Older Girl Question

11 Replies
torbman - February 15

Ok, here goes. My 12 year old is being a pain. She all of a sudden doesn't like eating chicken. We eat it at least three times a week and I do dress it up so that its not the same taste. She informs me tonight that she is NOT eating chicken tonight and that she just won't eat. Then she informs me that she will make her own dinner. I told her "no". Do you think I am being mean? I feel bad now and think that maybe I should make her something else, but if I do that then won't I be doing this everytime we eat chicken. Any ideas? what do you think? Please help.

 

SonyaM - February 15

I think you did the right thing. My four year old pulls this sometimes but in the end he usually gives in. I say give her one alternative. If she doesn't like what you make for dinner she can have a bowl of ceral. If you start being a short order cook I think you will regret it.

 

Steph - February 15

You know, I'd actually let her eat something different. I'd tell her that you'll compromise with her....she can have something different tonight but the next time you have chicken, she has to eat it. If she still is persistent about not eating it even with your compromise....then I'd make her eat it!! :o)

 

Steph - February 15

Also, I don't think that you should let it go on and on....kinda just have to eat stuff you don't like at times, but occasinally having something different is okay.

 

jb - February 15

I think you are right. If she doesn't want to eat what the rest of the family is eating, then she can go to bed hungry. If she doesn't eat the chicken (or whatever the meal is at the time, then that means no snacks or anything. You are the boss, not her!!! She will change her tune really quick when her tummy is growling at 8pm! Also, I would put a plate aside for her in the fridge in case if she changes her mind and you are already done eating.

 

jb - February 15

Also...I wanted to say, if it is something she really doesn't like (she tried it and doesn't like it), then I say sure, cook her something else, or do like Sonya says and tell her to have a bowl of cereal.

 

torbman - February 15

thanks Ladies, I tell ya, I am so glad I just had a boy. lol. I love my girls but my oldest is really trying my patience lately. I hope she gets her period soon, then maybe she will settle down. hehe........maybe, :(

 

CaliTrish - February 15

Sheesh, 12 years old, a pre-teenie. I'm guessing she's making a bid for independence. Did she say why she isn't eating chicken anymore? Those chicken farm doc_mentaries can't be pretty disgusting. As an adult, sometimes I have a hard time eating chicken off the bone - tendons, cartilege, fat, & such. Pardon my ignorance, being a new mom et al, but why won't you let her make her own dinner? I mean as long as it's nutrious, not poptarts and cheetos, is it really that big a deal? As I see it, it can't hurt to get them familiar with the kitchen early on.

 

sahmof3 - February 15

Maybe at her age you should just let her make her own... let her have a little freedom... but make it clear that you will not be made to do any extra work because of it. ie: she cooks her own thing and she also cleans up whatever dishes she makes in the process. Hey it could give her some extra cooking practice lol. Then again, my dd is only 3 ;-)

 

sahmof3 - February 15

Sorry CaliTrish... I basically said the same as you. Didn't read the other posts first!

 

Momof5 - February 15

I have a 17,14 and 13 year old daughters so I know where u are coming from... My 13 year old went through a phase where she didn't want to eat any meat.. I went along with it and after 2 weeks she couldn't wait to eat some meat.. I think at times they do this for attention. I cook every night and I usually make my kids eat what I make unless I know it's something they really do not like. I don't see anything wrong with letting her have everything else you make, but if she doesn't want the chicken maybe she could subst_tute it for hard boiled eggs.. Sometimes I will let them make something else, but they have to wash all the dishes they make and clean up what ever mess they make, that is usually enough to make them eat what I have made.. you know at this age they don't like to clean :)

 

torbman - February 15

Hehe funny enough I left it at, "you eat what we eat or go with out" and she came down for dinner and said she would try some. Then she ate like 4 drumsticks. What a kid. Thanks again ladies.

 

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