Is It Normal To Be Angry

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hd - March 16

I recently found out that I was pregnant. I had wanted to have a baby for at least six months. My husband and I had discussed it and decided that we would try in March. When I found out that a friend of mine was pregnant, I acted so happy for her, but inside I was dying. I felt sick to my stomach, and I felt angry because she didn't even want a baby. I talked to my husband later that day, and after a lot of discussion and fighting, we decided that we would try sooner. Very quickly, I became pregnant and wanted to tell everyone. I knew I should wait just in case something went wrong. But inside, I really didn't think that it would. I told my family and my friend that was pregnant. I figured that if something went wrong, I would want them to know anyway. On friday, I began spotting and I called my sister because I was scared. Still, I thought that there most likely wasn't anything wrong, especially when she told me that that is normal during pregnancy. I was scheduled for an ultrasound that day, and it was abnormal. I waited for an hour for the doctor to come in and talk to me, and I could feel myself losing the baby. When she came in, she did an exam and told me that most likely I was miscarrying and should come back for additional bloodwork. It was as if it was just another miscarriage. I was so upset and sad at that time, but now I am just angry. I have to work with my friend everyday, knowing that she is growing a baby inside of her, and mine is gone. I am so mad. How will I ever get over this.

 

Alison - March 16

It's normal to feel angry. I do too about my miscarriages. There are so many emotions that you go through and anger is one of them. Especially when people you know are expecting. I've know several people who have had/are having babies over this past year when I've had my miscarriages and it's sooooooo hard!!!! (especially when I hear any of them complain about their pregnancy -I'd give anything to be in their shoes!) I want to be happy for them but it's not easy. We are now TTC following our second loss. Also, I don't think you ever "get over" it you just learn to live with it somehow. Look after yourself and I'm so sorry for you loss

 

Heather - March 16

I'm so sorry for your loss... It is totally normal to feel angry along with the 100 other emotions you are feeling. I have thought often about how I would feel if I had to work with someone everyday who was pg after I had my m/c. Some people don't understand. I never felt a baby move inside me... I never heard his/her heart beat... It is the shattered dream of that baby that hurts so badly... Enough to be angry. Keep in mind though... You are strong. This wouldn't have happened to you if you couldn't handle it. I'm not going to throw a bible at you or anything but I do believe truly that God does not give us what we cannot handle. You are a better person & find comfort in knowing you have the upper hand. All of us who have lost a baby will appreciate our next pregnancy more than those who never have endured a loss like a m/c. Good luck to you. Hang in there... Soon it will be time to try again!!! *~*~*~*~*~*~ baby dust to us all!

 

Alison - March 16

I agree Heather, I know I could never have coped with my losses without God upholding me. I'm believing that He has good things ahead for us and am trusting Him - even tho it's hard! I also like to believe our babies are in heaven (tho I wish so much they were here instead-we wanted them so much) I also agree that I'll appreciate our little one so much more when they do eventually come along. Just the thought of having my own baby gives me goosebumps! Take care x

 

hd - March 16

Well, I went to work for the first time today. No one knew what to say to me. It was so quiet. Part of me wanted everyone to acknowledge my situation,and the other part of me wanted to be left alone. Overall, I guess I did okay for my first day. But when I saw my co-worker take her lab coat off and I saw her belly, I lost it. That was it for the rest of the day. I don't want to go back, but I know I have to. I do thank all of you for your support. It does help knowing that there are people out there giving you advice that know what you are going through. Thanks.

 

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