Miscarriage Or Early Pregnancy Symptoms

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Sarah - October 14

I am about 6 1/2 weeks pregnant and a week ago I had some minor cramps and a few blood clots in the toilet which freaked me out. So I called my DR and their offices were closing and they told me to go to the emergency room right away - so I did. They did some tests and it turns out everything is okay. However, yesterday I had worse cramps and bleeding, then some lower back pain developed. I did some research on the internet and all three seem to be signs of m/c. This is my first pregnancy and I really don't want to loose it. I have a Dr appt on the 18th, (which was just supposed to be my 1st appt) I don't want to go to the Dr now because the ER doctor told me that if I am going to have a m/c there isn't anything they can do to stop it. So, basically I am just wondering if these symptoms could just be pregnancy symptoms or if its most likely going to be (or currently) a m/c?

 

Kim - October 14

Hi Sarah: I know exactly what you are going through and it so horrible to just not know what is going on! First of all - It's good that they gave you a fairly positive outlook in the ER. And yes, cramps/bleeding and backpain are signs of m/c but they can also be signs of a totally normal pregnancy. How's that for frustrating? Lots of women experience those symptoms and turn out just fine. Others like me don't - I had horrible back pain right up until I lost my baby at 9 weeks. BUT! Others I've spoken to also had that and they were fine. Check out this pregnancy site for lots of good information about all kinds of m/c and pregnancy symptoms: http://www.americanpregnancy.org/index.htm. (Take out any dashes that appear in the link). It is a fantastic resource. The waiting part that you are in right now is the worst part, I can tell you that with confidence. Soon you'll know more...I hope you get great news when you see your doc on Monday. Hang in there until then!!!!

 

Debi - October 14

Sarah, this could all be normal pregnancy symptoms too. I would definatly go to the doctors because they can check your HCG levels. If they are rising appropriatly then your pregnancy is probably a good one. Try to stay positive and best of luck to you!!

 

Sarah - October 14

Thanks to those who wrote me back. I actually had a miscarriage this afternoon while I was babysitting my nephew. I went to the bathroom and in my underwear was a little bloody sack. (More than most probably want to know - sorry) I have had heavy bleeding all day. When I saw that I cried and cried. I called my husband and cried to him. This is very sad. Just thought I would let you (Kim and Debi) know. I just found this site earlier today and I really like it - it makes me feel like I am not alone in all this and I have a support group of women that I don't even know - it really helps.

 

Kim - October 14

Sarah I'm so so sorry. It is quite a shock when you see that as you're going to the bathroom and so sad. I was really hoping it would go the other way for you. I'm sure you've heard this before, but be a__sured that most miscarriages are the result of a random chromosome abnormality, and are considered bad luck. You have every chance at a healthy pregnancy next time, and I hope that day comes soon for you. Give yourself as much time and space as you need in the next coming weeks, it does take time. I'm thinking of you much, and if you feel like you need a pick me up, come over to our thread GOING FOR JULY/AUGUST BABIES. There are so many wonderful ladies in there with great stories and encouraging words. Take good care of yourself.

 

Sarah - October 14

Kim - thank you. I have read (over and over) that it usually is a chromosome abnormality, so in the end it's probably best that this happened. However it still hurts. I'm on vacation this week from work so I can just chill out at home and relax and deal with this. I reall wish I didn't get so excited and tell everyone about the pregnancy cuz now they are all gonna ask and I'll have to relive this over and over again with everyone I tell. It makes me feel better to cry though. Do you think I should still go to the Dr on the 18th? Thanks for all your support!! :) Trying to smile.....

 

Debi - October 14

Oh Sarah, I'm so sorry. I was hoping that everything was going to be okay for you. I know what you are going through, I had a m/c in April. I was 10 weeks. I think that you should still see the doctor Monday to tell him what you have just gone through, they will want to monitor your HCG levels to make sure that they are going down now and they may want to do an u/s to be sure that you pa__sed everything on your own, if there is anything left you could develop an infection. I became pregnant again 10 weeks after my m/c and am currently 21 weeks with a healthy little girl, so there is hope. Please take it easy this week and relax as much as you can. Take care of yourself. Good luck.

 

Pipa - October 16

I went to the bathroom and noticed that I had some discharge with blood in it. I am having mild cramps too. I am so scared that I am miscarrying! How do I know beyond going to the hospital? Please help!!!!!

 

Debi - October 16

Hi Pipa, how far along are you? If you are really concerned I would go to the hospital, they can give you some answers. Best of luck, let me know how you make out.

 

Pipa - October 16

I don't have a confirmed pregnancy yet but I have missed two periods and had a late one by two weeks the last time I actually had one (Aug7). I was going to go to the dr to get a blood test now. The bleeding is still going, light but there none the less with little clots every now and then. I don't know if something was wrong and I just missed two periods and now I'm getting my period after all that time. I really felt pregnant had lots of symptoms. Don't know what to do and I am getting really down about it. Is it possible to miss two periods and then have one all of the sudden if you're pregnant?

 

sarah - October 16

pipa - I am the original person to write this question - your symptoms sound just like mine. I wasn't too concerned about the bleeding after I went to the dr the first time cuz they said some bleeding is normal - but once my lower back started to hurt and I got really bad cramps I knew I was going to loose it - and it did. I don't want to get you down, but I just want to let you know that sound pretty much like my situation. One thing to pay attention to is if any of your pregnancy symptoms go away...that is an indication of miscarriage. I miscarried on the 14th and am still pretty upset about it. I really hopes things go the other way for you and that you are okay. Keep in touch with the people on here - they are very supportive and great!! Good Luck!

 

Pipa - October 16

Sarah- Thank you for responding to me. I am just so torn since I never had a confirmed positive and so I don't know if I am just finally getting back on track or if I am actually losing my baby. It's so hard! Just this morning my husband and I were looking at names and making lists. I hurt and I feel like everything else should stop until I understand this better! It helps to know that I'm not alone but knowing and feeling are so different. I am a psychology grad student so I know the logics of what I am feeling emotionally but I still just want to go crawl into bed and wish that everything else would go away...

 

Kim - October 17

Hi Sarah - I agree with Debi that it would be good to keep your doctor's appointment on the 18th for the reasons she mentioned. I know how difficult all this is, again, I'm so sorry you're going through it. And I had the thought too of "Oh no! I've already told everyone about my pregnancy, now how am I going to make it when they're asking me about it?!?!" But I was pleasantly surprised to find that it helped me TREMENDOUSLY to talk about it and about my baby freely. I know it doesn't feel that way for every woman, but I hope it will for you. It does feel so good to cry sometimes, you are right! I'll be thinking about you and wishing you the best. Pipa: It sounds so scary and confusing, what you are going through, I'm sorry! One question - so have you taken a home pregnancy test and it was positive, you just haven't been to the doctor yet? It sounds like you had a micarriage back in August - and you haven't had a regular period yet? If it is not because you are pregnant, you definitely need to see the doctor to make sure your hcg levels have all fallen the way they're supposed to and that everything is out. Did you have a follow up appointment with him/her after your miscarriage? Sorry for all the questions! Just trying to understand your situation a bit better.

 

Pipa - October 17

Kim, I know it's really confusing. What happened is my last period on on Aug7 and it was late by two weeks. I had not had any period since then until yesterday. I never had a positive pregnancy test but had lots of symptoms and of course the missed periods. I was supposed to get a blood test today. I began cramping and bleeding yesterday and and still am bleeding. Now it's kind of like my period. I don't know, maybe I was pregnant it may have been hormonal imbalance. I'm not sure, I am going to go ahead and see the doctor today. Let you know if I find anything out.

 

Kim - October 17

Pipa: Ohhhh I see. Gosh I hope so much that everything works out okay and that if you do turn out to be pregnant, this bleeding will pa__s and all will be well. Do let us know what your doc says. Thinking of you.

 

Sarah - October 17

I called the doctor this morning to see if they still wanted me to come in even though I had a miscarriage and they said yes. They just want to make sure that everything is working its way out like it should be. Today was my first day back from my vacation and people did ask about my pregnancy and yes, they were very understanding. Some didn't know what to say - which is fine, but it was not as bad as I expected to have people talk to me about it. Does anyone know how long you can expect to bleed after a m/c? I am going on about 5 days - and it sucks, my regular periods are usually only 2 days. ( I know this isn't really the same but when I am not used to bleeding for this long - it just makes a sucky situation even suckier. Pipa- how did your dr appt go?

 

Kim - October 18

Hi Sarah, I'm so glad to hear that it was not as difficult hearing people ask you about your m/c than you expected. That is wonderful. I hope you will continue to find understanding and helpful people to talk to in person. (Although i must say - nobody is as helpful and understanding as the women on this website!!! :-) In terms of your bleeding, I bled for two weeks straight and it was miserable. I was so relieved when it was over. Some women bleed for a week, some for a few days, etc...it's different for everybody. I hope yours is fast!

 

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