STARTING OVER AFTER A M C OR D Amp C 21

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smmom2 - May 18

We are all here for the loss of our children. Some of us are begining again, and some of us are trying, some of us are just trying to cope. We support eachother through every moment of life now, maybe with a little help from Sandwaby ( stands for Sad and wanting a baby) or the rest of us in SANDHABY ( sick and having a baby) . And now we even have a STANDHABY ( second trimester and having a baby) . All os us have come a long way !!! We have become more then support....we have become friends. So either way, come on in and join us...everyone is welcome.

 

smmom2 - May 18

MISSP...just to make you feel better....I have read a few other posts from different women...and they have also had parts of their baby measuring behind by a week or two at their 20 week apt. Apparently it is very common and doc says not to worry, that they will catch up...so to speak. I hope this makes you feel better about Tyler. !!!!!!

 

MissP - May 18

Hi smmom and erin the nurse - hope both you girls are hanging in there. And all you other girls too. A nice new thread, lets hope it brings some good news to as many of us as possible. Im not in the UK yet. Im still slogging it out in the heatwave. Its getting so i cant bare it anymore. We have had a few days stress with the emba__sy here who are 'supposed' to be processing dh's visa for us as an emergency but dont know the meaning of that word obviously. From the day we handed over his pa__sport it was apparantly a 2 week wait but now its been 4 - well i went a bit crazy with the woman on the phone last thursday and asked her was she even aware of the reason why this was supposed to be going through quicker - ie i need to go home for medical care for my 20wk baby- she didnt even know what i was talking about. So i was a bit mad, and i sent a nasty fax to the immigration people in the uk. Now they are telling us we MAY receive the call on Monday to come and collect his pa__sport - honestly girls talk about stress. I am about past myself drinking and drinking. Ive never peed so much in my life. Of corse i dont begrudge dong this for the wellbeing of my baby and i would have got on a plane 2 weeks ago had i known that dh's visa was going to get delayed like this. Dealing with these people has been so frustrating. Anyway i dont mean to have a moan...its not so bad really. I mean i get to rest and put my feet up a lot of the time which i should be gratefull for and at last i can feel lttle tyler moving so i know hes ok (and i dont have to rely on a stupid doppler thingy thank goodness) or else mrs haths experience wth those things would have about finished me off. Im sooo gratefull that he was an early mover otherwise i think my worry levels would have been a lot higher. Smmom i know how you feel about never feeling sure that things will be ok, i just worry about him all day and if i dont feel him for a few hours i start panicing. Anyway, we are going back for another scan tomorrow to see how the fluid levels are doing. On the last one they had stayed level - im hoping they may have increased slightly but i dont want to get my hopes up given how hot i am and to avoid disappointment. If dh's visa comes thru at some point this week (and it better) theres a flight friday or sunday that we can hopefully still get. Its very stressfull not even being able to book a flight yet. Smmom, on th last scan he was measuring a week or 2 bigger than he should, so i went from one extreme of worry to the other. Ive just got to hope that these machines have a margin of error and that he has actually got a normal shaped body when he comes out and not either a tiny or enormous head. Thanks for asking about me anyway. Im still feeling awful about poor mrs haths bean and i cant stop thinking about how she must be feeling right now. I hope she comes back in the next few weeks when she starts to feel a little more settled. Its just awful what shes going through again. I dont want her to feel isolated though, as this is really the best place for her to be given whats happened. It just must be so terrible to hear about other babies tho. I wonder if we should relocate our baby talk to another thread so that those on here suffering and trying to get over mc/d&c can feel more comfortable. actually I dont know, im just thinking aloud. I feel bad that she cant be here where she needs to be. Anyone else feel like this? x x x

 

Bryandi - May 18

Smmom, I am here and still doing ok. The past few nights I have felt pretty queasy. It is strange, my symptoms were never much and almost non existent since the beginning except for extremely sore bb's. The past few nights I have noticed a definate increase in how often I have to use the potty and my queasiness has gotten a lot worse. It is a great time for the rea__surance to comethough. I am just hoping the doctor can hear the heartbeat at my appointment on Tuesday. MissP so great to hear from you. It is a tough time right now for everyone on the thread. MRS. Hath's loss has hit us all so hard. I hope that your visa comes this week. The system you have to deal with is just miserable. I can't believe how horrid they are to work with. Good luck at your next appointment, I will be hoping they find an increase in amniotic fluid this time! I can't wait until you get home and to a good medical system! nurse, good luck this month! I hope you ovulated and have a little bean in the making! Allright, my little man is trying to add letters where they don't belong. I think he is trying to tell me he wants my attention. Gotta run ladies! (btw if any of this post doesn't make any sense you can blame it on my 15 mth old little monster, lol)

 

ShanaT - May 18

SMMOM... I'm doing alright. Thanks for asking. The sickness is still nothing compared to last preg however the food adversions are CRAZY this time around! Last night DH said he wanted chinese I said okay and got what I always get (I'm a creature of habit) well I felt horrible for DH buying it all cause as it was sitting in front of me my baby in there was saying "no thank you" in advance. I couldn'd eat it. It doesn't seem like just nausia exactly.... it's like I'll eat something (random things at any time) that will just not agree with me and then my stomach will be upset for the rest of the day. I'm handling it okay tho and DH is being sweet to pieces (he's folding the four loads of laundry he washed today as I write!) A second ago I hopped up on the couch and pulled out the doppler again. I did this morning too. This time it took maybe 3 minutes to find (as opposed to the 1 hour the first time) I'm thinking that I'm beginning to find all of the babys hang out spots in there. Now that I know what I'm doing with that doppler... I truly feel it is WONDERFUL. I can't say it enough. The other day DH wanted to hear so he asked me to pull it out and find the baby... I did pretty quickly and his words were "That thing was so worth the money" Remember we actually bought this one. I think as the scare period continues to creep up on us the doppler picked a fantastic time to start picking up the heartbeat for us. Its SOOO rea__suring to hear that adorablly fast beating! I am just continuing to pray that all is truly well in there with this baby. I realize that altho we can hear the heartbeat that something could still happen at any moment... I am thankful to have this memory of the heartbeat tho. DH and I are gunna record it this week on the video journal we've been making. I'm very excited about the appt on thursday! I can't wait to see this bean dancing in there! If you remember we did not get to see our baby moving last time... So seeing that will definately give me peace too. BRYANDI... I am sure the doctor will be able to find the heartbeat on tuesday!!! So exciting! I can't wait to hear how truly wonderful it was for you to hear! ERIN.... wow the 2WW! I remember being there! I'm crossing all my fingers and pa__sing any remaining baby dust I still have to you! I pray this is your month... how WONDERFUL would that be! Then you can start telling us your stories of being sick and nausiated! lol JILL... still wondering how you are girl?? Let us know when you have time. I'm thinking about you tho and hoping the morning sickness isn't too much to handle for ya! Okay ladies I'll be around...

 

jstaley1228 - May 18

Hey, girlies! Sorry I didn't update last week on me but it just felt like the time to focus my entry on Jourdan. I miss her already. Well,... we saw a great little heartbeat last week. It was amazing. Baby was measuring 8 weeks and 3 days. Just where I thought it would be. That puts my due date at Dec 18th. I have a bunch of great pics of the little "baby blob" to oogle everyday now. My DH framed one for his desk. He is such a goof but it was fun to see him finally get excited. As for me, I have been so, so sick.I can't complain too much as this is all I have ever wanted but if I'm not barfing right now I am battling sever constipation. I had to hit up the store at 1:30 this morning for some Miralax. The nurse told me that was one "stool softner" I could safely use (Sound right, Erin?). It's rough but I'm keeping my eye on the "prize". MissP, I hope your appt goes good tomorrow and your levels are up. I'm also keeping you and DH in my prayers for the visa thing! Bryandi, Shana, how are my "close due date buddies"? Good luck on the appt on Tuesday, Bryandi. That's cool about your doppler, Shana. I was on the fence about getting one but after Jourdan's post's I have decided against it. I'm sure I would drive myself nuts. Erin, 2ww...I do not envy you that. I always HATED it. I would just swear everything was a symptom. I will be rooting for you! Whoa...I almost killed myself just now with some lovely gas I've been having today. Yikes...I am so gross. Shelly, hows the Dancing Carson? I can't believe how close your are to seeing him! Ahhh... it's good to be back, girls. I have no traveling for a while now. I am debating on when to break the news to my boss. He's a pretty good friend too so it should be interesting. I don't imagine he'll be too suprised. He knows we've been working on the baby for a while. I would totally tell him sooner if he tried to make me go on any trips right about now. I could NOT handle a plane right now. Well, girlies...gonna go gas out the DH for a while. I'm sure the fresh air in the living room is starting to get to him so I'll go "fragrance" things up for him. Hee hee...I'm evil but I kinda think he should share in some of the joys of this first trimester with me, right? Night ladies. I'll check in tomorrow. Jourdan, if you ever peek in I'm missing you and thinking of you all the time.

 

smmom2 - May 18

Ladies.....good evening. I am glad you are checking in. MISSP....good to hear you are resting and drinking lots of water. Please be sure to let us know what the doc says. I pray your fluid has increased and that you get your visa papers tomarrow!!! For the love of it...it has been long enough!!! If not, maybe you should just fly home this week and see a doc!!!! As for measuring big..it is common to measure bigger and smaller within a week or two. So...dont worry !!!! He is growing nice !!!!!! BRYANDI.... I pray you also get good news on Tuesday at your appt....that bean is growing strong and healthy!!! Lemon drops....they help so much with the nausea !!! Also peppermints....SHANAT...this goes for you as well !!! You ladies have a couple weeks of this ahead of you...at least what...6 weeks or so...so try them..they worked well for me. Carson had me so so sick until 16 weeks...that was all that helped. As for the foods you like before being pg....throw that out the window!!! I love chicken...but it is alot harder for me to eat it while pg. SO....eat what sounds good !!! I am going to to watch DES. Housewives....have a good night ladies!!!

 

smmom2 - May 18

Jill...you so made me laugh with fragrancing the living room !!! HAHA..poor DH. That is one thing I hate about being pg....the gas never goes away !! No matter wa\hat you do. As for the constipation...ask your OB for a prenatal vitamin with a stool softner...it is the only thing that works for me !!! Honestly !!! I am glad your traveling is over with..and I would tellyour boss..hey...you know what....I am really ga__sy this week huh !! You know why...I am pg!!! HAHA. JOURDAN>..I know you are checking on us...and you know we love you...so come back when you are ready. Take time to rest and heal..both physically and mentally. Jill..thanks for asking..Carson is doing well in there...I am able to feel hiccups...which is ok as long as I am feeling something ( right MISSP!! ) and he rolls around and yes..still dancing. Thank GOD !! Literally !! I know I will feel he is safe in there, when I give birth !!!

 

Erin_thenurse - May 19

MissP, the stress must be killing you!! I can’t wait to hear your scan tomorrow. I hope that the amniotic fluid has increased and the fact that you have been drinking your weight in water, has paid off! Would this visa just hurry up already!!!! You need to get out of the stress and the heat and get to some better care! Well today is Monday so it could happen today! As for moving to another thread to talk about baby stuff, I personally enjoy hearing about everybody pregnancy because it gives me a chance to hope for my own. BRYANDI, my dog is trying to do the same thing, adding numbers and letters and biting the computer! 11 weeks this week, right? Sorry to hear about your increasing morning sickness! Hopefully, it will only last a few more weeks and then you’ll feel better the rest of your pregnancy. Come one Tuesday!!! Hopefully everything will be just great and you’ll get to hear you little one heartbeat! What is your 15 month olds name?? 2 years apart…that is perfect! SHANAT, poor girls, everyone is having this morning sickness! And has an appointment this week. I wish you the best of luck for Thursday, seeing your little bean swim around! WOW that Doppler is so worth it! Where did you get it and how much did it cost?(if you don’t mind me asking) How many weeks were you when you first started using it and were able to hear your little bean? How is the packing going??? I know that move must be coming up! JUDI, how the af coming?? Ughh, I wanted to have it so we could start ttc but still it makes you feel yucky! JILL, Yeah for the great news!!!!! I am so happy that you heard the heartbeat! Yeah for 8 weeks!!!! HEHE, I thinkthat was my favorite part of pregnancy….the gas! SHELLY, thanks for the always encouraging words!! How is LISA SHAB, IRIAK, Sarah9, DECBaby, Tiger, Clauds and BREEZ doing?? Miss you girls!

 

Erin_thenurse - May 19

JOURDAN, I miss you so much. It's just not the same without you! Peak your head in here and say hello if you feel up to it! Praying for you girl!

 

nicola_g - May 19

hiyaaa i was wondering if you's could help me please!!! i had a chemical miscarriage 5weeks 3 days ago today and i was 6 and a half weeks gone.....i still haven't had my period and i have had unprotected s_x with my partner a few times and i was wondering if i could be pregnant again so soon???

 

ShanaT - May 19

ERIN.... hey girl... yeah this doppler...AH! Best thing ever! I woke up this morning and listened again. It's not even that I'm worried and so I pull it out.... its just that I miss that sound and so I pull it out again! I'm never even nervous finding it... with all these symptoms! I know beanie baby in there is okay! lol! Ummm.... lets see I did A LOT of research on brands before we bought. Then I heard buying off ebay (BRAND NEW) was a better price. So that's what we did. There are companys that sell them on ebay... they are not used... they are brand new. I did not want to take my chanses with a used one of somebody's. The brand is CONTEC POCKET FETAL DOPPLER. It meausures at 3 mh--- that is IMPORTNANT. Ummm... I started using it as soon as it came in the mail... I was not even 6 weeks LOL! But it was more for the fun of it. I then put it aside and was dealing with the house stuff and then pulled it back out the exact day I was 9 weeks! And LOW AND BEHOLD there was that fast little beat we had been waiting on! I cried of course! I was REALLY shocked! It had said 8 weeks at the eariest.....12 weeks at the latest.... usually around 10 weeks people hear on this particular doppler. And being that I am NOT a skinny minnie... I thought it would be 12 weeks for sure! Nope 9 weeks exactly and I probably would have heard it sooner had I still be trying. It was loud and clear that day... no struggle to hear. Oh... it was like $115.00 give or take and I believe the shipping was free. I think that was all your questions about it. Oh about packing.... yeah I'm suppost to be doing that now and so am not! lol! I'm gunna go shopping for a bit and then swing by the lab for my early glucose test (YUCK! NASTY ORANGE DRINK!) Maybe I'll pack when I get back. DH started his new job this week... training week tho so it's still here in the cleveland area. I'm not working anymore so I have like all week to pack right??? lol... I promise I won't wait til friday! Okay I'm off! OH! JSTALEY we are closer than we first thought! My EDD is the 17th! HA! So glad everything was wonderful!!!!!!!

 

ShanaT - May 19

NICOLA..... absolutely you could be pregnant already! You should test when you can. With a chemical preg it usually does not take as long for your body to recover. Hope this helps!

 

Judi Sarah - May 19

MRSHATH - i hope you are reading b/c i really do think this place will give you comfort. especially considering everyone is writing with such carea and concern for you. i am glad your dh is so supportive and great, God bless. thanks for the email address, i will definitely email you. mine is judi dot sarah at gmail dot com if anyone ever wants to contact me if i ever go MIA. SMMOM - thanks for asking me to chime in. there's so much catching up to do w/everyone. how's carson? MISSP - please don't feel like that. even though i am not even in ttc mode, i don't want you pg ladies to feel they have to go to another thread. i am happy for you all, but of course sad and frustrated w/my own situation, but i have faith in God. btw, thanks for sharing info about your faith. JSTALEY and SHANAT- so very glad that your appts went well. BRYANDI - when did you ever make sense? haha, kidding. i hope you feel better! ERIN - i don't know how you don't get frustrated. as i mentioned before, i was always on a pretty regular cycle. after this stupid d&e, i had to take provera to get af and i took prevera again this time to get af, but still no sign of her. my edd is approaching fast and i can't even ttc. i am getting really frustrated and just don't understand why this is happening. my first af came 54 days after d&e and today it has been 39 days and still no af. plus, as i may have mentioned before, after af i have to get an HSG so i can't start trying immediately after since i want to know the results of the HSG before jumping into getting pg and later finding out that God forbid there is something wrong w/my uterus which could be fixed if i am not pg. ugh. my bro-in-law's wedding is coming up in aug. and we keep talking about dancing and in the back of my head and in the bottom of my heart, i am praying that i can't dance much b/c i'll be pg. please pray ladies. please. i am mentally falling apart. last week i had to close my door and i just started crying b/c i heard that my estranged brother just had a baby. i was so happy for him, but so upset that my baby wasn't still with me. ugh. sorry for the long post. thank you very much for reading. TIGER - welcome to the group, i am sorry for your loss. i also bled for 3 weeks after d&e, so apparently, it's not that unusual.

 

Judi Sarah - May 19

TIGER - i also forgot to mention, that i don't really blame drs unless they have acted or omitted to act in a way they should have (i.e., as MISSDESTINY has told us her drs had). otherwise, they are only human and can only tell us so much. but if you are not comfortable w/your dr or don't trust him/her, then you should definitely move on to another one. good luck w/what you decide and let us know.

 

ShanaT - May 19

CURSE THE ORANGE DRINK! Got up this morning feeling so good... went for the glucose and now I'm miserablly nausous! Uggg.... gunna go lay down. ERIN... so much for packing when I got back...

 

MissP - May 19

Hi girls, im just checking in and its good to read all your posts. Ive not had the best of days but trying very hard to just relax and tell myself that all this is out of my control and will be home sooner or later. Still no visa or date for when its coming. Its almost 2 wks late now, but hey hum and thats life! We also had our scan this morning. Well it was kind of good and bad. The liquid is still low, measuring at aprox 10cm and last time it was 9.4cm, so about the same, but i found out that last time they made an error and only measured 3 quadrants of the sack and so now theyve measured all 4 and its measuring almost the same, so that could mean its still going down. It means last time it was a little higher than what they told me. Tyler seems fine tho, heartbeat still at 148 and again the measurements have freaked m out as now they are measuring him small again, i tell you, i just dont know what to think anymore. I just want him to make it another 2 months at least! Im telling myself that if hes loosing 1cm of fluid every 2 weeks then he has at least 8wks until its considered a dangerous level. By then i should be 28wks and at least he could survive if he was born, or they can do a procedure where they inject fluid inside to keep the baby alive for a little longer. So im still resting and drinking a tonne of water. My dh is being great and giving me lots of hugs to try and keep me feeling ok and doing a lot of stuff for me. Hes told me that he knows the baby will be fine...im just praying a lot and i wish i could have his a__surance. Im just a worrier and hes not!! So anyway thats whats happening. Thanks girls for your thoughts x x x

 

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