Please Help With Big Decision For Birth Control

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Mom of 4 - January 14

I have 4 beautiful children now and feel my family is complete, however at 30 years old I do not want to make a permanent decision to get myself fixed. My dh will not get fixed either. I get pregnant very easily on the pill, so that's not an option... I have been considering IUD but don't know anyone that has had one. I don't know what to do....can anyone give me suggestions or advice. Oh and my man won't wear condoms. My baby is almost 2 mths old and we have not started to get imtimate because we don't want to get pregnant, yet we are both being stubborn on the "who's gettin fixed issue"....HELP !!!!

 

amanda.d - January 14

Holy Mom of 4 are you sure your not my long lost twin? I am going through this exact problem. I just had our fourth child three months ago and our family is now complete. I am in need for some form of birthcontrol and the pill is not an option (causes my migraines). My DH is not getting fixed as he is our main source of income and must at all times wear a crotch harness at work. We do not want me to get fixed just yet. I have at one time in my life gotten an IUD and never had a problem. However when it came time to get pregnant it took over a year and a miscarriage to get that. I am right now going to go see my doctor on wednesday and I'm going to see if he recommends the IUD again. If it helps I will let you know what types of birth control we discussed and what I went with. :)

 

Jenn... - January 14

I did not want to get on the pill because the hormones aggrivate my migraines. I plan on having another baby in the next couple of years. I decided to go with the Copper IUD (Paraguard). I have had it for about 7 months now and I love it. Birth control is the last thing on my mind. I have had absolutely no side effects. When I am ready for another baby I can just schedule an appointment and have it removed. It is great!!

 

C - January 14

I would suggest you get the copper one Amanda because the one with hormones (Mirena) might cause migraines too. I think the hormones are similar. I wanted to get an IUD but I didn't have the money and my insurance doesn't cover it. I also read that there is a slight possiblity you may have a harder time conceiving after it's removed. I do want another child and I'll be about 35 when we try so I didn't want to take the chance. After my second child I will for sure get an IUD.

 

C - January 14

Jenn..... Please let us know what the procedure was like to have this inserted. Was it painful or just uncomfortable? I guess after pushing out a baby it can't be that bad?

 

amanda.d - January 14

I have had and IUD before and yes it was the copper one. It only took a year afterwards for us to get pregnant ( that is what he doctor recommended for waiting). I am really leaning towards an IUD again. I had to be put under general anesthesia to get it put in because I had to get dialated and my doc said it would be easier that way. To get it removed my doctor just pulled it out. It was no worse than a pap smear. :)

 

Mom of 4 - January 14

Thanks for all the responses so far - amanda.d - I am happy to hear that I am not the only one in this situation!! I swear my friends think I am nuts to not want to be fixed after 4 kids. I think I will try the IUD, but when I mentioned it to my doc he said, oh no...that I should get that shot (depo?) every 3 mths or go on the b___stfeeding pill. Let me know what you decide. I was thinking of calling planned parenthood, they would have all the up to date info on the IUD - like I guess I am wondering, do you have spotting? Does it hurt ever? Can you feel it inside? Can you get pregnant with it in?

 

C - January 14

My doctor recommended the IUD and she had one herself. I don't think I'd have a doctor give me one if he didn't think I should. I'd find another doctor personally. I have a lot of people that used the shot depo and hated it. I personally use the pill and have no problems. I just would love the IUD because you never have to think about it and you only pay for it one time for 5-10 years. If I get the 10 year one, I'll be close to menopause anyway.

 

Mom of 4 - January 14

Yeah, I'd be 40 if I got the 10 year one too....and I can handle making the decision of being fixed at that point in my life. I am going to talk to my doc again about getting an IUD and ask why he doesn't think I should have one, especially since I got pregnant twice on the pill.

 

amanda.d - January 14

i had no problems when i had my iud. it was wonderful, so i am seriously considering it again.

 

Jbear - January 15

I would never suggest that anyone get a depo shot...I had one after I had my first baby and I had a lot of problems with bleeding (this is tmi, but when I was in the shower the water would be red, I was bleeding so much) It wasn't just a period, it went on for the whole 3 months. I actually bled so much that I would be unable to leave the house, or sometimes even the bathroom. I saw the doctor about it and he said I'd just have to wait until the shot wore off. I had my tubes tied after I had my second baby...we knew our family was complete, and I had to have a c-section, so I figured they might as well do it while they were in there.

 

Jenn... - January 15

The procedure of having the IUD inserted was simple. It took maybe two minutes once the doctor was in the office and done discussing. It was not painful (just a quick cramp) and I did not have to be dialated. They have a small tubular thing they insert first and then they put the IUD in through the tube then remove the tube. An IUD is "T" shaped but the arms swing down so that it is straight when inserting but swing up so that when insterted it will stay in place. My doctor told me that as soon as it is removed I can start trying again. Call your insurance to see if it is covered. My docotrs office told me it would not be covered but when I called my insurance it was. I only paid $30 copay but normal cost with insertion is $500 which isn't bad when you figure it over a long period of protection coverage. I would definately recommend the copper one b/c of the fact that there are no hormones involved, that is the best part!

 

angela - January 15

i'm onthe some boat. i think i'm going to get an IUD also thank you for all the info. i only have one baby but i cant even think of another just yet :)

 

Barb - January 15

we use something called VCF (v____al contraceptive film) it's VERY easy...you just insert this film that is a spermacide and kills sperm before intercourse...it's good for 3 hrs. and there's nothing to remove...it dissolves! You get a pack of 12 for about $7.00 over the counter at any drug store...so far we like them : ) There is also a v____al insert called ENCARE...same concept, same price...but my husband had a reaction to it. Otherwise it was GREAT! Nothing permanent...NO hormones...just what we needed. I'm approaching 35 so the pill was out. We already have 3 children, but neither of us want to get fixed. This way if we do decide to have another one...there is no side effects or waiting time, it's very safe : ) Hope that helps you..

 

FF - January 15

Barb, do you happen to know how effective the film is? I'd like to try it if I go off the pill but I thought I remembered reading that it's only like 85% effective...

 

Mom of 4 - January 15

Barb - please tell us how effective VCF is - also anyone else who has had an IUD before - do you have normal periods with it? And in my case, I am b___stfeeding so would I be able to get the copper one? I tell you ladies, I am so tired of having to be the one worried about b/c - I wish they would invent a pill or needle that MEN could take!!!

 

Jenn... - January 15

Hey Mom of 4, its me again! LOL... anyhow I am BF too which is another reason I went for the IUD. I am just on my first period 7 months pp. No cramping!! can you believe it. It started out heavy the first day but probably b/c it had been so long. Today it is light like maybe it is ending, and I am on day 3. yay! Trust me, if you are tired of thinking about birth control, IUD is the way to go. No weight gain, no moodiness, no headaches, and when inserted properly it is 99% effective. Just make sure you find a doc that has inserted many and ask a lot of questions, I did!

 

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