LOWER ABDOMEN AND LOWER BACK PAIN

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parkermegan - February 5

The doctors told me I would miscarry. It has been one week since then and just light bleeding, more like spotting. Today though, and this whole weekend I have been having cramping. Tonight I started noticing pain in my lower right abdomen and my lower right back, right above my butt. It is not bad, but there. Is that normal or should I be concerned??

 

Susan W - February 5

Normal. When I had my m/c 3 weeks ago, I started having cramps, an achy back, then essentially back labor during the actual m/c. It got pretty bad, not to scare you, and I chose it over a D&C. I found that laying curled up on my left side with a heating pad on my tummy and my back both helped the most. I knew medications wouldn't do anything so I didn't bother with them. I felt achy for a day and a half, and then the actual m/c only took 3-4 hours. The physical pain will suddenly go away when it's over. So very sorry for your loss. . . Us girls are here to visit with if you need to talk . ..

 

parkermegan - February 5

thanks for your advice.......I have been praying that the doctors were wrong and I wouldn't miscarry. I haven't really had any bleeding this weekend, just spotting. I have had a headache too. Is that how yours started?? Just cramps, spotting and then sudden bleeding? I don't know if I should just expect sudden bleeding........or really what to expect. My doctor wasn't to helpful I am actaully going to a new doctor in 2 weeks. This board has been more helpful though!! How long did the bleeding last after you miscarried? Did you try again right after the miscarriage. The doctor told me since I was only 6 weeks that I would probably ovulate a week or so after the miscarriage just like a period.

 

Susan W - February 6

Yes. I use a midwife, so I don't get an u/s until 20 weeks. So we had no idea anything was wrong, and I'm grateful; we had an extra month of happiness, and I didn't have to decide what to do. I was almost 12 weeks. I started spotting at 10 weeks, but I spotted with my first baby, so we didn't think too much of it. Over the next 10 days, the spotting got heavier and more frequent until I woke up one night bleeding, but not heavily. It was obviously frank blood on the tissue paper, and it was apparent something was wrong. At the ER the next day, I was given the bad news. My midwife and I talked, and I opted to go home to finish it out. The cramps didn't really start until that day, and I lost the fetal tissues the next day. That day was the most painful physically . . . . We are planning to wait to ttc again, simply because emotionally it was very hard on me. We normally use NFP to prevent pregnancy, but over the weekend I wanted some TLC, and I'd been ignoring DH with everything that has been going on. So, anyhow, there was a mishap with the birth control (two college educated adults, and one a doctor! Sheesh!) and I found I was ovulating the next day! So we will see if I am pregnant again by the end of this month . . . . Your doctor is probably right about when you may expect to be fertile again. It might be a little longer, but it will come back. I am about 21 days post m/c, and I am apparently fertile again. For me, the weird part about that is trying to not be upset that my body has "forgotten" about the baby already and is ready to go again. I don't know if I can explain it . . . What will probably happen, should you let your body handle it, is that you will spot for the next few days to weeks before you actually lose the pregnancy. When you lose the pregnancy, you will see heavy bleeding, and you may see some tissues, but you might not since you were so early. The cramping will be pretty bad, similar to what labor feels like, only shorter. The actual m/c, where you lose the fetal tissues, should only last about 3-5 hours. Bleeding heavily for longer than that means you need to see a doctor. The bleeding lasts for about a week or so then goes away, and it can be heavy at times. I also had cramps for a couple days afterwards. Some women aren't comfortable with spotting for a while then having pain with nothing to show for it, so they choose a D&C to simply get it over with. Others are OK with letting their body do its thing. I honestly don't know what I would choose if I knew it was a pregnancy that was going to end in a m/c. . . But any woman who can get through a natural m/c can certainly handle natural childbirth! I speak from experience :) Good luck to you, and hang in there. . .

 

parkermegan - February 6

thanks for all your advice. my doctor really wasnt too helpful about how it would happen. she just told me to go home and wait. she made it sound like i would miscarry soon. now that it has been almost a week and a half since the first sign of blood i was wondering what was going on. i had my blood taken on friday to check my hormone levels it get those results back today so that should tell me for sure if i will miscarry. one doctor said it didnt look good, but there is always hope. i dont know, i have been having cramps, just no blood. i spot here and there. well, thanks for all your help!

 

Susan W - February 6

Waiting for a natural m/c is the hardest part if you know it's going to come or has a really good chance of happening, which is why many women choose a D&C once they know the pregnancy is not viable. The waiting can be several weeks. Looking back, mine was probably three weeks, from the first day I spotted to the last day I bled following the loss. . . . But there is always hope. Hope your blood levels are increasing and the little one will stay in there!

 

parkermegan - February 6

I have had a little red blood today, i really think that i will miscarry. it is so hard waiting. they didnt even offer me a dnc. i wouldnt have done it anyway though. the doctors office hasnt called yet. hopefully soon!!

 

Susan W - February 6

Uh oh. Red blood doesn't sound promising :((( I'd probably call the doctor's office and ask for the bloodwork results and then give them an update. . . . Emotionally, how are you doing? It takes everyone so differently, and that's totally normal.

 

JuJu - February 7

Megan- how are you??!! Hope you are OK - I guess by now you will be more clear as to what is going on. My m/c started with spotting, and like Susan at first I didn't panic b/c I had experienced this with my first child (and everything was fine in that case). However the next day the bleeding got heavier, followed 24 hours later by cramping and backpain. I chose to have a d&c - and retrospectively I am very glad I did (although I haven't had a natural m/c to compare). The d&c gave me closure and a time-frame.....Emotionally I just felt that I wouldn't be able to face losing my baby at home. I do respect women who choose to have a natural m/c - it's great that we have the choice.

 

confusedegg - February 7

Hi Parker Dont want to get you upset, i would call your doctor. The pains your getting are the same as when i was in early labour. Hope all works out for you.

 

Susan W - February 8

Megan . . . How are you???

 

parkermegan - February 8

I am doing better. This weekend......well Sunday night. I started having back pains. Ever since Monday I have been cramping. The cramping comes and goes. Sometimes for a whole day, then i will go a day and none! I finally started bleeding. Still only like a light period. I am really ready for this to be over! That may sound bad, but I am ready to try again and not have to deal with this every day!! Me and my husband have decided to try again right away. We have several friends and family members who got pregnant 2-3 weeks after a miscarriage and had healthy children. What do you all think? Thanks for asking about me! I haven't been on here to much, I have been trying to stay in bed, the more I do the worse the cramping gets!! Thanks for all your support!! I go for more blood work tomorrow!

 

Susan W - February 8

I understand. . . After the actual m/c, I bled heavily for several days. But then it would taper down and stop. I thought it was done. But several times I exerted myself and wrecked some clothes with the bleeding that resulted. I called my midwife really upset because I just wanted it *done*!. . . It does go away, but you may have a little while. . . This is the downside of knowing your pregnancy is going to end in a m/c. Everything your body does during the m/c makes you nuts. . . . If you really feel like you describe, perhaps talk to your doctor about a D&C, like what JuJu described, so you can get it over with. I was lucky, I guess, in that I didn't know anything was wrong until it went far wrong and didn't have the waiting you have . . . And there are people on here who have gotten pregnant again right away. My midwife told me that was totally fine if I wanted to try again as soon as the bleeding completely stopped and if my body cooperated. If I am pregnant again so soon, it means I conceived on an ovulation that occurred around day 21 post m/c, just three weeks later. Our bodies bounce back quickly to take advantage of improved hormonal status, readiness to produce offspring and all that. And most of them go to term and produce a healthy baby. . . . Hang in there!

 

RGHsMom - February 22

Oh wow! This is my EXACT story. I started to lightly bleed Sunday. Monday pa__sed a few small clots. Tuesday eve. the bleeding stopped but the cramps/backache kicked in. Today, the light bleeding kicked in as did the cramps again but then the bleeding tapered again. I'm tired of this and just want it to be over. My Dr. said to wait it out but never having gone through this I don't know what to expect. What is okay and what is not? I was 5.5 wks when it started. Just want to move on!

 

nikki15 - February 28

how do i know im pregent what kind of pains i am suppose to have

 

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