Chromosonal Problem Again

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Margo23 - January 23

Hello ladies. I am 35 years old. I have a 9year old boy from my first marriage. I had a very easy pregnancy. I got remarried 2 years ago. My husband does not have any children of his own and we really wanted to have a baby together. I got pregnant in August and then when i was 11 weeks pg, we found out that the baby did not have a heartbeat, so i had to have a D&C done. My doctor ran some tests and found out that we a had chromosomal problem( Turner 21) which usually does not repeat itself and my doctor assured me that i will have a healthy pregnancy second time. I just found out i was pregnant 5 days ago and we were so happy. Except 2 days ago i started bleeding and i misscaried again. Needless to say, i am devastated. Do you know anyone who has gone through a simular experience and if anything can help? Thank you. =

 

stefkay - January 23

Hi Margo, I am so sorry you are going through this. I just finally miscarried naturally today although I've known it was coming for a while. It's worse because I'm having to "catch" the tissue and take it to the dr's office for genetic testing, etc. I've had multiple miscarriages so it's important for me to get some answers. Only problem is that the stuff keeps coming and coming and I don't know that I can do this anylonger. Are you having the tissue tested from this miscarriage to see if it is the same problem?

 

kiza - January 23

Hi Margo, I'm very sorry for your loss. I have a similiar story in that I have 3 beautiful children including a set of twins. We decided to try for a fourth and after nearly 2 years we were pregnant again, I went in for my 20 week u/s to find my baby had no heartbeat. She had pa__sed a few weeks before, I had to be induced and deliver her, unfortunately they couldn't test for too much as she had been gone for too long but they could see that she had fetal hydrops. I was also told that this is something that is very unlikey to happen again. I conceived again about 8 weeks later only to m/c at 7weeks. After a few more months of trying we were pregnant again but also m/c at 7 weeks. After a barage of tests , nothing wrong could be found with myself or my husband. So we tried again, 8 months later we were pregnant again, I was watched very closely and things were going great, bubs was a real mover and groover. I went in for my 20 week u/s again, very scared. The tech pointed out the h/b and I instantly relaxed, she was pointing out all the other bits and bobs when she mentioned that his head was a little bit smaller than what it should have been, well I lost the plot. She brought in her boss who took over the scanning and he informed us they thought our boy had trisomy 13. He had a hypoplastic heart and holoproscencephaly and a cleft lip and palate. After speaking with my OB I was told he had no chance of survival and I would need to be induced again. They told me he would pa__s away during labour and would be stillborn. By this stage I was 22 weeks. After a very painful labour my son was born. He was alive and lived for 8 hours. Apart form his cleft lip and palate he looked like every other baby. After he pa__sed they did some testing on him and his chromosones were normal. My husband and I both had genetic testing done again, and this was also normal again. We have been told once again that this should never happen again, babies with these conditions usually m/c early in pregnancy. So since May when he was born we have been trying again, I'm a bit hesitant but I desperately do want number 4. I must sound like a real nutter going through all that and wanting to try again. But, when that maternal urge kicks in, who can fight it? I whish you all the very best for the future and don't be put off by my story, I'm hoping for a happy ending soon. Take care of yourself. Kiza xxxxxx

 

Margo23 - January 23

Kiza, i am soooo sorry for your loss. My heart goes out for you. People who have not gone through this don't understand what we feel. My girlfriends tell me that i should not worry so much. What' s the big deal, right? After all, i already have a beautiful son. Why go through the same ha__sle with changing poopy diapers and sleelpess nights all over again? But, they don't understand that when you feel that precious life growing inside of you and then suddenly loosing it is just devastating. My husband wants children sooo much. And i know that this is very hard for him too. His best friend just had a baby one month ago. He sends us pictures of his baby and i just want to cry. Take care of yourself. Hope things get better for all of us. Margo.

 

Margo23 - January 23

Stefkay, i am sorry for your loss. I did not have a chance to catch anything this time. I was just 4-5 weeks pregnant. If i did not do a pregnancy test, i would have thought that my period was just couple of days late. It probably was a chemical pregnancy and another chromosomal problem. I don't understand why this keeps happening. My doc told me that the first time was just a mistake. Do i need to be seen by a genetic specialists? I don't know what to do. :(

 

suze42 - January 23

Margo, HANG IN THERE!! You are still very young. I had 2 m/c after my DS4...and I was 40 and 41yrs old. The doc said I had "old eggs" basically they are flawed by age and dont make it far after fertilization. I never had testing on the tissue done b/c I m/c at home...but doc said it was prob. a chromosomal problem. The good news is that every egg is a different and new chance. My DH and I had decided not to try anymore and lo and behold...we had an oops. After alot of anxiety thru the first trimester I got thru it and we are now 15wks. So it is possible. Of course we will have some testing done to see if all looks okay...but we still have a very strong heartbeat! So plz dont give up...its very difficult to go thru these experiences...but will all be worth it when you do conceive and carry a good egg!

 

Margo23 - January 23

Thank you for your support, Suz. Good luck to you. Hope all goes well. Keep us posted.

 

stefkay - January 23

Kiza, oh my goodness...my heart so goes out to you. I guess sometimes there just aren't answers...and margo, the first probably was just one of those luck things and I've read that chemical pregnancies happen way more often then people previously thought due to the fact that there are all these tests now that detect so very early.

 

stefkay - January 24

kiza, I remembered last night talking to my step mom weeks ago about m/c and she has 3 children but miscarried 5 times before she had her oldest. She said she found out much later that it had something to do with some chemicals she worked with or xrays or something as a dental technician (I can't remember exactly what she said it was, but she knew). Then it seemed to stop when she switched jobs. Since your first 3 children, have you or your husband made any job changes? Have you moved? I just wondered if it could be an environmental thing, which I've read can cause miscarriages. It seems so odd since you both check out ok in your tests. I really am sorry you've had to endure so much.

 

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