Somthing All Mothers Should Be Aware Of

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disneymommy79 - March 7

We’ll as most of you know about my 3 year battle with my ex and the California courts for my girls. After a lot of research I think this is something that all woman and mothers should be away of. It has just recently been brought to my attention that what has happened to me as far as not having any contact with my children seems to be happening all over the US. Mothers that have been staying at home , sole providers for there kids are having them ripped away buy the courts just because the fathers of the children go into court and ask for full custody of there children. I have to tell you some of the stories that I have heard when looking into this subject were unreal. Last year in the NY family court a woman had her 1 year old twins taken away because the father that had never even seen the twins went into court demanding custody and making false statements. The court sided against the mother without even looking into anything. Just like what happened to me. It has also been brought to my attention that it is very rare that woman get custody of there children only in a few states are they still listening to mothers. I think this is something that every woman with children must know and we need to fight for our rights as mothers and woman. And we need to protect our children . I have to tell you after being a stay at home mother and my kids being everything to me and to have this happen was absolutely devastating not to mention I question everything about myself and my right and my ability to be a mother. But now I do know that it wasn’t my it was just something that happened to me. Anyway If you would like to know more or read other stories about this epidemic happening in the US. Go to //canow.org/famlaw_report/famlawreport.php

 

Mellissa - March 7

I'm sorry you had to go through that! The same thing happened to my sister. She lost custody of her two children to her abusive ex because when she let the kids go see him for summer break (in a different state), he filed for custody and gave the court a fake address for her. She wasn't made aware of it until it was too late, so the judge granted custody to that a**hole! Are you straightening things out? Have you gotten back in touch with your children? Again, I'm so sorry this happened to you!

 

disneymommy79 - March 7

no not yet , I cant even talk to my girls.:( its been 2 years sence. And my ex was abusive and he is still stalking me and my new husband , its been almost 4 years that we haven't been together. Its unreal what is happening to the poor children. How about your sister did she get her kids back?

 

SonyaM - March 7

WOW!!! That is shocking to me. I live in Texas and I only know one child who lives with their father. My bil only got joint custody of his child and the mother was a druggie who had taken him out of the state many times. The judge read a magazine during the trial. Of course this was about 17 years ago. I hope you get your kids back soon.

 

Mellissa - March 7

oh my goodness.. i am so sorry. are you living in the same state as your ex? Is there any way possible to get a modification to the ruling? Do you have a lawyer? I just can't imagine what you must be going through. The day anyone tries to take my children away from me is the day all hell would break loose!!! My sister's ex-MIL sent the kids to her on an airplane a couple months ago and hired a lawyer on behalf of my sister because her son (my sister's ex) has two children with his new wife and beats them and her..and she is getting cps involved.

 

disneymommy79 - March 7

Im going back into court soon. I moved because I was scared to be in the same state as my ex. He started hara__sing us really bad again online and such after he found out I was pg. He is nuts. I must tell you that he is remarried and still spends all day looking at my piczo page and myspace. I have to ask myself why. My husband has tracked him being on my pages everyday for months more then 30 times a day like all he does when he Isnt working is going to my pages. I don't really know what to think about that. It concerns me that if the court were to side with me that he is such a lose canon that he might hurt my girls just so I couldn't have them. And I will tell you that he will never get anywhere near my son. their is no doubt that he will try to hurt him. :( Its really sad that the courts just ignore everything that is right there in front of them.

 

Mellissa - March 7

Yeah, you definitely need to bring up his mental stability in court. I understand just what you mean about him hurting your girls just so you can't have them... look at that dad who crashed the plane with his 8 yr old daughter in it. It happens...and you know him, and what he is capable of.. so don't hesitate to let it be know that you fear for your children's safety. Do you have any record (police reports, etc) of him being abusive to you or your kids in the past that you could take to court with you? If you do get your girls, don't let him or anyone close to him know where you are. I'm sure you know all of that though. I will definitely be thinking of you..I know it's really hard to fight a custody battle when you live in two separate states!

 

sophandbob - March 7

I was really surprised by this. In the UK it is very rare for women to not be awarded custody. Men very rarely get awarded it, and infact there have been lots of protests about the fact that men very rarely get visitation right, especially if the couple weren't married. It sounds like two ends of an extreme. Good luck with your case disney.

 

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