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Maggie H - February 11

I am having a brownish discharge..Does this mean my natural miscarriage has begun?

 

parkermegan - February 11

Did the doctor tell you that you would miscarry?

 

Maggie H - February 11

yes...but i have had no symptoms until today...just a brownish discharge...Is that how it starts ..I was only 5 weeks..

 

parkermegan - February 11

Well, I first started to miscarry a few days before I would have hit 6 wks. I got up and when I went to the bathroom there was a little blood. I went straight to the ER and they told me I would miscarry. After that for about 1 1/2 weeks I just spotted brown and pink. Then it finally started to get heavy. I only bled for about 2 weeks all together and now i am hoping I am done! My baby never started to develop so I probably had less to pa__s. How are you doing emotionally? This can be such a hard situation! That is probably what is happening to you as well, it is different for every person. Your body will more than likely slowly start bleeding and then get heavy for a few days. Let me know about any other Q's!

 

Maggie H - February 11

Thank you parker.. I'm not doing so well emotionaly...I'll be 32 in a few days..I'm scared I may have waited to ong to have children..Now my body is not cooperating with me...I am truly scared...

 

parkermegan - February 11

Is this your first Pregnancy? I am only 19 and have been married for a year. I have several friends that are in there late twenties and early 30's. After my miscarriage I was devastated too. I talked to so many people who have multiple miscarriages and still had healthy children! You are not 42, so don't worry. My mom had a healthy baby girl at 37. You still have several more years. Miscarriages are so common. 50% of pregnancies end in miscarriage. So more than likely nothing is wrong with you or you BF or DH. Sometimes it just doesn't work. So just remember you can be trying again as soon as you are ready. You will be pregant again before you know it! But, it is good to grieve, take the time YOU need to feel better.....it does get better! I know it doesnt seem like it now, but it does. There are so many women on this board who all have went through the same thing! Keep me posted! Did the doctor tell you what went wrong?

 

Maggie H - February 11

Parker..You do not sound 19...thanks for your advise..I have ony been married a year..(I'm a late bloomer),...I guess I'm scared cause this is my first pregnancy...my sister was 32 when she had my nephew..but she also has two older boys..one she had at 19 and the other at 24..I just feel like my chances of having a healthy pregnancy has decreased with my age..But then again...I'm sure there are women out there who started later than I and have had no complications what-so-ever..

 

Maggie H - February 11

The doctor just said the baby never began to form..she took a "these things happen" att_tude..I appreciated it...I was feeling inadequate at first...

 

parkermegan - February 11

thats exactly what my doctor told me. I am sure you did nothing wrong. Sometimes the chromosomes or DNA just don't work right and nothing can happen. It is not your fault. There is a 1 in 4 chance that someone in the late twenties and up will miscarry. That is a huge chance. So its not just you, it happens all the time. I know that doesn't make you feel better, but I think for me atleast it would have been much harder if I had of made it to 15 or 20 wks.

 

marranie - February 11

had a little chuckle at the 'you're not 42' comment... 32 is very young, i didn't even start trying until 34, have two kids now and pregnant with no 3, have had 5 m/c's along the way and will be 45 when i have this one.... chances of m/c increase as you get older but as the doctor says 'these things happen' but doesn't mean it will happen with every pregnancy, heartbreaking though m/c is there is still the light at the end of the tunnel and babies do happen after m/c's, also my pregnancies that worked were problem free with big healthy babies at the end. All my m/c's have been 'natural' and started with spots leading up to a few days heavy bleeding then tapering off, about 2 weeks from start to finish. Not a happy place to be and pregnancy is never that 'happy glowing state' after experiencing m/c.

 

parkermegan - February 12

I hope you didnt think I meant 42 was old, because i dont think that AT ALL. I just meant that Maggie is only 32 and there are women who are just starting to try at 42 so she has several years of being able to try!!

 

deltabwa - February 12

MAGGIE - you are fine. 30's are a great age to have kids. i have a 21 yr old, an 18 yr old and an almost 2 yr old. i was 36 when i had my youngest. its a great time to have them. don't fret over that, there is plenty more to worry about right now than that. MARRANIE - baby dust to you! i agree with ya, i had a little chuckle myself lol at my ancient age of 38 lol

 

parkermegan - February 12

I didnt say 42 was old!!!!! I was just using that as an example that she has PLENTY of time!! I mean I couldnt have said 52 because she might be going through menopause then!! For goodness sakes!!!!

 

JuJu - February 12

Maggie- You have just as much chance of having a baby as any other woman! Unfortunately, miscarriages hit some of us - but statistically you have a great chance of having a baby! The important thing is to stay positive and keep trying! As far as your m/c goes; My M/c also started with brownish discharge, before getting heavier. Stay strong; we will be thinking of you!! Parkermeagan - don't worry honey about the age thing....I can see you definitely didn't mean to offend and that's all that matters! I have read a few of your postings and I am sorry about your m/c - not an easy experience to go through. Best of Luck-

 

buffy2297 - February 12

Maggie I hope you're not to old because like you I'm 32 and I'll be 33 in March and been married 20 months. I've just had a miscarriage only 4 weeks ago. The positive thing for me is at least I can get pregnant. When we started trying I was so worried that I wouldn't be able to. You spend so many years trying not to get pregnant. and then when you start it's like oh god can I actually get pregnat? Well yes you can so you've done it once you can do it again. It might not happen straight away or then again it might. Only time will tell. Remember there are 100's of couples out there trying to concieve but can't, you can. So good luck and remember the sadness will eventually subside and things will get better even though youdon't thinkso at the moment. Take care. Gini

 

Susan W - February 12

A natural m/c can start like that. I started by seeing tiny streaks of blood in some mucus the day I was 10 weeks that continued for the next two weeks. When I was nearly 12 weeks, I woke to frank blood. After that, I bled heavily for about a week, pa__sing the fetal membranes during that time, and spotted for another few days. You are early enough you might not see anything as far as tissues, and it might be more like a very heavy period once it gets rolling. . . . And hey, I had my first baby at 32. I'm GLAD I didn't have kids in my 20's. Once you have them (or find out you are expecting), it's all about them. I've been able to do all sorts of things that I could never have done now, and those are great experiences I can share with my family later. And having small children makes simple things complicated; we're snowed in, and because I have a toddler and an out-of-town husband this week, I'm finding it really hard to even get my car cleared off. . . . So, chin up, hang in there . .. . Maggie, your body CAN handle this. Try not to worry (yeah, I know) and we are here to talk to. I find this forum so helpful myself.

 

Maggie H - February 12

You ladies have really helped me...I just wasn't sure what to expect...I just want my body to get back on track...PARKER, i understand totally what you meant...I don't think the women were upset...I'm glad to hear that the comment made them chuckle..I'm glad to here women my age or older having healthy pregnancies...It has been very encouraging to me....BUFFY, you are in my head..I hear and have heard of so many women trying not to get pregnant..and opps it happens anyway..How could I have just been lucky not to get pregnant before..I was sure I had to be sterile....

 

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