My Son Doesn T Want Me

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KLC - February 9

My ds is ten months old and has been going to daycare for about 6 months now. I am blessed to have an awesome daycare provider. She runs it out of her home and is a great frined of mine. AJ has always been very attached to me and would much rather have me hold him or be with me than anyone else. Well, lately every morning when I drop him off at daycare he is literally jumping out of my arms to get to my gf and then when I hold my arms out to him to give him a goodbye hug he turns away from me and hugs her. Like he doesn't want me. I know that I am being overemotional and overthinkning this but I feel like he would rather be with her or as if he likes her better than me. How ridiculous am I that I cried all the rest of the way to work after he did that this morning? Why doesn't he want me? Then when I pick him up in the afternoons he will come to me but after he gives me a hug, he's squirming around to be sure he can still see her and tries to go back to her. Why? None of my other children EVER did this. Am I being stupid? I just feel so bad about this. I feel like a terrible failure as a mom that he wants her and not me :(

 

KLC - February 9

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ashtynsmom - February 9

My dd did this too around 9 mos old. I think it is the enviroment they like, not so much the person, BUT they a__sociate that person with the daycare. Make sense? Ashtyn is an only child, so she LOVES daycare where there are 6 other kids to run around and play with. My provider is also an at home sitter, and I am so lucky Ashtyn likes it there. I would rather her be happy to go than to cry every morning and make me feel aweful dropping her off. This only lasted maybe a month with her, though. She was always glad to see me when I went to pick her up, but every morning she was squirming to get out of my arms. I think she was just excited to be there and she knew she would get to get down and play with the other kids. Hang in there... it is hard, I know!! As if us working moms don't feel guilty enough.. we have to deal with this!! :)

 

KLC - February 9

I know...my dh didn't want me to go back to work so I am fighting myself here. I am beginning to think I should quit and stay home. The job as awful as it sounds is more for my sanity than anything else. Now I'm driving myself insane thinking that he doesn't want me. I guess I just can't be happy. LOL. I know its great that he loves it there but I just want my little mommas boy back!!!!

 

LisaB - February 9

I'd guess its just a phase and in a month you will be feeling horrible that when you leave him hes screaming and crying for you. That seems to be the way things are going for us.

 

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