of you and the comforting suckling of the b___b that she wakes up for, because you say that she doesn't drink that much. Or just do a test run one night by giving her the soother instead and see if that works. Up until a baby is eating 3 meals a day (at about 7 months old) they should be able to go 8hrs without a feeding. Once they are on 3 meals they should be able to go 12hrs. Thats how the dream feed helps because once you feed her at 11pm she should sleep through until 7am. Could you dh give the 11pm bottle? you could express some milk for him.

 

mommybabyboy21 - September 27

my little one is bf through the night he is 3 1/2 months old and he goes to bed at 9 pm and always wakes up between 1 and 3 am to night feed, since we co-sleep when I notice he is looking for my b___b I help him find it and go to sleep. But also he used to finish one side of the b___b and fuss to tell me to switch sides so he can nurse on the other side but for the last two weeks he has been satisfied with just the one side between 1 and 3 am and then he wakes at 6-8 am to eat the other side and then sleeps until 9-10 since I am a stay at home mom I really dont wake him until he is ready. and then at 9-10 he wakes and eats both sides..

 

pebblesnbambam - September 27

HA... I tried the whole dream feed thing last night.. DD was up MORE than usual.. don't know if it was a fluke or what.. but she went down at 7:30.. dream fed at 10:30, up at 12:30, 2:30 and 3:30.. And she acted like she was STARVING each time. Usually she goes down at 6:30-7:00 and gets up at 1:30 then about 3:30/4:00 it all falls apart.. most the time move her into bed so I can get some sleep before getting up for work. Not sure where to go from here.. got the book everyone was talking about that helps kids sleep longer.. HA.. haven't had the time or energy to read it.. try to and I fall asleep!!! :) Excited... you milk will decrease after some time.. you will hurt the first few nights, but your body will adapt to no eating during the night.

 

excited2bemama - September 27

Like I mentioned- I don't like the idea of a dream feed b/c 1) I believe in letting sleeping babies sleep, and 2) dh and I go to bed at 9 pm- so we don't want to wake up 2 hours later to wake her up. I thought about having dh give her a bottle inthe middle of the night but she hates the bottle and usually cries for a while before she takes it- so that would probably just wake her up more. I guess I a__sume that once she is sleeping 12 hours straight she will be nursing less frequently during the day ( now its every 2 hours) and my milk supply will go down- I still have ALOT of milk. PEBBLES- you get the prize for the worst sleeper in june babies!!!

 

countrymom401 - September 27

What I did was cut out the early feeding at 1 or 2 and I found that now he wakes up at 4 or 5 to eat instead he is hungryer at this time and eats more then goes back to sleep and wakes up at 8 or 9 for the day. I don't like dream feeds because if I wake him up he is awke and doesn't want to go back to sleep. Works for some people I guess.

 

DDT - September 27

Yes, I suppose DF's don't work for all babies & parents. Some won't drink when half asleep, or are wake awake when picked up. My ds was always semi-asleep when picked up for his DF. He would drink, I would put him down again and he would put himself back to sleep without a peep. I did the DF from when he was 2-6.5 months old.

 

pebblesnbambam - September 27

Thank you thank you.... I seem to win the CRAPPY awards :) It is like.. when I am getting up and see it is 3:30 and she was just up... and won't go back to sleep... all the sudden she will flash me this great huge smile... (usually see through the one eye that is open... don't know why I do that... conserve energy??) and that makes it all worth it. Hopefully one day.. SOON she will do better!!!! Son was 11 mths before he slept thru the night. NOT doing that dream feed again.. she is not great at getting herself back to sleep.. so while good for some.. Not for us!:)

 

excited2bemama - September 27

Keira does that too pebbles- huge smile at 2 am- and if DH goes in to stuff her paci back in she giggles- ( I can hear it on the moniter)- COUNTRYMOM- I hope I can put off her eatig till 4-5 am. That is better than 1-2 am.

 

wailing - September 29

EXCITED--at 11wks ds miraculously started sleeping straight thru from 9-6am sometimes 10hrs w/ no nite feedings. It started when I tried weaning him off the nite feedings at 11pm (dissapeared) then 1am, and he started sucking his thumb. BUT, now we are back to waking up at all hours of the nite. PEBBS--I may be getting the award for "worst regressing baby". He was doing so well and now....we're back to square one. I hope it's just a growth spurt or phase. I really like getting normal sleep:-( Wish I knew what to tell u. If u find a solution to the mysterious 4 month old wakings let me know!

 

wailing - September 29

Oh, and when ds was sleeping so well, I did feel like my supply went down (I used to have too much milk too) but now i feel like its too low.

 

Cady - September 29

Well, I have an 8 1/2 month old who still feeds at least 2 times a night. He wakes up more than that too, but not to nurse. He's teething and is a very high needs sensitive baby. I've just come to terms with the fact that babies sometimes need to nurse for more reasons than to eat. I think teething is especially hard on some babies, like mine. So I just pull him into bed and we all sleep better, which is the ultimate goal, right? My little guy is thriving so I'm not worried anymore about what I should ot shouldn't be doing at night. As long as everyone in your house is happy and sleeping well, don't worry about changing anything. Every baby's needs are different, every family is different. You just do what works and change what doesn't. Enjoy nursing since it won't last long and you'll look back at this time longingly when your child is a toddler. ; )

 

suze42 - September 29

I agree Cady....all of these stages are so short lived in the big picture...i remember worrying about my DS (now 5yrs) waking alot...everyone told me to let him cry it out...Dh and i would fight at 3am b/c i could only go 15 min an dthen had to go get him...I had to follow my mommy instincts..and in the end..hes 5 yrs old now, sleeps like a log..and still my cuddle bug. Excited, i cannot do the DF either...i never wake a sleeping baby...and i do put her (and did it w/DS) down asleep...you just do what works..and if it doesnt then try something else. i think getting up once at 4mos is great...thats pretty much what my 3month is doing and i thrilled...also b/c of that feeding she sleeps in later than my DS ever did..this morning she woke at 5am to feed and then slept in til 9am...LOVE IT.

 

Val - September 29

Excited... our ds is 4 months (and 17 lbs!), exclusively b___st-fed, and we don't generally feed him during the night. He usually goes to bed between 8-9pm, and gets up between 5:30 and 7am. He gets restless a couple of times during that period (thumps his legs a lot), but he usually falls back asleep without help after about 5 minutes. (If he's restless for longer than that, or if he starts crying, then I do feed him, but it's really rare.) I usually do get up to pump at least once during the night, usually around 2:30 or 3am. It's kind of a pain, but I'm just thankful to have a baby that sleeps really well. (knocking on wood right now!)

 

excited2bemama - September 30

Yeah I probably shouldn't really worry what I should or shouldn't be doing either.. :o) Seems like everyone does something different anyways. The past few nights she has eaten MORE at her 1-2 am feeding and wanted to eat at 530 am too- HAHA- so I guess she isn't ready to give up eating in the middle of the night anyways. Thanks ladies for your responses!!!

 

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