Stefkay I Have A Question For You

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linds99 - February 6

I saw that you posted a similar situation to my mc. I still have not even begun to spot or anything (today is the two week mark since the baby lost its heartbeat). I also was on progesterone oil (this was an IVF cycle). My question is how many days did you endure before you started to spot/bleed and how long did it take for the process to be completed?

 

stefkay - February 6

Hi linds, so sorry you are in the middle of this. The waiting was the WORST for me and I only had to wait a week. It was awful :-( But, I found out by u/s that the heart had stopped about 3 weeks after it had actually happened--I had no signs, still had increasing symptoms, etc., so that was weird. So that was Jan. 16 I think, and about 4 days after that appt. I called my dr. and said I couldn't take it anymore and that I wanted a d&c...she scheduled me the soonest they could and that was a week from the day I called. Then on the 22nd I started to spot and on the 23rd it all came out (cramps started in the middle of the night/early morning of the 23rd). It went on all day and I couldn't go anywhere because I actually hemorraged. By the 24th I only had mild cramping and was having like a medium flow period. So in all, it took about 4 weeks for my body to recognize and let it go. Oh! I was on progesterone suppositories from 5 weeks and stopped them the day I found out the baby died. So, if you have stopped the progesterone (the progesterone can not save the pregnancy, but it can prolong the time it takes for your body to m/c naturally) if you are like me, then it would take about a week to happen. Just a big big guess. I didn't want a d&c either because I've had 2 already and am afraid of scarring which could cause fertility issues later. My dr. said there was a low chance of that though. Please keep me posted as to what's going on. {{{HUGS}}}

 

stefkay - February 7

linds, hopefully the blood tests will tell something. If they are going down I think that m/c should happen on it's own. I wish my dr had checked my hcg levels more. I don't think she did much in that area. They took blood to confirm pregnancy and then again to see if it doubled and it did. That was very early on. I read so many people here had multiple blood tests to watch the levels rise over the first weeks. Really, if I had known when it happened I probably wouldn't have been able to wait 4 weeks. What does your dr. suggest? Also, you'll probably know when it is starting to happen because for me I spotted for like 2 or 3 days and the cramps got worse the day before, so I kind of knew it would be soon. Ugh, I'm so sorry...it's such a rough spot to be in. But know there is a light at the end of the tunnel. When it was over I was surprised by how relieved I felt instead of feeling worse.

 

linds99 - February 7

Actually, my doctor only checked my HCG levels twice when I first got pregnant and then about 2 days later to see the numbers double. I didn't have HCG checked again until the heart had stopped and by then, my HCG levels were at 36,000 and went down to 23,000 a week later, so they are gonna check to see it go down to below the 5 mark (even after I get a D&C if I need to next week.) But I went for the u/s today, and they said "no change from last week" it has been 2 weeks since losing the heartbeat, and still nothing. But I did get some really nasty discharge this morning-not blood- but really watery and it had a yellowish tinge to it. I went to check my cervix to see if it is low and it is, so maybe something is going on, there also was alot of cm in there too. I wonder if that is a sign of m/c too? Still waiting to hear what the doctor is going to do for me today..how are you doing? Are you gonna try again soon?

 

stefkay - February 7

That's weird...I had that same watery discharge too. I was always told watery discharge was normal in pregnancy, and I'm sure it is, but it seemed like a lot and I think it had a yellow tinge to it. I remember worrying that the sac was leaking or something! I do want to try again, just not sure that my boyfriend is totally on board. He'd rather just wait years I swear. We've been together for 6, living together for 5 years and he hates seeing me go through the miscarriages. We didn't even think about it for 2 years after the 3rd one. The two in between though weren't that bad though because they were very very early, basically chemical pregnancies. If I had to go through what I went through the first and last times I probably would give up I swear. I don't think we are supposed to even think about it for 3 months and I want to stick by that, but we aren't using protection and I'm afraid of "accidentally" getting pg too soon. My cycles could be wacky for a bit after the m/c so I don't know when I'm fertile or not!

 

linds99 - February 7

That is all I can think about now, trying again too!! Maybe you can talk to your boyfriend and reiterate how women don't have alot of time, and if you are prone to m/c, you will need more time than other women to get it to happen. Really, I worry about time alot. I am only 30, but I have PCOS, and I am susceptible to m/c, so that is all I sing in my head...that stupid Bonnie Raitt song "Scared to Run out of Time...." that is constantly going on in my head. What a terrible "anthem" to carry right? I say the best way to get over this horrible stuff is to keep trying, don't you agree?

 

stefkay - February 7

AHHHHH! Exactly how I feel!!! I've told him all that stuff and I just don't think guys understand. I just turned 31 and have been steadily freaking out more and more since I turned 30! LOL :-) He's 29, so not only a guy but still in his 20s. He has a 10 year old son that lives way out of state with his mother, so I think that factors in too of course. He always tells me we have so much time. People don't realize I'm like IN MY 30s!!!! I'm told I look like I'm in my early-mid 20s, so I just dont feel taken seriously a lot. I'm so sorry about the PCOS, I do know a girl who I was on the first trimester board with who has it and is now 12-13 weeks pregnant with a healthy baby! It can totally happen. I've worried that I have it, but doc ruled that out. Somethin else is going on though. The only thing they found so far is a mutation called MTHFR (there is a thread on here for it) and it messes up folic acid metabolization. I will need to take megadoses of folic acid next time I get pregnant and I really hope that is the problem I've been having, because if it is, then it is totally treatable and I can rest a__sured next time :-)

 

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