IN YOUR 30 S AND TTC PART 4

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NVgirl - April 6

Just thought "IN YOUR 30'S AND TTC -- PART 3" was taking too long to upload so I decided to create "PART 4." Hope you can join in on chats we have going on in this thread!

 

NVgirl - April 6

Hey I need to vent... I showed DH my present of doughnuts and he said "Thanks for the thought" and walked away. I was angry. So then within 5 minutes we were in a tiff and he said I was being a psycho [email protected] who’s hormones are out of whack. I said what is the problem, he said its in front of me (meaning me). OHHHH!!! I then said what was wrong with the doughnuts? He said they aren’t fresh and have been sitting in a box all day and then stated I wasted money. I said they are less than 5 hours old in the box. He then said well how long were they on the shelf at the shop prior??? So my reply was – I am never doing anything nice for you again!!!! Sorry girls – just needed to vent. I have no idea why he is in such a bad mood the last couple of weeks. This just sucks!!!

 

NVgirl - April 6

OK -- I went outside to get away from it all. He comes outside and kisses me on the cheek. Then says I'll BBQ some burgers for dinner. So I go in the house after about 10 minutes and go into the kitchen. The doughnut box was opened and a doughnut is missing! AFter all that he ate a doughnut... so I go up tp him and said you ate a doughnut? He said it wasn't about the doughnuts, it was about you. LOL! I so don't get him... lets see if he survives the night. =oP

 

deltabwa - April 6

UGHHH NV so sorry hun... what WAS that about? maybe he's stressing too about this pregnancy.... and reckon he realized they werent stale after all lol good luck!!

 

deltabwa - April 7

ok ladies, good morning all. I am suddenly having a bad day. I was feeding the lambs when i got this excrutiating pain in the left side about 1-1/2 -2 inches from my hip bone and if i wasnt already sitting down, i would have doubled over. That was 15 minutes ago and it is still just as bad. it doesnt hurt AS bad if i stand up, so i know, dont sit down, but UGHHHH I know cramping is normal, and im not spotting or bleeding but i dont recall ever having this bad of pain even with the m/c. isn't the uterus more centralized between your hips? naturally, the doc is in surgery today and for the first day, i didnt take another hpt, mostly cuz FMU was awefully pale but thought about doing another in the afternoon if i didnt hear back about the blood test. Someone tell me that this pain is nothing.....

 

Suebee - April 7

DE..I'm sure the pain is just ligament pain. You said you're not spotting but do you have any other pain? I'd say that being so early in the pregnancy that it would be just the stretching and/or changes going on in there. If you're worried it could be something else then you need to get some medical attention girl!! I know the dr is in surgery or whatever but you need to get in there even if only to put your mind at ease. Be forceful.. screw the girl you p__sed off before. Who cares..!! You've got to do what you've got to do!!

 

NVgirl - April 7

Hi Delta -- I don't know what to tell you, sweetie. From my understanding you usually get pain due to your uterus enlarging so maybe that is what it could be... not sure why it would be on one side and not the other, though. I hope you will be feeling better by this afternoon. You want to hear how my morning began? I had put the dogs in the garage at about 5:30am this morning. I was in bed semi-sleeping when I heard blood-curling screams. I jump out of bed and run to the garage… no dogs. I run to the living room and look out the slider and see them b___t-to-b___t on the lawn…. And my Molly is being dragged all the while screaming! They officially did it and now were stuck together and she (65 pounds) was being drug by the v____a by a 90 pound yellow lab in my backyard. I run out there – only in a long Tee Shirt and undies. Lets just say I don’t have privacy fences in the area… everyone has chain link so your neighbors can see you and we only have ½ acres so they really can see you. I guess from the adrenalin rush I feel like I was going to puke. Welp I am holding them so they cannot move – it is 29 degrees out and my feet and toes are aching big time and I feel like I have to pee now, but if I let go Molly will scream. So about 15 minutes of this my neighbor comes out and says are you all right, I said can you hold them? We are trying to breed Molly – they are stuck and every time I let go she screams. I said I am so embarra__sed because I have no actual clothes on and my feet hurt really bad from the cold. I kid you not – as soon as my neighbor comes into my yard --- the dogs unhitch. HOW EMBARRASSING IS THAT??? Oh -- I also noticed DH took the box of doughnuts with him to work and left me one on a plate -- my favorite. Maybe this is his way of saying sorry?

 

Suebee - April 7

MI.. OMG.. I just read the other thread about the asian and the wanger thing!!! How sick is that?? Something were missing about what asians do to their dogs??? I dunno, but that's weird to me?? Loved the oral comment.. ewww!!! Who was that.. MO... that said that.. can't remember.. Leave it to her!! LOL... Ok, the story this morn is hilarious.. Why does this always happen to you!! Don't you wish DH was around?? I think I'd be mortified it my neighbour ran over and their I was barely clad trying to hold my dog still while their trying to get it on!!! What a mental picture I just had..LOL.. C___p.. you must be freezing.. Get yourself warmed up and eat the "1" donut your DH left you. I read how p__sed he was about them. What is with men? 5 hr old donuts and he's freakin that their not fresh. At least you thought enough about him to get them in the first place!! MEN.. sheesh!! You should call him and leave a voice message saying glad you like the "stale" donuts!! He eats them today as their now officially "stale" but makes a stink the day you buy them? Argghhh!!! Enjoy your little donut MI.... LOL....MO-MO...hope you're having a good day. My day sucks as AF showed this morn. My temp dropped even further this morn and when I woke up and went to the potty their she was. If anything, I've learned that when your temps consistently drop a few days before AF is due, that is generally means she's on her way. I didn't know that before so it's a learning experience if nothing else. I'm ok about it and looking forward to trying again. I think I'll try to get some exercise in and hopefully drop a few pounds if I can.

 

NVgirl - April 7

Sue -- sorry that AF came. What a bummer, but like you said you can use the time to lose a few pounds and then try again. So in 10 days you will start BDing and having loads of fun! <<BIG HUG>>

 

Morrison1 - April 7

Hey DELTA - I am sorry your morning is turning out cruddy. I don't know a whole lot about early cramping other than to say that when I was having cramping in my early pregancy I read - repeatedly - that it is totally normal. The only time it seems to be bad is if there is spotting also. It's like you can have cramping OR spotting, but you don't want to be having both. I would say right now, that it's probably a normal response to implantation....so try not to worry. Yeah, right.

 

deltabwa - April 7

NV - ROFLMAOPMP im sorry to laugh at your expense but that is hilarious rofl and that was kind of him to leave ONE doughnut lol you know, my hormone produced self would definitely have to comment on that lol But the good news is.. now you know the stud's not gay. lol Ive had that happen before, my rottie being drug around by a stupid little mutt that weighed half her size! yeah that was an accident lol OH SUE- sorry she came but yeah, temps drop either day of or 2 days before. dang was really hopin too..... and not sure which oral comment you meant but that coulda been me lol And as far as me... the cramping stopped about 1/2 hr after i posted this. I do know that cramping can be normal and not to worry unless theres spotting as well, with my m/c i had cramping one week, spoitting the next and i kept saying to them.. i know 1 without the other is ok but no one can tell me if this is that situation, is this considered together or not, and the doc said, unfortunately, i STILL cant tell you if its together or separate. turns out... it was together. Its not the pain so much, but the location of the pain and the amount of pain, after hearing about 3 tubals in the last 2 weeks, i am now freaking over that cuz it seems more to one side, close to hip, like it would be where a tube is. where are your tubes in relation? course i guess it could be ovary too.. ughhhhhh

 

Morrison1 - April 7

Wow...there were no more posts after Delta's when I started typing that last one. You gals are active today! MICHELE - How does this stuff happen to you? I hope you know your neighbor well. I have a feeling my neighbor would be horrified if he saw me in a t-shirt and undies with my pasty winter-white skin. They'd probably move away. Poor Molly. That must have been a pretty harrowing experience. Do the girls always howl like that? And what's with DH and the donuts? Weird. I'd probably be annoyed at this point - but men can be such a pain in the arse. This morning, Dh missed a 7:30 meeting and calls me at work and tells me. The kid snoozes every morning from 6:30 to 8:00 am (which makes me crazy) and then wakes up and rolls down to his office in the bas____nt. The AM laziness has always bugged me, and he knows it, but when he calls, he's like, "I gotta come up with something to make sure I don't miss these irregularly scheduled meetings. What do you think I should do?" I'm like, "GET OUTTA BED you lazy mofo." Seriously. Men. SUE - sorry about AF. You are about 10 days and counting to take off for April! Not bad. It'll come fast (no pun intended) and you'll be able to start trying again. Got a game plan for the month? OPKs? Temping? I am doing pretty well today other than the fact that I am a little bit anxious. I am trying not to be, but I can't help feeling nervous. I am afraid that I might want it too bad and that I will be a wreck if it doesn't happen. How do we get over THAT?? I have a friend that wanted to meet for drinks tonight and I pa__sed because I don't really want to head to the bar as I don't know what's going on. We tend to tie them on when we are together. I felt bad saying no, because I didn't tell her why - but I just didn't want to have to explain anything or answer to it later. Does that make sense? Anyway... DELTA - glad to hear the pain subsided. Like I said, I have always heard that one or the other aren't bad. When I started cramping on my second day of spotting, I was pretty sure it wasn't good. The nurses wouldn't really SAY that, and the more I know now, the more irritated I am that they didn't just come right out and tell me that if you have both - it is usually not a good sign. Anyway...sounds like everything is copacetic.

 

aalice - April 7

Hey everyone, well af finally showed today, at 49 days. Sigh. But I got the clear blue easy thingy, so we'll see how it goes. With being as stressed as I was over being this late, I'm kinda worried about being too much of a basket case once the trying starts... NV- You and the dogs, that is hilarious and crazy. Guess it keeps you busy. I agree with Delta, sounds like he's probably stressed about things and just doesn't want to admit it so he's picking a fight. DELTA- when's your next dr's appnt scheduled? Probably nothing, but I'd want it checked out, just so that I could stop obsessing about it...Worth the extra co-pay and if the office labels things as "extra needy" then that's good, they are paying more attention... SUE- Well, depending on what happens with my system maybe we'll be around ttc around the same time. :)

 

deltabwa - April 7

well, now im getting more cramping only this time its lower, where i would normally think it should be. lol MO you called dh the kid and i was trying to figure out who you were talking about lol

 

NVgirl - April 7

Ok -- got back from giving blood. I am really tired of all this donating every Friday. This is the 3rd time. And on top of it, I have been nauseated all day since the doggie fiasco. Could be that I ate that d__n doughnut and not any protein this morning. Who knows? Glad you ladies had a laugh on me. Thought it bring smiles to your faces – just didn’t realize that Delta would pee her pants over it! DELTA: Glad you are feeling better. From my experience --when I was in the throws of m/c I spotted for 4 or 5 days before I got the cramping… when I got the cramping is when the spotting turned to red. So what you are describing sounds very, very different…. Unfortunately for us, M/C takes all the naivety out of being pregnant – once you get pregnant again that is. But you need to listen to your body and stop thinking you have what others had – there is a word for that - Hypochondriac. It is going to make you go crazy and stress you out which is not good for your peanut. Take a nap if you can just to de-stress, it might do you some good. If it continues maybe you can go to the ER for peace of mind instead of trying to get an appointment w/ your doctor even though the hospital is 80 miles away. MINDY – It is definitely hard to say no to friends when TTC. I remember last year when I was in the 2WW, Josh’s grandmother asked me to try her drink because it was soooo good. I said no thank you and left it at that. Later on she told me that was a clue to her that I possibly was pg. Sooooo, you think your friend might suspect even though you said nothing? SUE: just have to say hi! TTFN… until next time.

 

NVgirl - April 7

OK looks like while I was typing – AALICE and DELTA chimed in. AALICE: glad you got AF!! I used the clear blue easy testers --- and it was easy for me to determine when I got a positive. Now you just need to figure how long it is until you O. Looks like you and Sue will be together on this try. DELTA… it is sounding like your uterus is getting ready to stretch… I know it is hard not to stress. Just take some deep breaths. We are here for you!

 

Morrison1 - April 7

AALICE - Congratulations on AF. I know that must be a HUGE relief!! Now you can think about what's to come! Does your body feel better? DELTA - he is a kid. He is 29 to my 36. I like 'em young. So I always refer to him that way - especially when he is being particularly lazy or annoying (which usually go hand-in-hand). MICHELE - It sounds to me like you might be having some symptoms! I know the blood draws get old. I was getting them about every 5 or 6 days after the m/c for like 5 weeks...it was so annoying. Luckily, this is a better situation! I am excited to hear what the results are. Too bad they can't do your draws on like Wednesday, so you only have to wait until Friday. With Friday draws, the wait is always a day longer. Ugh. I have been staying away from alcohol since I was sick - I am pretty consistent about an evening gla__s of wine otherwise - however, that, of course, stopped when I was pg. I am sort of craving one now though - but won't do it. But once you are out with people and not drinking - they always know right away. This friend in particular is a little difficult for me because she is still the single, go-out and party type of girl and we are really pretty settled now. I can take going out or leave it -mostly leave it. The other day she was asking me about a summer concert at Red Rocks that we usually go to, and she was like, "I know you are trying to get knocked-up, but tickets will go on sale soon...", etc., and I was almost annoyed. I mean, it just seemed insensitive and kinda lame after the m/c. But I know she just doesn't really understand were I am in my life right now. DELTA - where is the cramp now? I am generally kind of a crampy person, so are pg cramps supposed to be sort of low and in the middle?

 

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