Valentines Day Is Ruined I M Sad

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LollyM - February 14

Ok, so this is pretty much a vent and I guess it's not ALL ruined but it could be better. Well, first off, I got a bikini was to surprise dh with today but he ended up finding out last night (not a big surprise! lol) But we were going to have dd stay with mil for a few hours this evening so that we could just come back to our place and relax (haha, yeah, i know relax might not sound like quite the right word lol) Anyway, Dh got sick last week and so I got sick a few days later, and sure enough, dd is coughing today. Dd seems to still be feeling ok other than coughing and sneezing, so I told dh's mom that she could still watch her if she was ok with it, but she doesn't want her father to get a cold (he lives with her and is 80) so we have to reschedule. Yeah, so it sounds like rational thinking but i'm still upset. Ugh. dh gets sick ALL the time and then dd and I catch it from him. he gets sick WAY more than his brother or sister. I just know that it's because his mom fed him formula while she fed the other two br___t milk. It's like, HELLO! It's been proven many times that br___tfed babies have a better immune system for the rest of their lives! I hope that she sees the results of her decisions now. I almost feel like she should just suck it up and watch dd anyway because I want to think that this is all her fault but I know I am just being a b*tch. She just doesn't get it though! She's always like, "I don't know why Jacob gets sick so often... he has always been that way". Isn't the answer clear??!! I'm just frustrated because I wanted to have a date with my husband tonight! We got engaged a year ago today so V day is really special to us. Thanks for listening =/

 

rl- - February 14

ok I know your venting about the fact your dd is sick and sorry for that but you should not blame the fact that you dh gets sick cause he was formula fed I have fed all three of mine formula and they are not sickly kids none of them maybe your dh needs to take vitamins or something to boost his immune system but it is rude of you to blame formula and I bet I am not the only non-bf that is gonna tell you this

 

ashtynsmom - February 14

I was not bf, and neither was my dh. We are two very healthy people.. in fact, I am NATURALLY immune to chickenpox. Never had them, but the dr did a bloodtest to see if I needed vaccinated ( they were going around at dd's daycare) and I am immune. My dd was only b/f for 8 weeks, and the only times she has been sick was 2 ear infections, and she is is almost 13 mos old. NOT TOO BAD if you ask me. In fact, our ped said the average child has 3-5 ear infections A YEAR... so she is under that, too!! I am not upset with you, but I think you really need to re-evaluate your reasoning and not generalize that all formula fed babies/people are sickly. That is just not the case.

 

rl- - February 14

oh also one other thing you bf your dd then why is she getting sick when your dh gets sick shouldn't her immune system be stronger???? Bet that kinda b__ws your theory there huh!?! you must be new on here cause putting down formula feeding is not really a great idea.....

 

Steph - February 14

Ummm, sorry your v-day is not working out as planned, maybe you guys can reschedule for the weekend? I'm going to second rl....My daughter was ffed, never got sick (never had an ear infection), my 7 month old is b/fed w/ supplements of formula and he just got over a double ear infection and RSV. DD is now 8, and rarely gets sick.

 

luviduvi - February 14

yea, I don't b___st feed either b/c I couldn't. Literally....One b___st doesn't excreat milk. I hate to think that someday my dil or sil will blame me when one of my kids gets sick. My question is...if your dd got (obviously) b___stfed, why did she get sick? Sometimes, some people get sick more than others. eg: school teachers...sick all the time. I know you are hurt that you can't spend the night alone with dh, but does it really all fall back to your mil's decision to not b___stfeed? P.s...I am not taking this personal or anything, my kids are very healthy so I can't say this offends me b/c there is no validity to it. I hope you have a better V-Day

 

Shana B - February 14

Yeah, I have to agree with rl on this one. I was really starting to feel bad for your situation but now I feel like I'm a bad mother b/c I didn't bf (well I did but only for 1 month). I don't normally get involved in things like this but I had to put my 2 cents in here. I didn't bf my daughter at all and she's perfectly healthy. Maybe the judgments need to be toned down a little.

 

luviduvi - February 14

oops-rl looks like I was typing while you were. We stated the same argument about dd Heehee

 

Hi - February 14

Sorry your day has been so bad.But yeah rl- is right it isn't the formula to blame.I also formula fed my kids they never get sick.Now me on the other hand have had a rough winter this year.And I was b___st fed.So that b__ws that thoery.Your husband should take vitamins like rl- said and you should too.I even give them to my boys .Maybe thats why they don't get sick much.I'd rather take care of a sick baby vs an 80 yr. old man too.So I can kinda see her point.Colds can wreak havoc on the elderly.It will still be a special day for you guys.Hope your day gets better.Take care.

 

Erynn21 - February 14

Yeah I was b___stfed and was sick all the time, so you can't blame you dh's poor immune system on being fed formula. I am sorry you had plans, but welcome to motherhood, it really isn't about only what you want anymore. I know you know that, but maybe you could do something special as a family.

 

LollyM - February 14

I'm sorry you guys. I should have thought before posting that! I think dh does need vitamins. He doesn't eat allot of fruit. It's true that dd got sick, but she doesn't get sick every time dh does and usually it doesn't last nearly as long. I'm really sorry if I hurt anyone's feelings. I have been on here for almost a year, and I know that allot of people ff for whatever reason, I shouldn't have just started spewing the way I did! It was inconsiderate and I'm actually glad to see that I was wrong in my theory. I'm usually one of the least judgmental people on the planet! I don't know what came over me. Guess I'm still not perfect =/ Thanks for still supporting me even though I was so rude. Deep down I know that it's not mil's fault, I guess I just want to blame her because she blames me for things all the time. Sorry again, and I'm glad that your babies are all so healthy! I'll get dh on vitamins asap. I got him some vitamin c about a week ago, but i don't think he's been taking it every day.

 

luviduvi - February 14

Well, if you are like me, you want to blame your MIL for global warming Heehee! I'm not angry...you are aloud to post whatever you want on this forum. You were just saying how you felt...:-)

 

rl- - February 14

no harm done...try getting your dh zinc it is great for the immune system. sorry your evening was postponed but good luck for next time ( :

 

LollyM - February 14

thanks luviduvi =) I would deff blame my mil for global warming! lol. She does burn fires when we have "spare the air" nights in our area... that always upsets me!

 

LollyM - February 14

thanks to you too rl =) I will deff look into zinc. I'm so glad that everyone on here is so open and able to forgive so quickly! Especially after I was such a jerk! You guys must be awesome moms =)

 

mcatherine - February 14

How often does he wash his hands, choose fruit and veggies over junk, exercise, think about work, money and bills, argue with his wife or mother, drink alcohol, drink water.....??? Honestly, I could go on and on about the millions of things that could make your husband sick other than being formula fed- including the fact that it's flu season and everyone in the whole d__n country is sick.... Obviously, you're disappointed - but just because you don't have a babysitter doesn't mean it can't be special. I happen to have a 6 month old baby and an 11 year old son and somehow I have still managed to celebrate both of our birthdays, our anniversary, and a very romantic New Years Eve with dinners, candles and mind b__wing s_x - all while we were at home with no sitter. So, if you just want to go out then it doesn't matter when you do it, but if what you really want is a special Valentines Day - then make it special.

 

rl- - February 14

well Lolly M I have seen too many threads go real ugly on this subject and hey I have put my foot in my mouth more than once LOL so no biggie I think most of the trolls that start trouble have moved on and I don't see the need to be nasty to anyone on here even if I don't agree with what was said ( :

 

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