Weird DH

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Ginny - June 29

OK, I am wondering how unusual this situation is. Background info: I have been a little overweight mostly since puberty. If I take a hardcore exercising class, the weight begrudgingly comes off, just to reappear the exact second I miss a class. I've never given myself a hard time about it, because it's just about 15-20 lbs, and I generally feel pretty good about myself. And DH has always been really sweet about telling me I'm beautiful no matter what. To my amazement, I have lost an incredible amount of weight since having the baby and br-feeding. I'm really not trying to rub anything in, because I'm as surprised as anyone. Well, when it first started melting off, my dh would joke about me losing my "luscious curves." Then I lost more and he joked about not being able to find me in the sheets. Now, I am about 15 lb less than before I got pregnant, and he looked at me with a worried expression and asked, "How little do you plan to get?" And I told him I had no idea, since so far it has been beyond my control. He said that he's happy I'm healthy and that I feel so great, but that he misses my "roundness." WTF? I kept pressing him for details and to explain what he meant, and he said that I just look "right" with a little weight on me, and that he even misses my preggy belly? What the *%^$???? Has anyone else's DH said things like that?

 

cae - June 29

Congrats on the weight lost. Some men just like curvy women. Nothing wrong with that. He sounds like a sweet guy. I use to be very thin before I had my baby, and now I weigh an exta 10-15lbs. My husbands does not mind it, actually he likes it, he says i am more curvey. We are women we need curves!

 

AprilMum - June 29

How big is your husband? He may be getting self conscious about his own weight!

 

Annette - June 29

Number one, I totally hate you, LOL.... we gave birth around the same date and I am still stuck will all the baby weight, although I am b___stfeeding, starving myself and running 3 miles everyday. Number two and also to my amazement, there are men who like flesh on the bones. My DH is one of those. Before getting pregnant I was 102 pounds and felt OK with my body. Now I am 118 and feel terrible because I am very very short and 1 extra pound shows off. I thought DH would not feel like looking at me again and happens to be that after I gave birth he keeps telling me how well I look with some weight on, that my hips are very s_xy now and that he loves my bigger b___sts. He also asked me not too lose too much weight because he likes me more now ... who knew??? My brother keeps nagging his girlfriend about a fat roll much smaller than if I pinch the skin of the back of my hand. A friend of mine, who is married to a slightly chubby girl told me once "We, men, like skinny to look at, but fleshy to touch"

 

YC - June 29

Congrats on the weight loss. I am so JEALOUS! I dont think it's anything t worry about. You dh sounds wonderful. Men are attracted to a certain type of wamn...just like we all are. He fell in love with you a little heavier than you are currently right? He is probably used to that. There are plenty of men out there who like "a little meat on the bones" lol. Maybe it's a cultural thing because I am black and have only been with black men and the mahjority I know like a "healthy woman". LOL!!! Thank goodness for me because I have never been small. It sounds to me like your hubby will love you no matter what. I wouldn't worry to much about it. Sounds like you feel great and hubby will adjust to the new you. Congrats again!!! What's your secret?

 

Rabbits07 - June 29

I only weighed 87 lbs. when dh and I got married. After I had our third baby I didn't lose as much weight (stayed above 100) and dh remarked that he liked me with "a little meat on my bones". Some men are really turned on by larger women. My husband used to work with a man that was abolutely crazy over plus size women and he was just a little fella.

 

rl - June 29

Hi let me tell you I was always on the skinny side and when I got out of my bad marriage and finally got with a wonderful man that I am now married to I put on a bit of weight not tons mind you just filled out some I at first felt fat cause I was so used to being boney skinny until my husband told me he liked me better since I put on a few pounds that yes I had a more womanly figure and he just loved it so your hubby sounds like mine just likes a few curves my weight seems to go up and down not lots just sometimes I am skinnier and then I will gain a bit again now mind you I am 5' 4" and right now weigh 124 so I am by no means fat my hubby told me he would love me to gain 10lbs I said no way!!

 

Mary - June 29

I think Hollywood and magazines and TV have alot to do with how self-image "should" be. Today, the average size in Hollywood is a 2! Back in the 50's and 60's Marilyn Monroe was such an icon and she was a size 6! Women with curves look healthy and look like a woman, not a skeleton. My DH and I love to look at women and we both agree to the ones with "meat" on their bones compared to the ones with their boney hips sticking out. It's a big turn-off for us. Congrats on your weight loss! Thats a great accomplishment.

 

Suzanne - June 29

Lucky you. My DH wants me to look Ethiopian and I am just 8 weeks postpartum.

 

Bonnie - June 29

So....who wants to borrow Ginny's DH??? :D

 

bbelmore - June 29

I'm 5"7 sitting at around 145 pounds, about a size seven... I've always been somewhere in and around that weight, never much more, but for awhile in my late teens I was very depressed and weighed 111. Everyone said I looked gross. As the weight came back on, the compliments rolled right back in. I was lucky enough to only 17-20 pounds with the pregnancy ( not sure exactly, cause for the first 5 months I lost weight) and within two weeks I was pretty much back to normal and still wear the same clothes I've been wearing for 5 years. DH never says anything unless I complain, whereupon the only thing he says is " if you don't like it, go to the gym" Beauty is subjective, I say as long as you can look in the mirror and be content with what YOU see, it doesn't matter.

 

Ginny - June 30

He is really sweet, but until you all said so, I guess I was taking that for granted! I guess I should stop teasing him about being a "chubby chaser" now. . . LOL!

 

bbm - June 30

To Suzanne. I hope your DH looks like Brad Pitt to make those kinds of demands!

 

Maggie - July 2

Hi Ginny, I don't mean to scare you but I lost a lot of weight quickly after giving birth and it was because I developed gallstones during pregnancy. My dh kept telling me that although my body looked great, something was very off about me. I didn't go to the doctor about it until I had an excrutiating gallbladder attack. I wound up in the hospital for 5 days and had to have my gallbladder removed. I'm only mentioning this to you because I am concerned. You sound exactly like me. I thought I just had a stroke of luck and pregnancy raised my metabolism. I wasn't dieting or anything. I have also been slightly overweight since puberty (around a size 12), and now almost 5 months after having my dd I'm a size 6. I think you should mention this to your doctor just to be on the safe side. Oh and I had the surgery when my dd was 8 weeks old.

 

Rabbits07 - July 2

Maggie, a similar thing happened to me only it was about a year and a half after I had my fourth. I had lost down to about 123 lbs and had remained there for about 8-9 months. Then I just started losing weight at a rate of 2-3 lbs. per week. I wasn't dieting or anything...only having a lot of nausea...but I was still eating good. My doctor made me keep a food log and repeatedly asked me if I was bulimic or anorexic because the weight was falling off of me so fast! I lost down to 97 lbs. before they finally discovered I had gallbladder disease.....by that time I was having horrible attacks of pain and nausea. I had surgery to have my gallbladder removed and gained about 7 lbs. back, but that was all.

 

Ginny - July 3

OOh, that sounds serious! Thanks for the tip ladies, I'll bring that up with my dr.

 

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