Sibling Being To Helpful

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kimberly - October 11

My 4 year old doesn't seem jealous of the baby, but he wants to do everything for the baby. He wants to hold her all the time. If I put my hand under her head to help support it he gets mad and tells me to move my hands. If I let him help hold the bottle he will shove it in her mouth, I try and explain this is too hard and he then starts to pout and won't have anything else to do with her for a while. He also has tried to pick her up if she cries. I can't leave the room for a split second if he is near her because he wants to play with her. The other day I let him hold her on a pillow and I was sitting next to him helping my oldest with his homework and he tried to sit her up and burp her. I was right beside him but didn't notice at first b/c I was looking at my son's homework, well he had his hands under her throat and she was choking. It is becoming a real problem. I don't want to make him really jealous by not allowing him around her, any suggestions??

 

kelley - October 11

Kimberly, my dd is the same way, she too is 4 and loves to be helpful... I have her get diapers and try to comfort him when he is in the swing or bouncer and I cannot get to him right away (like I am going potty or something). I have found that these ways to be helpful are sometimes easier for her as she just does not really understand how delicate that he is. She also has been a little bit rough with him like your ds is to dd, but I think that over time it is a learning process for them as well. When I ask my dd what the first rule of her baby brother is and she will respond "we do not pick up the baby". The other thing that I do to make sure that I am getting in enough time with the older 2 (and to curb the jealousy) is to read to them while I feed the baby. Good Luck and I hope that this is helpful. :)

 

kimberly - October 11

Thank you Kelley! I will give it a try. Problem is if I put her in her swing or bouncy seat he tries to get her out when I leave the room. I have told him repeatly how dangerous it is but he still does it. He tells me he is big enough now.

 

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