35weeks Nad No Heart Beat

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melpalmer7 - July 7

FIRST OFF, MY HEART GOES OUT TO ANYONE WHO HAS SUFFERED A LOSS. I ATTENDED MY FRIENDS BABYS FUNERAL IN APRIL. HER BABY GIRL WAS DELIVERED EASTER MORNING (5 WEEKS EARLY) AFTER HER HEART HAD STOPPED. THEY THINK SHE MAY HAVE CAUGHT A VIRUS, NOT REALLY SURE WHY?? SEEING HER DH STEP OUT OF THE LIMO WITH THIS TINY COFFIN JUST MADE ME SOOO SAD! I CANT IMAGINE GOING THROUGH THAT. SHE WEIGHED 8 LBS!! I CANT STOP THINKING ABOUT THEIR FAMILY, AND WONDERED SINCE SHE HAD A VAGINAL DELIVERY IF YOU GO THROUGH ALL THE BLEEDING AND MILK COMING IN AND EVERYTHING!!! DOES ANYONE KNOW! THANKS- AND GOOD LUCK TO YOU ALL!!!!

 

Lilu - July 7

Yes, you go thru it all. It's horrible, and when your milk comes in, it's a terrible remember that you have no baby to feed. It's so painful. I bleed for about 4 weeks and got my period at 5 1/2 weeks. I lost my daughter in August at 34 1/2 weeks. She was an unexplained stillbirth. I'm currently pregnant again and I'm 18 weeks. They are just testing me more for chrom. abnormalities but since she and I were healthy there's not much more they can do but rea__sure me this one is too. It's hard though... I wake up every morning and think "is this baby still alive, still growing." I'm doing my best to stay positive. I just think that this baby has an angel to watch over it. I wish your friend and her family the best of luck and the strength to get thru this sad time. All I can say is just be there for your friend, everyone is different but talking about my daughter made me feel better and still does. Just refering to her as a person, by her name. I miss her so dearly and it hurt that everyone just tipped toed around the whole situation. You'll get a sense of how she is and what comforts her. I'm just saying what made me feel better. Well... your a good friend for being there for her. Good luck.

 

Melissa G - July 7

melpalmer7, I'm sorry about your friends baby girl and hope they're doing alright. Lilu, just stay positive, this baby will be safe and healthy. Good Luck.

 

melpalmer7 - July 8

lilu-you were right. I saw my friend tonight and all she wanted to do was talk about her baby. she says it really helps to call her by name and told me every detail. she feels lucky because our faith believes she will be reunited with her little baby!! that is so comforting. she now says she wants as many babies as she can. thanksf or your imput, and good luck!

 

Lilu - July 11

Mel... aww that's awsome to read!! Thanks:)

 

mandie_21 - September 11

Yes Mel as well as the heartache of losing a baby, you also have to go through milk coming in etc. My baby died at 14 weeks but i didnt find out til i was just over 18 weeks. A week after my d+c i had milk coming in and ever since my d+c (on the 31st August) i have had bleeding. As Lilu said it is a horrible feeling thinking that the milk coming through should have been to feed your baby, it really is a horrible reminder. But it doesnt last for long until the milk dries up. Dont worry about your friend too much, just be there to support her as much as you can. Kind regards

 

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