SO Tired Of People ASSUMING Vent

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HannahBaby - January 31

I am so tired of people and their rude assumptions. I went to the grocery store today and went to the deli counter to get some cheese. In NY they have something called WIC (women-infant-children) It helps out women who literally make less than 10,000$ a year. It give em free milk, cereal, cheese, juice, formula, baby food, eggs etc. So today was the SECOND time that someone ASSUMED that i was on WIC. I asked for a lb of land o lakes American cheese and the deli guy says "you cant get land o lakes on wic you have to get the store brand" In my politest possible voice i say "well, I'm not on wic so i will take a lb of land o lakes thank you" I'm so fed up with people assuming that I'm just some teenager to got knocked up (twice). I'm 22 years old, have been married for 2 1/2 years, have a beautiful diamond ring and band, my husband makes very good money, i drive a new car, live in a big house and DONT have to work. I am so sick of people just assuming that young mothers are unwed and getting public assistance. I had a lady ask me the other day if i was my kids nanny. When i told her that they were mine she says "o you cant possibly be old enough to have 2 children" and i say "yea, I'm 22" and she goes "yes, you are not old enough to have 2 children" Sorry for the long vent. Im a little hormonal today, just got my first postpartum period :oP thanks for listening!

 

Deirdra - January 31

I am on WIC in MASS... and im married as well...so its not just unwed mothers either...and yes you can get londolakes at a deli i do it every time i use a check...im sorry people offend you...and your right they shouldnt a__sume...the poeple who are on WIC should be the ones who ata they are on WIC...not have someone just a__sume...i do admit thats rude...im glad your very well off too...

 

piratesmermaid - January 31

That's awful. I would have been absolutely steaming at that lady that said that you weren't old enough, twice!!!

 

LisaB - January 31

People suck and need to keep their opinions to themselves. You get it on either end your too young or your too old or you have too many kids or goodness only one. You can't please everyone however you can thank people for their rude comments and tell them to have a nice day. In those exact words You are then polite and getting your point across. As for the deli guy- hes a deli guy thats all he is to you so don't let it get to you!

 

sahmof3 - January 31

That would be very annoying! I hate when people a__sume! I had the opposite problem, though... last year I was visiting a friend's baby in NICU. My mom was in the NICU and only one person at a time could be in (besides the baby's mom, that is), so I was in the waiting room while she was in there and this guy came in and told me about his new granddaughter in NICU. Then he asked if I was there visiting my GRANDCHILD! OMG!!! I had just had my son at the same hospital a month earlier, so I, like you, put on my polite voice and said, "No, I just had my baby here a month ago, so it will be a LONG time before I am old enough to be a grandmother." And huffed away (couldn't resist lol). The nerve... geez, I don't think I look that old, but you can check out my myspace and see for yourself LOL.

 

mandee25 - January 31

I'm glad you figured out your period dilemma (from the other post). Anyways, yeah that sucks. Here in Canada we don't have the WIC program that I am aware of but it's not fair just because you are young that people are judging like that. It would hurt my feelings. On the plus side, you look young, someday you will appreciate people saying that to you.

 

LisaB - January 31

I forgot to add that when someone doesn't understand somethng they usually attack the other person (like the lady a__suming cuz your so young you can't do it) It is pretty normal human behavior to attack when you don't understand- happens on this forum ALL the time. Sad but true.

 

HannahBaby - January 31

Deirdra-I didnt mean to offend anyone on wic. In NY you really have to make like 10,000$ a year (which i made more than that year working at a gas station while in high school!!) So i didnt mean that everyone who is on wic is unwed. No Offense Ment :O)

 

mcatherine - January 31

They ask me if I have WIC all the time at the grocery store - and I'm 33, well-dressed with a platinum and diamond ring you can't miss and I don't even buy regular milk or deli style cheese - they just see cereal or formula. I think there are so many women that do use WIC that it may be automatic for a lot of them to a__sume it if they see a baby in your cart. Not that I think that anyone has the right to be rude. Besides, I'm pretty sure the cut off in any state is way higher than 10grand a year - thats not even minimum wage for one employeed parent and I know of people on it that have two working parents. I had someone ask me if I had my first son when I was 15. I was flattered since it would have made me like 25 at the time rather than my actual age of 31, lol! I had my first son at 22 - I was a college grad, but a lot of people a__sumed I was a high school drop out! People a__sume - it isn't always nice, but its what they do.

 

krc - January 31

what gets on my nerves is that I am not on WIC and when I tell people that, thye look at me like Im crazy. Just because I am a single mother doesn't mean I need every single a__sistance the gov't has! Besides, I dont drink milk, eat cereal, or peanut b___ter!!! WIC, in my opinion, should pay for more nutritious stuff!

 

USMC_wife - January 31

People may not know about WIC also. They may not know what the guidelines are for getting it. I seriously doubt some 16 boy working behind the cash register at the grocery store knows what the qualifications are.....he may a__sume everyone with a baby gets it. Ignorace plays a big role in rude/unnecessary comments. I'm 24 and married with 2 kids and people say all the time I'm too young. I just take into consideration that they know absolutely nothing about me or my life, so I don't worry about it.

 

Erynn21 - January 31

I have WIC and in WA state you don't have to make only 10,000 a year, they give it to many families in our state. PPl who aren't broke w/out a job, in our state a family of 3 can make nearly 3,000 and get WIC, it's a federal grant. I I think it's rude you a__sume that if you're on WIC you're a loser or something, that's what you make it sound like. I guess it's just like ppl a__suming your unwed because you're 22 w/ 2 kids, I'm 32 w/ one kid and get WIC. In my state I get my organic milk, cheese, many veggies, they even have a way for ppl to buy foods at farmer's markets. My husband has a good job, but it's nice that we can get this also, I just don't think it's a bad thing.

 

mcatherine - January 31

In NY it's a maximum yearly income of $18,130 for a pregnant woman - $24,420 for a family of 2, $30,710 for a family of 3 and $37,000 for a family of 4.

 

Kara H. - January 31

HannahBaby - Sweetie, get a sitter and take a day off! I have read a lot of your posts ove the last several months, and you are not yourself right now. You've been pretty edgy and defensive several days now. I'm getting a little bit worried about you. I know from your other post that you guys have been under some external stressors over moving, money, family and such. Their is actually a sliding scale for WIC. And living in NYC I'm sure the income level for WIC is much hiring than you realize. The cost of living is so high there I'm sure many more people qualify than actually use he program. For your state a family of 4 making less than $30, 825 qualifies and can even have $19,000 in a__sets not counting their home. Go get a masage, have a gla__s of wine, and let the hubby watch the kids. Take care.

 

Kara H. - January 31

Oops! mcatherine's numbers are right, mine are not - I was in the healthy family site which offers other benefits.

 

HannahBaby - January 31

LOL, Karah. Not defensive!! I don't need a maid :O) Thanks for thinking of me though, i do have a lot on my plate (my dad's chemo check is coming up and my grandmother just died last week) but im fine. I just looked up the guidelines as well (mccatherine) and am surprised that someone who makes 30,000$ for a family of 4 can still get wic. My brother and his wife applied 6 years ago and they were told they made too much money. I know that they makes less than that but maybe its changed in the past 6 years. I already said that I didn't mean to offend anyone, but you don't know where i live. The grocery store that i go to is between a REALLY nice part of town and a REALLY bad part of town, So most of the people that go there ARE on wic, and the other drive Mercedes (which i do not) I don't know, This has happened to me more than once and i don't think that its fair that's all. People a__sume things it almost always hurts someones feelings. Erynn21, you are SO lucky that you can get wic!! Like i said i would have LOVED to get it when my daughter was on formula, it would have saved me sooo much money. The people that need help should be able to get help. I wasn't knocking WIC or people on WIC. I was knocking the jacka__s behind the counter who a__sumes that every young person with children is automatically getting public a__sistance.

 

Deirdra - January 31

I didnt mean to make it sound like i took affense hannahbaby...sorry im a little hormaonal as well...sorry...but WIC is wonderful...without it i dont what i would have done...my son is on Nutrmigen and thats $26+ ...

 

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