Question About POTTY TRIAINING

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HannahBaby - June 16

My daughter is 17 months and im starting to think about potty training. I have no idea where to start. I know i should buy a potty and put it in the bathroom to familiarize her with it, but thats about as much as i know. I want to start her when shes ready, i dont want to watch her for signs all day that she has to go to the bathroom. I know everyone starts at their own time but what is generally the best time to start? My PED told me i should prolly wait until the baby is born (october 13) because a sudden change in her life could cause regression. Any advice would be helpful.

 

San - June 16

I don't have an answer but am interested in an answer as well. My daughter is 18 mths and I just had my new daughter on Tues so am hoping to start trying to potty train soon.

 

Narcissus - June 16

My best advice is that you should read a book about toilet training.

 

HannahBaby - June 16

ok. does anyone have any recommendations?

 

Nerdy Girl - June 16

I think that just having the potty there and letting her go into the bathroom with you will get her interested. My daughter started showing interest at about 18 months old. Then she just kind of took the lead with the whole thing. She was "poop trained" before she was 2. Unfortunately being wet didn't seem to bother her at all and it took quite a long time after that to get her totally "pee trained." She was totally 100% trained a couple months before she turned 3, and then my son was born and she regressed. She would wet her pants for attention when the new baby came. Now she is 3 1/2, back to normal, is totally potty trained, but still wearing a pull-up overnight. Most mornings she wakes up dry, but there are still enough wet pull-ups overnight that I am not ready to take them off of her. I really don't want to be changing the sheets in the middle of the night a few times a week! The best advice I would give is to make it easy for your child. Don't put her in tights or overalls or anything else that makes it difficult to get her pants down quick. Most kids seem to wait till the last possible second to get to the potty, and if they can't get their pants down then you will have a mess.

 

Nerdy Girl - June 16

Oh, yeah. And I know that there are mixed reviews on the idea of a little potty versus a seat for the regular toilet. We had a little potty, but the little seat lid came off of it and fit on the big toilet. We always encouraged our daughter to use the big toilet with the little seat adapter on it, and she was never afraid of the big toilet. Many of my friends have kids afraid of the big toilet because they have only used a potty chair.

 

Chelsey - June 16

My daughter was just over 2 when she was ready to be trained. Up until that point she showed no interest of going to the "big girl" potty... and would actually throw a fit at the site of it. My Dh went away for a week, so it was just me and my Dd... that's when I buckled down and made the whole week all about her. I sat beside her for many hours in total... while she sat on the potty and concentrated on the task. We read books, sang songs... whatever helped to pa__s the time. I noticed that when she knew that her pee or poo was coming, is when she got most aggitated and "nervous" about sitting on the potty. And I don't want to sound mean... but I didn't let her get off the potty. I knew if I did she would just go into the corner of her room and mess all over herself and the floor. The first tinkle she made in the potty was the hardest for her. After I made a big commotion and hoopla about it, she knew she did great and was actually excited to use the potty again. She was trained within the week, before Dh came home. At 18 mos. my daughter wasn't ready... even though I was ready for her to be. Waiting a few month's can make a big difference... especially considering that kid's can grow and learn so much in such a short time. Hannahbaby, if you are expecting another baby, it may be your best interest to maybe wait to start training your daughter. At least until the baby is born and everyone is used to the new schedule. My daughter was 3 1/2 when my son was born.. she never regressed with the potty issue... but she did in so many other aspects. I don't have any names of books to help you in your potty training decision, I never read any myself...

 

skn331 - June 16

I have potty trained a lot of children because I do home daycare. In my experience, it is better to wait until they are 2 or after. Potty training is hard work and a huge responsibility for the child. They feel a lot of pressure to get it right. They younger they are, the harder this is. Bladder control and being able to communicate when they need to go get easier with each pa__sing month. I'd err of the side of waiting. You dont want to stress her out with potty training right before you stress her out with a new sibling. 17 months is really young to be trained.

 

cab - June 16

> How to Potty Train in 1 Week. The Basics: Is your child ready to be potty trained? Here's how you tell: Is your child walking? Thats right you don't need to wait an infant usually starts walking by the age of 12 months to 18 months. Once they are walking you can start right away. How to start: If you've tried to potty train a child before and have run into problems these suggestions are for you. If your a first time mom WOW your going to sure impress others with how fast you were able to train your infant. As a mother of three I was able to train all 3 of my children early. My first son was out of diapers by 19 months, my daughter at 15 months and my youngest son at 18 months. All had success day and night. What you do: 1. Keep your house at a warm temperature 2. Let your infant walk around the house naked. (you may want to keep them in one room with no carpeting) 3. Let your infant do his business on the floor. (YES! I know it sounds messy but it works.) 4. Praise your infant the second he or she goes on the floor. 5. Repeat steps 1-5 several times before you introduce the potty. (keep reading I will explain why) By now your wondering why did I buy this ebook. Right? Well I am not crazy this method has been proven to work by myself and several of my friends. Let me go into the specifics of this method. Grab a coffee and enjoy the rest these instructions. Read them with an open mind and the will to have you child potty trained in just a few hours or days. First of all I know your wondering why you would let a child run around naked. Well here's the deal. When a child as young as one years old needs to go to the bathroom they don't realize the feeling of the need to go. By letting them run around naked a have the urine run down there legs lets them quickly become aware of the feeling that they are having right before that happens. Most children will not like the feeling and will start to cry the moment it happens don't let this discourage you. Monitor your child as he or she is running around the house naked. The moment the child notices the wetness on his or her legs. You immediately jump up and down and clap and smile and say WOW! Look what you did you pee'd. "Good girl" or "Good Boy" you pee'd, you pee'd" "Ya." If there are other family members in the house or other sibling have them do this along with you. Your infant will then pick up on the fact that they just did something good. Now this is the hard part most parents would want to immediatly rush the infant to the bathroom and sit them on the potty. That process will not train your child. Want to know why? The reason to this is the child will think that they are being told to sit still because they have done something wrong. They believe that they are on a time out and being punished this is the last thing you want to do. That is why some toddlers who are still not trained hide when doing their business because they are feeling that the potty is a form of punishment. Ok back on track. Now that your infant has pee'd on the floor wipe up their legs were they stand the whole time saying "Good boy/girl you pee'd" then let them wander off on their own. Now you need to clean this up. Just take a little bite of warm water mixed with some vinegar this will kill the odour clean up the mess and repeat. You may have to repeat this 2 or 3 times for some children and others my need a couple days. I am by no means saying that your child should stay naked for days at a time. You only need to do this once or twice a day. You will be amaze at how quickly with the appropraite praise your infant is going to then come to you and look at you an pee right at your feet. Yes, right at you feet and do you know why? Because they love the praise they get so they have remembered the feeling that they had before their had wet their legs so they come to you so that they can get the praise again. When this happens this is when you introduce the potty. I found introducing the potty in the family room first helped but limiting it to one room is the key. What ever room you have it in. Keep it there until the child goes to the potty on its own. For the purpose of these instructions we will use the bathroom as the room of choice. We have finally reached the final steps to potty training. Your infant comes to you and you know that it is because they need to go between the ages of 12 months to 18 months most infants will pick up the word pee really quickly because of the praise. When you've become acustom to your infants way of telling you they need to go. You just start talking to them its that simple. You ask them to pee in a bowl (potty) for me. Use simple words and make it sound like fun. Lets pee in this bowl so we can show Dad/Mom. Grandma/Grandpa. Take your infant to the bathroom point inside the potty and call it a bowl or a hole a word the your infant already knows. Ask them if they would like too. One of the biggest mistakes that I find some parents make is by forcing their child to sit on the potty. TRUST ME THIS WILL NOT WORK! You have to make your infant comfortable with the potty make them believe that it is a good thing. NIGHT TIME ROUTINES. Some children take longer to train through the night then others but don't get discouraged. My advice to you is once your child stays dry through the day lose the diapers completely. Switching back and forth only confuses the child. I know that we all have busy lives and convience has become habit. But by allowing your child to wear a diaper to bed when they all ready know how to potty during the day makes no sense. It is like telling them that the can still pee in the diaper. You can pick up mattress covers for your infants bed at any drug store or retail store to protect your mattresses. When you place your day trained child to bed. Let them potty before they go to bed and then tell them that you want to know if they need to go. Tell them that you want the bed to be dry. Kids again love praise so for the first couple nights don't get discouraged if they wet the bed praise them tell them look you pee'd, tonight though can you do it in the bowl or potty for me?" By praising your child this way they know that they can expect more praise if they pee in the potty. Now last but not least DO NOT GIVE UP I wrote this ebook completely from my experience as a mother and child care worker. It has not been offically tested to the best of my knowledge. However I have used this method as I said before several times all with success. I believe the reason for this is because your child does not have to be fearful of getting in trouble when the have to use the bathroom. If you make it into a bad thing that they have wet on the floor or wet in there bed or pants you are making the child believe that it is the need to go that is wrong and not the fact that it where they are going. By making the child comfortable in any situation when the feeling arrives they will not be afraid to tell you. Goodluck with this advice I believe if followed correctly you will have no trouble training your infant before he or she is 2 years old. If you have any questions or concerns feel free to email me and I will answer all your questions. Let me remind you again every child is different however it is known that every child loves praise so just don't get discourage and no matter how frustrated you are that the child has done his or her business on the floor don't get mad put on a happy face, clap and tell them how good they are. I got this off the internet

 

Ginny - June 16

My dd is only 4 mo, but I was a nanny in college to 4 children and the youngest 2 (twins) were potty trained while I worked for them. I tried to make it as stress free as possible. I began having "potty time" every day around mid-morning, where we made it a game. We'd take turns sitting on the potty with clothes on and making potty noises with our mouths. They thought it was a blast, and they would want to do it again and again throughout the day. Whenever I had to go, I would make a big deal out of it and say something like, "My belly feels funny - I wonder if I need to sit on the potty for a little while? I'm going to stop what I'm doing and RUN to the bathroom!" They became very curious about it, and what was going on in there. After this, I moved on to letting them sit on the potty without pants. I made sure that they were drinking alot of fluids so that they would need to often throughout the day. I didn't wait for them to tell me if they needed to or not, I just grabbed a bunch of books and told them that we would have book time in the potty. Whoever was on the potty got to pick the book, so they were eager in climbing onto it. If their business occurred while they were sitting there, I made a huge deal over it and jumped around and we sang songs. I made an idiot of myself over it - but they would be really proud. It didn't take very long for them to get the idea that this was something they could do own their own. We kept sticker charts for when they did go on the potty, and they got a cookie when they filled up a line. They had occasional accidents, but overall they were fairly excited about the process.

 

J.J. - June 16

Don't know all the specifics but my mom bribed me w/candy. Lollipops, as the story goes. She said it worked like a charm. I'm sure stickers and other treats work pretty well too.

 

Rabbits07 - June 16

I will tell you the method I used with my children since that is what most others seem to be doing. I didn't read it in a book or anything, I just did what seemed right and comfortable for me. When my kids turned 2, I would put the potty in the bathroom and show them how to sit on it. I would take them to the bathroom with me when I went and encourage (but not force) them to sit on the potty. During this time they wore 'big kid' underwear. If they were still having alot of accidents by the end of the week, we would give it a rest for about a month and then try it again. My youngest daughter picked up on it the first time around used the potty from then on without any accidents (she had just turned 2 that month). All the others were potty trained by 3, one was 3 1/2....but he had to have surgery when he was 2 1/2 so that set us back a bit. With the ones who didn't pick up on it the first time around, after we would take a break and reintroduce, it was like they would just all of the sudden 'get it'. This method worked for them because they decided when they were ready and it worked for me as it wasn't a big ha__sle or time consuming. I noticed that everybody seems to have different suggestions. I think that is because different things work for different moms/toddlers. For instance, I have a friend who used the method (or a version of it) described by cab and all her girls were trained by 18 months. I , however, do not have the time nor patience for that method (not to mention my entire house except kitchen & bath is carpeted!). But it works for others and may for you as well. I see alot of good suggestions. Just pick one that you personally like, or even a combination of the few mentioned. There are also several books. As for the not training until after baby.... I have heard about kids regressing. I've trained two right before the birth of a new baby and they never regressed. But, there were also other children already in the family so they were accustomed to sharing the attention. It may also just depend on the child. I have heard that it is harder to retrain a regressed child than to train in the first place, so you may not want to take the chance.

 

HannahISAbaby - June 16

Buy a video or a book

 

Debi - June 17

I wouldn't push too much before your new baby is born, but if you want to start I would get her the potty now and see if she shows any interest in it. What got my girls excited about going on the potty was picking out all the cute panties, they liked them. I did bribe with stickers too, I'm sure they probably will tell me that 's bad now and I scarred them for life or something. My oldest is 11 and EVERY year the "rules" change, the "experts". say this or that. You have to find what works for you, there are cute little potty books (and I think tapes too) that you could get her. Good luck,

 

Narcissus - June 17

I do not have any suggestions about which book is best, but I plan to buy one myself when the time comes. I don't want to screw up potty training and find out years later that my son is a serial killer bc of it, lol :)

 

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