STARTING OVER AFTER A D C OR M C 33

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smmom2 - December 21

We are all here for the loss of our children. Some of us are beginning again, and some of us are trying, some of us are just trying to cope. We support each other through every moment of life now, maybe with a little help from Sandwaby ( stands for Sad and wanting a baby) or the rest of us in SANDHABY ( sick and having a baby) . And now we even have a STANDHABY ( stressed and having a baby) . All of us have come a long way !!! We have become more then support....we have become friends. So either way, come on in and join us...everyone is welcome!!! ↓

 

smmom2 - December 21

Sorry girls but that was just to many pages !!! Hope you all enjoy your Sunday....its freezing cold here and we are going to look at Christmas lights tonight on a trolley...so much fun !!!!

 

stacyr - December 21

Hey all! CAN I JUST VENT? In the past week one of my best friends (the one who has been here for me from the pregnancy & through the m/c) announced she is preg - she said she was 8 weeks along - I asked why the hll she didn't tell me sooner and she said she found out two weeks before but the day she called to tell me I was having a bad day with my medical drama - I felt soo bad! In reality I am really happy for her - but a bit jealous as well...We had kinda "planned" to be preg at the same time (before I knew u really can't plan any of this) ...she's due the week I had my m/c so I know this is gunna be hard... Not to mention another young 24-year-old I know is also preg - I find myself so angry with her & jealous - she has explicitly stated that she did it to keep her man! Why is it that these girls have no problems and we suffer straight through... SHELLY - Freezing here too!!! I can't believe the NYC snowstorm we had friday! Looks like winter is gunna be brutal! Thanks all for listening!

 

smmom2 - December 21

STACY....I know its hard to hear other women state they are pg....but for your friend all you can do is support her the best you can....and sometimes you may have to stay away or not talk to hurt cause it hurts you to much...but it sounds like she is a great friend and will help you as well. As for the other girl.....people liek that upset me as well...I know this girl who got pg with a fling ( and she wanted to keep him as well) the guy said he would support the baby but he didnt want to be with her. SO she walked around talking about how she was giving the baby up for adoption and she didnt love the baby at all....it made my blood boil !!!!!!! ANyways...you just try to focus on your own state of mind and recovery. It will happen for you as well. And who knows....maybe you and your friend can have kids close in age !!!!

 

sydneydarcy - December 22

STACYR - I understand and it sucks. There is no better way to put it. Smmom2 is right. You just have to be as supportive as possible and when you need to stay away, just stay away. There are gonna be those days when you don't want to mention anything you are going through because you don't want to bum her out but there are gonna be days when you are going to need her too. I have to see my sister in law on wednesday. Her little one will be 1 month old. He was only two weeks old when I had my m/c, she stayed away, and she understood. But honestly I want to hold him. I want to be around him and her. Babies make us happy, thats why we all want one so badly. Babies are wonderful and a gift from God no matter what we are dealing with. Don't deny yourself joy with a friend and a baby, but when you need to get away and take yourself out of the situation. Remember that babies are what make you happy. It may help you get through some of the things you are feeling. By the way, I am going for my HSG on either the 5th or 6th. It has to be on the 5th day of my period so I am trying to time it then. Have you ever had one? Do you know what to expect? If not, you should look it up so you can be prepared. It does not tak elong, but its not a comfortable test. CHRYSB - I am glad you are feeling better. I know what you mean about the clothes. With all of my pregnancies I went up two bra sizes by week 5. This last time two of the three I purchased were still in the store bag. I just put them away this weekend. I cried every time I tried to touch them. I will keep you posted. More blood work for my and my husband (JTB) this week!

 

Clauds - December 22

Hey all, just checking in I've managed to read through all the posts I think I'm just about catched up on most by now. We are all fine. Dh is searching hard for a job so we move farward and move out of our parents. Thanks for all your well wishes.Tyrell is such a joy, growing so fast, I know I keep on saying this but I will get on to facebook eventually and post some pics.

 

Clauds - December 22

COL I'm so sorry that you have lost one of the twins. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Also praying for his or her's brother or sister and your family.

 

Clauds - December 22

BRYANDI congratulations on the birth of Ember!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am so happy for you!! Time has flown by so quickly. I'm so pleased!!!!!!!!!!

 

Clauds - December 22

SMMOM it's great to hear from you. Carson must be big now! Give all your sick kiddies a kiss from me. SHABNAM how is sweet Shireen doing? LILYMUMMY twins that is so amazing!!! I couldn't be happier for you. Hope your well. ERIN how are you and your bean. I had heavy bleeding and clots when I was pregnant with Tyrell at about 5weeks. I was terrified I had lost him, it happened again a few days later but a scan showed all was well and he is going to be 3mths soon! JUDI glad to hear that your pa__sed your mc point and still doing well before you know it your little angel will be here! LISAMC I'm so pleased that your gonna do the surgery. Everything will all be worth it in the end when you are your dh are holding your wonderful baby! Keep us informed on your progress. I am thinking of you! STACYR gosh I cannot believe that you have not had your period yet!!! Your are so strong to hanging in there like that. I pray that your af hurries up so you can get on ttc to conceive again. Also what you mentioned about the pre-cancerous cells I too though that it may have had a bearing on my lost but it seems NOT so hang in there honey! Also vent all you need, it is horrible when it seems like everyone around you is having a baby but you and some of them are so ungrateful but god will see you through. MAYBE hey fellow scorpion! Hang in there honey, don't give up. I know it must be so frustrating and depressing. You will get there hun, you will!! I am thinking and praying for you love. Here's lots of baby dust to you and those ttc***********************************************************************. xx

 

Clauds - December 22

MISSP where are you hun? How are you, dh and Malachi doing? I'm gonna drop you a text. JSTALEY, SARAH9 and anyone else missen for a while I am thinking of you, check in when you can.

 

Clauds - December 22

Just wanted to also say a warm welcome to all the new comers. I am sorry for your losses - the sad circ_mstances that has brought us together. I hope this site brings you some sort of peace and support and helps half as much as it has helped me!! BLONDIE, CREATING, HOPE, BLACKSYDOR, CHRYS, TANYALEIGHT, PHA74, SYDNEYDARCY. Sorry if I mised out anyone!!

 

lilymummy - December 23

Hi guys, just wanted to jump on and say a very merry Christmas to all in case I don't get a chance to log on til then. Can't remember if I have mentioned it but I went for another scan last week (arranged it in a matter of minutes as I felt so not-trusting, my docotr just faxed the referral over and I popped in on my home from work) and both twins appear fine, good strong heartbeats and measuring a day or so older then my calculations - which just means they are well-grown. It made me feel rea__sured and like I can wait until my next scheduled scan, which will be Jan 6. Still getting my head around the idea of twins - very happy but need time to organise bigger car, bigger house, winning lottery, etc. x Kath.......................................PS and I wanted to say thank you to each of you for participating in this wonderful, healing site this year. I think we have a great thing going and no matter what point we are in our journey after miscarriage, I know we all draw a lot of strength from each other, which in turn allows us to help newcomers. It's a great thing!!

 

kadie5786 - December 23

hello everyone!!! I am new to this site.. I recently had my first miscarriage at 6 weeks. My husband and I have been trying to get pregnant for a little under a two years. we had tried infirtility clinics and everything.. then a doctor told us that he could geta procedure done to help boost his chances because he was pretty much unable to have children without IVF. we have the procedure done about 4 months ago and was told that it takes about 3 months for him to fully recover. Right after that we got pregnant and couldnt have been more excited!! Telling everyone and in our bliss. A week later I began spotting brown ever other day and after being at the hospital having my hormone level checked every 2 days I began to bleed red. my 4th time to the hospital seen the baby my cervix was closed hormone level perfect and for some reason I miscarried that day. My sister inlaw is exactly a month more pregnant then I and its kinda a sad reminder to me everytime I see her... I am happy for her bc she had to go through IVF to get pregnant. I am so happy to have found a supporting site to be able to get advice and give advice!!!!

 

sydneydarcy - December 23

KADIE - Hang in there. I also m/c at about 6 weeks. Its hard. You think you have the world at your fingertips and then it comes crashing down hard and fast. The hardest part for me was having to go back and tell people that I had m/c. Be glad for your sister. She understands that you are going through a hard time but as I have said here before here, don't miss out on the Joy and Love of a child or the love and support that your family can give. Be strong. Its not an easy thing to go through. this is a good place to be. We are all very supportive. I am new to the site too. These girls are so awesome. its a good way to get an outside opinion from people who really do know what its like!. WELCOME!!!

 

kadie5786 - December 23

Thank you sydney! Yea I am slowly getting out of the grieving stage.. I know that my time will come and I am happy to know that we can finally have a child naturally when we were told we couldnt!! I am very excited to make lots of new friends and have support behind me. I am sorry for your loss and I love reading the success stories of women who have went through this and gotten pregnant.. Very uplifting

 

smmom2 - December 23

HAppy Holidays to my girlies !!!!!!!! MERRY CHRISTMAS, HAPPY NEW YEAR< HAPPY HANUKKAH, HAPPY KWANZA, AND FELICE NAVIDAD...And anything else i missed. KATH....I am sooooo happy the twins are doing ok in there and growing strong and healthy !!! And LMAO about the winning the lottery...can I get in on that action??? KADDIE>... am sorry for your loss...I know it is hard for you. I think you will have a successful pg int he future...just think as positive as you can. And take things one day at a time and know that you have people to support you through every step of ttc again. SYDNEY...how are you feeling today?? As for me ladies...I am baking pumpkin pies, and cleaning my home and trying to finish up last minute shopping for tomorrow as Christmas eve dh's entire family will be here !!! Hope you all enjoy the holidays and hold on to the good memories !!!

 

sydneydarcy - December 23

SMOM - I am feeling good today. JTB is home sick (what a great time to be sick, and you know how men are!) but I am ready for christmas! I wish all of you Happy Holidays and good luck and best wishes in the new year!!!!!!

 

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