Looking For The Truth

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LollyM - April 26

I am 25 weeks now, and have been thinking about by birthing plan. I just wonder how bad labor really is and what it feels like. I want to know the gory things that might happen so I can be prepared to the fullest! I think that if I know what to expect, I can be more ready to handle the pain without medication for as long as possible. I would rather get through it naturally, but of course I am open to changes if the pain is just to much when I get there! Anyone want to share how their labor felt and/or have any tips? Thanks!

 

Jamie - April 26

My labor story...I was induced at 37 weeks due to pre-eclampsia. After I'd been laboring for about 15 hours, I asked for the epidural. It only took on one side - so on one side, I felt nothing, on the other side, I felt full-force contractions. The whole time, I was begging to get up and walk around; I just knew that was what would help the pain, just to be off of my back. Unfortunately, because I had the epidural, I wasn't allowed to get up. I even told them to stop the drip, because it wasn't effective anyway, and they still refused to let me get up. After 24 hours total of labor, and 2 hours of pushing, I ended up with a c-section. My plan for next time - screw the epidural, cause it didn't take anyway, and the contractions I felt weren't that bad, and would have been a lot easier if I'd been able to labor the way my body was telling me to - on my feet.

 

pbj - April 26

I went into labor at 39 weeks. I was a risk or pre-eclampsia and had to do a 24 hour urine catch all day Sunday. My doctors appt was Monday morning and it was just to turn in my urine and check my blood pressure, but all night Sunday I had uncomfortable, slightly uncomfortable, irregular contractions. By Monday morning on my 30 min. drive to the doc's office they became painful and 3-5 minutes apart. Of course, as soon as I got there they stopped...I had hoped I was dilated and ready to go to the hospital...no such luck. I was checked by the doc and was 75% effaced and only 1 cm dilated. He stripped my membranes and said it more than likely be the end of the week so sent me on my way. DH and I went to eat breakfast and of course they started again, I went to the restroom and had lost my mucous plug. All day I had contractions off and on and finally at 10:00 pm we headed to bed knowing that I should try to get some sleep, because I'd probably go by the end of the week. I no sooner fell asleep when my contractions kicked in full force, I woke up thinking I had to poop, then when I stood up I realized it was something I'd never felt before, and my back hurt so bad I wanted to cry...so I woke up DH and we timed my contractions for 1 1/2 they were 3-5 minutes apart. I quickly realized I was back laboring and it hurt very badly...I felt nothing in my belly. I took a shower, cause God only knew when I'd get another one, it felt great the contractions ceased a bit while I was in there. When we got to the hospital I was checked out and was 100% effaced, but only 2 cm dilated...luckily they didn't send me home they just had me do a bit of walking. Walking felt great after being put in a bed to monitor my contractions, it killed my back to lay down, each time I had a contraction my DH had to lift my back off the bed. So at about 1 am I was walking and returned to triage at 2 am and was dilated 4 cm...so I was then taken to L&D and asked, no begged for an epidural. This is the kicker since I had to do a 24 hr urine catch and the results weren't back in, they needed to test my platlets, which should've only taken 5-10 minutes...this was like 2:30 am. So at 3:15 the nurse comes in and says that they haven't gotten to my sample yet, but it would be soon. The contractions were getting so close together I barely had time to breathe or get a break...I was dilating really fast. I was checked again and was at 6 cm. Finally at 4:30 am the nurse comes in and says that they lost my blood and we need to take another sample. We were p__sed, but within 5 min. the lab called said they found it and it was ok. I got my epidural at about 5 am and was immediately again checked and was 7cm. Of course then my labor stopped...but to be honest I didn't care, I'd lay in that bed for two more days as long as I didn't have to feel that pain again. My epidural was great, I felt pressure and that's all, obviously I couldn't walk cause I couldn't even feel my legs, but I didn't really have a need to walk anyway. At about 10 am they decided to give me a little pitocin to get going again and by 1 pm was ready to start pushing. My dh thinks he's a comedian so we laughed as I pushed my dd out, of course by the end I was out of breath, but I didn't feel any pain at all, a little discomfort as she got lower...I pushed my LO out at 1:42 pm. It was great! I had 1 st_tch and of course amazing soreness. Personally I would do an epidural again, and really I hadn't planned on it, I wanted to try natural, but it just didn't work that way. Not everyone has luck with epidurals and not everyone needs one. Some have a higher pain tolerance than me...actually I will say probably most women have a higher pain tolerance than me. Before labor I'd never even had a broken bone or st_tch...it was the first time I'd ever really been in pain. Good luck, I know you'll do great no matter how you decide to deliver.

 

Chelle - April 26

Throughout my whole pregnancy I had high blood pressure, so as my 3rd trimester approached my doctor watched me very closely for signs of pre-eclampsia. Thankfully I never developed it but at 37 weeks my blood pressure started to rise even more. My Doc decided to induce me at 38 weeks. When I went in to be induced I was 50% effaced and 1 cm dialated. I started with cervidil (sp?) to help fully ripen my cervix, that was put in at 7pm. Mild contractions started about 2 hours after it was in. At 7am the next morning they started pitocin. Right away my contrations got very painful and were about 2 min apart. I got an epidural at 2 cm. because they were so painful. To me contraction felt like a combo of really bad menstral cramps and really bad gas pains. The epi was wonderful! The pain went away but I could still feel the pressure of the contractions. I started running a mild fever early on and my doc was keeping an eye on that. As my labor progressed my fever slowing went up and my baby's heart beat was starting to go up. At around 1 am the next morning I was at 9 cm but my baby was still at -2 station. My fever was up to 101 degress and baby's heart rate was still high. In my doc's opinion, my pelivs was to small for the baby to decend (at least without a couple hours of pusing). That added to my fever and baby's heart rate, my doc decided to do a c-section. I was terrified, that was the one thing I didn't want to happen. My husband was able to sit by my head while they were doing the c. My little girl was born at 12:55am August 4th. She's almost 9 months old now. The c wasn't to bad while it was being done. I didn't feel any pain, just lots of tugging and pulling. Recovery was hell, I really hope I can have a VBAC for my next child. My tip would be pack for 5 days, just incase. Good luck!!

 

Bonnie - April 26

I was SO terrified of labor. I honestly believe it is different for everyone. My labor story would sound terrible. I was induces, I had the shakes real bad (I hated that), threw up a couple times (very embarrasing when you can't get up to go to the potty), my epidural didn't take the first time so they had to repeat it, pushed for 2 1/2 hours and ended up in a c-section. And yet....it was so wonderful! Once my epidural kicked in I was pain free. I was chatting away with family when I was at 10 cm! The epidural wore off (slowly) a couple times but they were quick to keep it going. I had a brilliant nurse and OB and my c-section (once they cut me open and I kew I wasn't in pain) was actually fun! For somethign I was so terrified about, I really enjoyed the experience and miss it all......my advice, do exactly what you said and go in with an open mind. If you don;t need an epidural then don't get one, but if you get too bad then certainly get one. Make sure you like your nurse as they are the closest one to you to make your life easier. I hope your experience goes as good as mine did!

 

pania - April 27

Hi, I have two boys, both were delivered without drugs, the best advice I can give you is to breath through your contractions (as painful as they are!!!!!) but that is what dilates you. This worked for both my labours and I did not labour for long... roughly two hours each. I also have an att_tude about my body that I can handle any challenge. oh and if you can... walk around during your labour, it all has to do with gravity which is supposed to help. I also believe that without the drugs your mind is not clouded or your muscles are not numb, so your body and mind know what is happening and what to do...... I hope this makes sense, good luck!!!

 

Been There - April 27

I've gone through labor twice already. Once naturally and once induced. Although I'm not going to say the pains don't hurt, I was able to take them because I was mentally prepared that I would have to withstand them. With my first, I started labor around 3 am, went for a walk around 6:00 pm, that really go the contractions to going. I wish I had taken that walk sooner. Anyway, I headed to the hospital about 8 because I had to time the contractions for an hour at 5 minutes apart before I was supposed to go. The ambulance arrived and I was already at 2 minutes. 8:20, after being checked, the dilating was going full speed ahead. They offered an epidural that wasn't administered until 9. It took that long for the anesthesiologist to arrive. I was ready to push by 10:15. The only thing that held up the actually delivery was the epidural now kicking in really well and slowing contractions. But she was out by 10:55. I honestly didn't even care about the pain of the contractions the moment they were over. Everyone is different, so just prepare yourself by knowing 1) this is going to happen whether you like it or not, 2) it will be over (maybe not as soon as you'd like, but it will end), 3) by the time you meet your child, you'll feel it was worth it. Do I believe in having the drugs? You bet! If you can walk around as long as possible while in labor, I would do it. I think it gives you something to do and something else to concentrate on. Plus, you don't have to feel restricted to the bed. That's just my opinion.

 

LESLIE - April 27

HI LOLLYM IM LESLIE I HAD TWO C-SECTIONS ONE ON JULY 19,2003 AND ONE ON JANUARY 3,2006 MY FIRST ONE THE CONTRACTIONS ARE LIKE PERIOD CRAMPS BUT WORSER I HAD MEDICATION CAUSE MY BODY IS SENSITIVE TO PAIN LIKE THAT WHEN YOU GET TO THE HOSPITAL THEY PREP YOU SHAVE YOUR PUBIC HAIRS BALD THAT SUCKS THEY STICK A CAFITER IN YOU SO WHEN YOU HAVE TO PEE YOU WONT HAVE TO KEEP GETTING UP YOUR PEE GOES IN A LITTLE BAG YOU WONT FEEL IT ONCE ITS UP THERE THEY PUT A STRAP AROUND YOUR BELLY TO TRACT THE BABIES HEART RATE AND YOUR CONTRACTIONS WHATS ANNOYING IS THEY COME AND CHECK YOU LIKE EVERY HOUR THATS HOW IT FELT TO ME TO SEE HOW MUCH YOU HAVE DIALATED SOMETIMES YOU MIGHT THROW UP THEY GIVE YOU ICE CHIPS THATS ALL YOU CAN HAVE TILL AFTER YOU DELIVER I WAS A SOLIDER THREW THE CONTRACTIONS TILL THE LAST 3 HOURS I COULDNT TAKE IT ANYMORE PEOPLE WILL ANNOY YOU I WAS SCARED AS HELL MY FIRST TIME IF YOU HAVE TO HAVE A C-SECTION IT WILL BE OK YOU WILL JUST HAVE A NICE SCAR UNDER YOUR BELLY BOTTON TO LOOK AT ANYMORE QUESTIONS JUST WRITE ME BACK AND ASK I WOULD LOVE TO TALK TO YOU OH I WAS IN LABOR MY FIRST TIME FOR 28 HOURS LONG TIME .

 

Jamie - April 28

I just want to contradict something Lesley said - they don't necessarily shave your pubic hairs. Mine were left unshaven during my c-section.

 

Been There - April 28

Mine weren't shaved either. Just directly where they knew they'd be making the cut.

 

pbj - April 28

I wasn't shaved either. I don't think they do that anymore. They used to believe that pubic hair harbored germs when its actually better to have hair because it keeps germs/bacteria from entering the v____a.

 

pbj - April 28

Oops sorry...I guess you were referring to c sections.

 

bbelmore - April 28

I was in labour three weeks ago w/my first child. Yes, it hurt, but to me it wasn't that bad Because the pain is there less than a minute then you have a couple mins. to recuperate.The worst part was the pressure on my rectum from his head. I had a walking epidural at 6 cm when contractions were 2-3 mins apart. Itwas great, but did nothing for the pressure. I pooped and peed when I was pushing (you asked for all the details!) Had to get an enema (hadn't been able to have a BM for three days, the pressure of his head was obstructing the way out) and a bladder catheter, both of which were very uncomfortable. If you have an option, opt for the jacuzzi. It worked for me until I got the epidural. By the way, I gave birth four hours after the epidural, eight hours into my labour. Good luck!

 

Bonnie - April 28

They halfway shaved me before my c-section which looked really wierd. But then again, it was jungle city down tehre as I couldn't reach, lol.

 

LollyM - April 29

Thank you for all the honesty everyone! i think it's best to be as prepared as possible =) Cangrats on all your babies! I'll keep checking for more info until my time comes to experience labor in august =) thanks again!

 

falafal0 - May 1

If you ask for women's labour stories and ALL the details, you'll have plently to read! This is my fourth pregnancy, so I'm not sure which labour you want details on. My labours have all been hard and fast - first was five and a half hours, second was justove 2 hrs and my last was 45 minutes in a car. This one, I'm a little nervous about! The pain for me is incredible, really unbearable. Labour started with contractions every 10 minutes or so for about an hour with the first, then got much closer quickly. After about three hours, they just came on top of each other with hardly any break. Got to the hospital 7 cm dialated, waters broke but it was hard to do that, and baby was born - fairly straight forward. Next time I had only about eight 10 minute contractions, full on mind you...then got to the hopsital at 9 cm dialated, too late for medicines, waters too strong, artifically ruptured, baby born 20 mintues later. With third, felt a slight pain at 6pm, just one, the day before she was due. Went to sleep, woke up jsut after midnight with immediate tremendous contractions on top of each other, no joke. Just one long contraction. I couldn't walk, carried to mother in laws' car which was parked behind ours (called when I felt the first twinge, so had to wait 10 minuts for her to drive over from a couple of suburbs away to watch other children...). Sped to hospital through lights etc with no break. It wasn't until the waters broke which was when I beame really quite frightened. Myother babies had been born almost straight after, and as soon as I felt the waters break, I felt her head shift down. I was sitting up, kept moving around with the pain though, and all of a sudden started grunting and groaning with pushing. Couldn't control it, my body took over. I could feel the head. If I was lying back for her to come out, she would have then and there. I said, I feel the head, "DH yelling at me to cross my legs (idiot!) and to stop pushing. Can't control it - grunt! Stop the car! There's no way I'm delivering this baby! etc while racing to the hopsital. Found the hopsital minutes later, but when the nurses came running out, couldn't move. Within 10 seconds, they'd stripped my pants off, cranked back the seat and caught our daughter while my DH was looking through the screen thinking holy cow, not here! It was 45 mintues from the first contraction. She broke my coxic bone being born like that and I've never recovered from it. Now at 24 weeks pregnant with our next son, I am feeling it already. I have planned a natural home birth this time around. I am not getting into any cars! Yes, I've thrown up once, pooed and yelled and screamd, grunted and groaned. Blacked out from the gas they tried to give me when I was too far dilted for it to make a difference except to space me out...useless stuff. Pethadine didn't work either, too far gone. So I have no choice but to have a natural birth I guess. I've spoken to heaps of women with heaps of different experiences. Some feel major pain, others not so much...one women hardly feels anything at all, I kid you not. So jealous. Others who have had three day labours off and on, and ones like mine, very quick. I've never needed st_tches or after care but have had problems with mast_tis with each baby, gotten worse each time. I am getting ready with a prescription this time around so I can start taking them as soon as it kicks in. The afterbirth pains will be bad too for a day or so (but with your first you don't have to wrry about that). Just plan waht you can and go with the flow when it happens. It's all you can do. Good luck with your experience :)

 

sara b - May 1

I went in to be induced because I was overdue and my non-stress test showed I was having contractions. I was 3 cm. and 100%. I went home to wait it out and never felt a thing. The next day i went back and I was 5 cm so I couldn't go home. The doctor broke my water, got me an epidural and I watched TV and read a book until I delivered a few hours later without ever feeling a thing!!! I wish you the best!

 

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