For Those That M C At Home

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mamac23qts - May 3

Just curious for those that m/c at home. What did you do with the fetus. My husband and i do not feel right just flushing it down the toilet and are torn on what to do with it. Could anyone tell me what they did, any advice would help. Also the Dr. said they could send it to the lab for testing, but that to doesnt seem right, especially if it is just going to get thrown out.

 

Steff - May 3

First of all I am very sorry for your loss. How far along were you when you miscarried? If it was an early m/c, chances are it is not the fetus that you see. It is your placenta. That's what happened with me. I too thought it was the baby but realized the baby was too small to actually see. It was the placenta.

 

hcw - May 3

hi there mamac23qts - i'm so sorry for your loss... i too had a natural m/c at home but there was never really an issue for me about what to do as it was not readily identifiable. i don't know how far along you were, but at 8 weeks it's still very small and with everything else that comes out it's not easily id'd... at least it wasn't for me. my dr asked me to bring in a specimen of any part of what came out rather than it needing to be the fetus. i a__sume since you're saying fetus rather than embryo that it was older than 8 weeks, so maybe my input isn't really helpful for you... though it does start to shrink if you have a missed m/c and wait weeks for it to pa__s... hope something of this is helpful. best regards and take care...

 

mamac23qts - May 3

I was 10 weeks, so i guess it was an embryo, thanks for your response. I guess bwing a christian i am having a hard time deciding.

 

Steff - May 3

I know it is hard. I felt so bad just "discarding" mine. My boyfriend had to take it from me because I was just sitting on the toilet with my pad in my hand (with placenta) crying uncontrolably. Whatever you decide to do will be fine. Again, I am so sorry for your loss.

 

mamac23qts - May 3

I hope this doesnt sound strange but after discussing it with our pastor we decided to discreetly bury it in our favorite spot together, even if it is just tissue, it comforts us t some extent to do it this way. I have to say i have known many women that have miscarried and I never realized the pain that came along with it, it is just something you cant understand unless you go through it. I am so glad i found this to read, i have found it extreemly comforting the last 2 days. Thanks for eveyone out there, and sorry for everyone who has lost ((Hugs))

 

Steff - May 3

I think that it is really nice if you want to bury it. It is a very personal choice. I am glad that your pastor was able to offer you some insight and help you make the best decision for you and your husband. It is very true that you cannot fully comprehend the loss of an unborn baby until you experience it. It was definitly the most heartbreaking and trying time of my life. On what would have been my baby'd due date (October 15th 2005) I went out and got a tatoo of an angel. Something to comemerate my "angel" baby. Everyone does something a little different. :) I think your choice was right and I'm sure that it will bring you peace. Take care of yourself.

 

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