Question From Parenting Com Interesting Responses

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ash2 - February 25

I was reading an article on parenting .com , and the question was " Should single parents be allowed to adopt children ? " ...The responses were not what i expected, but i was interested in knowing what you guys thought .....i dont want to list my opinion yet because i dont want to get feathers stirred, but please no arguing or fighting ! Just answer yes or no , and why you picked that qustion : )thanks

 

ash2 - February 25

not " picked that question , " but " picked that answer ".....( typo)

 

Brittany - February 25

I don't know why but I feel so bad saying no but I personally think agencys shouldn't allow it. I know there are a lot of single parents who LOVE their kids to death and can do it being single but personally, I just feel like a child should have a mother and father figure TOGETHER in their life. I grew up in a divorce and it was so hard watching my friends sit down at dinner time with their mom and dad together. I was jealous of the other kids who had BOTH parents cheering them on at a football game or taking them out to an amusment park etc. It was hard watching my dad struggle with money as a single parent (he was paying so much child support to my mom, thats why he struggled). Women can do it though, some women grow older and don't need a man in their life or vice versa but I just don't think it's fair to the child. Just voicing my opinion...thats what I do best!

 

sahmof3 - February 25

I think, yes. One parent is better than none IMO. My suspicious mind, though, would be leary of a single man wanting to adopt.

 

SonyaM - February 25

I say yes. As sahmof3 said, one parent is better than no parent. Can you imagine being a child in the foster system and turning 18 and then bam, you're out on your own. Never having a family to fall back on, go home to for xmas, etc. As sad as that is it happens.

 

ash2 - February 25

I see where you are coming from sonya...that is sad, and i didnt think about it. However, i believe that it is hard enough for a women to raise a child on their own if they are divorced, why would they want to put extra strain ? I also believe in the mom and dad household too. I too came from a broken home . My paretns divorced when i was 8 , and i longed for the days to spend with my dad and do " father things " with him . I wanted to go fishing, and hunting with him. I wanted him to throw me up in the air, etc.....But i do think that if a child gets of certain age ( like if they have been up for adoption for a long time ) and they are in school age, then they need to move on to some sort of family. Wether it be one or two parent households. I also wanted to point out that my friends had both their parents together and i missed that .

 

Rhiannon - February 25

I say yes. My parents divorced when I was 29 (last year) and I say that I would have rather had one parent growing up than have to deal with the insanity of my family now. Single parents have as much love to give as anyone. But I agree with sahmof3, I would think twice about a single man wanting to adopt. Just seems a bit creepy.

 

Heather F - February 25

I am adopted as are my three brothers, I was in the foster care system at 2 years of age, had I not been adopted I would have had no fmaily. I say by all means single individuals should be able to adopt, one parent is a million times better then no parent or family at all. These kids that have no families dont care if they have two parents they just want a forever family to call their own.

 

Heather F - February 25

Brittany - is it more fair for the child to have no family and then turn 18 and be kicked out of the foster care system with not a penny to their name? No home, no money for schooling...and not even a mom or a dad?

 

ninaatk - February 25

YES!!! YES!!!! YES!!!! Many Single Parents are amazing!!! I am really for adoption, I have a 3 month old dd and have always worked with children, I Plan to have another baby and adopt my third. However I am married. There are so many un-loved children out their who deserve a family - even if it only comes with one parent!! One parent is better than no parent!! Just my opion!

 

ash2 - February 25

Well as the law stands right now, you have to come from a 2 parent home to adopt. I think they are rising the concern because of how different people feel about the subject.

 

ssmith - February 25

I say "yes". Just because a man & woman are married, does not mean for one second that they are necessary fit parents. I know a couple who are constantly fighting and yelling and swearing, and the kids are often able to hear it. That is heartbreaking. If a single person is stable ~~ emotionally, financially etc etc. they shouldn't be denied the opportunity of raising a child just because they don't have a partner.

 

SonyaM - February 25

ash 2, I don't think you have to be a two parent family to adopt. At least I don't think that is the way it is in Texas where I am. I could be wrong but I don't think you have to be.

 

cae - February 25

Yes! If the mother can provide emotionally and financially for the child, the yes! Yes, the role of the mother will be harder, to be both mother and father, it is duable. If it means means one less child in foster care, absolutely!!!

 

cae - February 25

typos....grrrr.

 

Brittany - February 25

Heather F. I'm ent_tled to my opinion! If I was giving my child up for adoption, I would want a two parent (male female) household. I'd still be scared they would divorce later in life. I didn't think about the children who have been in foster care and NEED at least one parent so I guess I have a mixed response. What would you want for your child if you were putting him/her up for adoption? All of you "perfect" families out there, are you going to give your child to a single guy? I don't know, kinda weird in my opinion (MY OPINION)!

 

Danielle19 - February 25

i think if they already have a chid of there own, then no, but if they don't have any children already or can't have kids then yes everybody deserves a child to love, and every child deserves to be loved

 

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