Am I Going To Miscarry

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Cov75 - March 2

Hi Can anyone help. I am not sure how far along I am pregnant, LMP was 22 Dec but as I have polycystic ovary syndrome I can't be exactly sure if I am 10 weeks as at today. I started spotting pink / brown discharge about 2 1/2 weeks ago and went to see a obgyn who said that bleeding was not normal and that I might be miscarrying. She did an u/s and found a gestational sac but nothing inside and ordered some hcg blood tests. 1st hcg (Mon) - 2100, 2nd hcg (wed) - 3100 3rd hcg (Fri) - 3300 but couldn't get this result till the following monday. Went back to see obgyn and had another u/s which showed exactly the same thing but said the sac was crumbling and showed nothing and recommended I have a D&C. I was hesitant as it seemed hasty and I felt she really wanted me to have the procedure as I was on travel insurance who were willing to pick up tab, I declined and said I would like to wait and would like another blood test. 4th hcg (Mon) - 6300 at which point she said just wait and not do anything till i return home. On the day I was to return home they would not let me fly until I got a letter to say it was ok, so had to go to ER who had better equipment (I didn't mention anything about the prior visits to ob as I did not want to delay my trip any longer and just wanted to get home) he said the sac measured 5 weeks and looked normal and high up in the uterus and as I was only spotting with no cramps it is common in early pregnancy. My last hcg (sat) - 7500 so did not go up double after 5 days (he said it was a bit low for 5 weeks but nothing to be majorly concerned about). Since then I have started to bleed red enough for 1 pad a day (4days) and have had a few clots. I am now back home and went to see my own GP who sent me to the hospital to get checked. Another u/s showed a sac but nothing in it but according to the measure of saturdays u/s this would make me 5.5 weeks. They couldn't be sure that I have miscarried so have taken another blood test but no results as yet. Does anyone have any advice or information on the low rising hcg and the bleeding with clots, is it going to miscarry or is there hope.

 

sososleepy - March 2

Hi Cov75. I'm very sorry you're here with us. 'd have waited too. You know that bleeding that much isn't a good sign, nor is the 5.5 weeks when you think you're 10. I'll skip my opinion on this one as I'm not a doc and your experience has been different from mine, but big big hugs. Let us know when you get that last hCG # back. Anything is possible, so don't give up hope until you have to, but...

 

sososleepy - March 2

I remember how I felt when I started bleeding, and over the next few hours it got heavier... there really weren't words that would have helped me then, and I'm sorry I can't think of what to say now, but I really am hoping with you.

 

Cov75 - March 2

Thanks, i think the waiting is the difficult part as you don't know how to feel. When you know you have miscarried is hard but i think the closure can set in then, just being in limbo for the past 3 weeks it has been gruelling and when i think they are going to tell me this is it, they don't, so still waiting. I did read another thread which said clots are the worst sign, so maybe i know the inevitable just need the confirmation.

 

sososleepy - March 2

Hey Cov. I can't imagine how hard this has been. Mine went fairly fast, extremely fast compared to what you're going through.. I had a brown smear, a tiny one, Sat. pm and I just knew because my pg symptoms were never like they were with my other 2, but mine are 11&12, so I thought it was just an older body until that smear. That's when I looked up mc.. then I had mild cramps, finally Sun afternoon I had bleeding that started gentle and got worse over the hours, as did the cramps. The doc did a d&c Mon afternoon. The whole thing was beyond horrible. When I called the doc that Sun, they said cramps and bleeding give you a 50% shot either way... but when you add in the ultrasound info it does scare me. That said, it isn't over till it is. Hang in there. Yeah, the clots don't look so good either. I'm hoping someone will jump on with a similar story and a happy ending - come on, any body out there??? Either way, we're here for you during and after limbo. I don't think grueling is a strong enough word...

 

sososleepy - March 2

As I read back Cov, that wasn't confirmation. Which way the hCG goes.... that will be confirmaion. Right now it's more of sitting on a very uncomfortable see-saw, sitting right in the middle, and it's wobbling at the center and you hope it will fall one way, think it will fall the other, keep changing your mind with the wobble, and just can't quite be sure yet.... am I close there? It was a most uncomfortable place while I was there. At least you found us here, and you can wait with company.

 

stefkay - March 2

Hi Cov, I'm so sorry you're in the midst of this right now. Like sleepy said, the waiting is the worst. I'm not sure what to say, but my honest thoughts based on what you told us is that this sounds like possibly a blighted ovum. Did any of the dr's mention that to you? I know PCOS complicates this because cycles can be long and crazy. There is a chance you could only be 5 weeks, but to see an empty sac that far apart in u/s's doesn't sound right...usually there is a yolk sac and or fetal pole at least. This is just what I have learned from my experience and tons that I have learned here and from my own research. I've heard many miracle stories here though!!! Something that I have heard from those who've had blighted ovums though is that it seems to be very hard for them to m/c naturally and that they often have to end up having a d&c. That's why I thought of it along with the hcg not rising very much. Hcg can continue to rise, even double when there is an empty sac. It seems so cruel to me....I just don't know...{{{HUGS}}}

 

stefkay - March 2

Ah, I meant to ask if your u/s's were v____al or abdominal? Vaginal sees a LOT more than abdominal in the early stages...

 

Cov75 - March 2

Thanks for your support. I had another bloodd test today and my obgyn will be calling me tomorrow. I think this will confirm what has happened this evening. I started bleeding heavier and had very bad cramps, not much fun as I was out with friends who didn't know so had to suffer till the end of the evening when I rushed my husband home. I just pa__sed what seemed a large clot when I went to the restroom. The bleeding has lessened and so has the cramps. I think its happened, i feel sad and relieved that this is finally onver which will most likely be confirmed tomorrow with the blood results. With it having gone on so long and not going as it should maybe it was better now than later. Finding solace in what should have been a happy and wonderful time is hard, but having pcos (irregular periods) gives me hope I may become pregnant again. Thanks again for your support, I will write again to let you now what is the latest hcg results.

 

sososleepy - March 2

Whoh Cov, you sound like me. The day I mc, we had company who brought 2 bins of maternity clothes to share... and I started bleeding while they were here (OMG). We went out to lunch, and it got worse and worse.. I kept going to the bathroom, and it kept getting heavier, and with clots. I was DYING. When they ordered desert, I nearly clawed dh to death trying to get away!!!!! I'm sorry, I know that as awful for you.. reading your post from there now. Ok, you win... I fished everything out of the toilet with the brush and looked, but lost the baby part in the pre op restroom day 2 and (exhausted) didn't know how to ask for a way to look there. For you hun, I hope it's all done! There is no adequate solace, but hugs, hugs, and big hugs. You can ttc again, you can become pg again, and it can work this time, or next time and so on. Join us at the clean slate part 2; some of us are ttc now, some waiting a cycle or so (I'm ttc now now now... or at least in a week and a half when I can start to watch for O in 12 or so days...) It's not ok Cov, but it will be easier with time, and easier shared here with friends who've gone there too (although we're all really different people, so expect that). Again, hugs.

 

sososleepy - March 2

as should have been was

 

stefkay - March 2

Oh, Cov...I'm so so sorry...ugh, I never feel like that even touches on the pain that this causes us. Like sleepy said, come to the Clean Slate as we're all kind of just starting over again together. Also, I do know of one girl who was on the first trimester thread with me and she has PCOS, she is probably around 16 weeks by now I think. She's very up on all the ins and outs of it.

 

Cov75 - March 3

Hi, I got my hcg result back and it has dropped to 5000. I have continued cramping a little since yesterday when I am sure I naturally m/c and am still bleeding but less that yesterday. Hopefully it should stop soon.

 

sososleepy - March 3

Hi Cov. well, it sounded like it, but I like to tend to cling to hope past when it makes sense sometimes and I did hope for you... At least the evil wait is over. Are you going to ttc with us? Hop on over to the clean slate part 2, although Stef ought to be making part 3 rather soon.... Very big hugs, and let us know how you're holding up.

 

teresa281 - March 4

Hi Cov, My heart goes out to you as it sounds like I am going through exactly the same thing as you at exactly the same stage. I was 10 weeks preg when all y symptoms stopped and I no longer felt pregnant. went for u/s which showed healthy 5 - 6 week sac but nothing else. At this stage I had no bleeding or pain. Bleeding started the following morning and pain has been on and off since. This all started 10 days ago and I am sure I have now pa__sed it naturally. Hav got to go back to hosp in 5 days for u/s to be sure. Dont really want to have a d & c if can get away with it. Just want to start feeling better - I am so bitter that this has happened to me but I know I am definately not alone , I know how you feel and it is the limbo part that is hard to cope with.

 

DownbutnotOUT - March 5

I am soooo very sorry for your loss whenever I read these post i get teary eyed and when I read about pa__sing large clots I can actually feel myself pa__sing them as I did with my m/c. I hope the best for all you ladies

 

Cov75 - March 6

Hi all, latest update, i had a little bit of cramping the following two days and bleeding has not stopped 5 days later but has lessened. I have a hospital appointment tomorrow and will find out if I have pa__sed it all or need to have a D&C. In all honesty I feel I can handle this all but seem to be faced with another problem. I have lovely in laws but they are just obsessed about how wonderful their granchildren are and as there daughter just gave birth about 5 weeks ago, I really don't feel up to having to hear about it all. I feel bad cause i even get a hint of jealousy. I can forgive my f-in law as he doesn't know i was pregnant and miscarried but my m-in law she should be moree sensitive about it all. After all I have just lost one whilst she is rejoicing in how wonderful her grandchildren and how strong her daughter is. I know its her ignorance as she feels i miscarried cause I am weak. Thanks for the vent. Thankfully they leave next week so this should help.

 

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