Here's my story:
Conceived mid-May after @ 1 month of trying, and 5 months off the pill. Pregnancy progressed normally (sore b___bs, progressively higher HCG, felt like Wonderwoman, etc).
At 6 weeks, had an ultrasound to narrow the dates - showed an empty sac. Came as a total shocker! Midwife suggested 3 possibilities: blighted ovum, ectopic, or normal pregnancy with dates off. I knew it wasn't ectopic, since there was no pain...was hoping the embryo was just antisocial, and would show up later, like some of the other stories on this forum.
Had another ultrasound at 7 weeks, confirmed empty sac. Had HCG levels checked, they were still within range for 1st trimester (@30k) but dropping fast. Slowly came to terms with my denial ;-)
Had 3rd and final ultrasound at 9 1/2 weeks, which showed sac still intact, but bleeding was about to start. I knew before going into this appointment that it was over.
Since I had had a therapeutic abortion 5 years ago that was incomplete and resulted in a horrendous experience with hemmorage and pain that resulted in a visit to the ER, I knew I would not go that route, but chose to wait and miscarry naturally.
From the time of the first ultrasound, I waited a month, walking around with a big supply of maxipads and pain killers in my knapsac....Finally at the last ultrasound with the confirmation of internal bleeding starting, and experiencing cramping, I knew it was a matter of days.
In order to ensure the process was relatively smooth, I consulted various sources on the use of herbs, and decided on the use of black cohosh and blue cohosh. These herbs are often used in labour by midwives, and have properties that increase blood flow, control contractions, and open the uterus. I found they did indeed make the process go more smoothly; miscarriage occured yesterday/today, with pa__sing of several large blood clots, what was left of the sac, and a very small amount of blood. There was significant pain, but nothing I couldn't handle. Not nearly as bad as the previous time, thank god. Also, not as bad as the experience relayed to me by the woman that sold me the herbs - she miscarried naturally and it took 40 days and 40 nights of bleeding - of biblical proportions! I knew I couldn't last that long....which factored into my decision.
I would add that I followed the manufacturer's recommended dose exactly the first time, and actually reduced the dose the second time due to a sharp headache that had developed. (Be aware that there is conflicting information on the use and safety of blue cohosh in particular, and some sources consider it toxic and warn against it's use. Others consider it safe and effective. I figured it could not be any worse than the cancer drugs used for medical miscarriages, and that was my personal risk evaluation/decision.
Also, some websites have questionable information on the dosage of these herbs, suggesting them in much higher doses to bring on a miscarriage - I would definitely *not* recommend this, since herbs can be quite dangerous when used in ways they are not intended.) I followed up with Red Raspberry tablet format, which was quite soothing to my sore insides.
Overall, I am glad I was able to take control of my situation, and be able to deal with it and move on. We are going to wait a month or two then try again. Funny thing is, hubby is more eager than ever to prove himself second time aroud, so some good came out of this unfortunate experience.
PS, In answer to Pam's question below, yes, a good friend of mine had spotting early in her pregnancy, and went on to deliver a lovely baby girl.