Told No Heartbeat At 10 Weeks

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julie mc - February 27

on weds 23rd feb i had an appointment for an ultrasound i didnt have a clue how far preg i was i presumed i was about 12 weeks so i couldnt wait to find out, when i got there the nurse said the baby had no heartbeat and it died at 9 weeks & 5-6 days. it got me thinking and when i looked at calender i could have only been that far gone. i had no symtoms of miscarriage so i was in denial, when i spoke to the doc she was convinced i should have been 12 to 14 weeks preg but i didnt think so, anyway she give me the benefit of the doubt and booked me in for another scan in 2 weeks in the mean time i have to sit back and wait if i bleed i have to contact them. i have come to terms with the loss but i still live in hope that maybe, also i was convinced i may have been havin twins please anyone give me advise what do you think

 

stacey - February 27

I think that you were smart to get another scan. Was it intrav____al or on the belly? What makes you think that you were having twins?

 

julie mc - February 27

i only thought i was having twins because i expanded very quickly waist and belly plus i was extremly ill with morning sickness actually being sick 3 times a day, i had the scan on the belly

 

julie mc - February 27

oh my mum is a twin and my dads brothers are,

 

Kara - February 27

Loosing a baby is really hard. You will find that there are a lot of woman just like you having the same experiences and feeling the same pain. A second scan is good idea if you feel you need it. Personally, I could not stand the idea of waiting to have a natural miscarriage. I opted to have d&c. I couldn't start healing emotionally while I was still carrying the baby. Everyone is different and there is no right or wrong way to feel or to grieve the loss. Please explain a little more about your feeling about twins.

 

julie mc - February 27

i dont think much really about the twins the only thing i worry about is if there is twins and they coulnt see the other one so one has died and the other one is still alive my other feelings is that the heart beat hasnt been detected and when i next go for scan there will be one but i know im probably wishing and its not reality

 

Kara - February 27

The u/s techs are very well trained and they know what to look for. I'm sure it might be possibly that they could miss something, but highly unlikely. I had an u/s at 6 weeks just to confirm how many weeks along we were. The heartbeat was very obvious. It was very easy to see and we were so excited. When they couldn't find the heartbeat at my 15 wk appointment, they did another u/s. It was very obvious that there wasn't a heartbeat. We didn't need anyone to tell us, we could see for ourselves. It was the saddest day of my life. I know that you are trying to hold on to some kind of hope. That's ok for now. You will come to terms with it in your own time.

 

julie mc - February 27

thanx kara, its so hard but i know now that i have had a miscariage but i dont understand why i havnt bled yet, i think once i do then i will be happy to accept it more then i will come to terms with it

 

Kara - February 27

I never bled or cramped or anything before the d&c. I know it comes as a big shock since there are no physical symtoms to prepare you for what's happening. But after a few days I actually took some comfort in the fact that my body held on to the baby. At least I know that I don't have a structual issue with my reproductive organs. My cervix held like the hoover dam. It did not want to let go of the baby.

 

stacey - February 27

Julie mc- ask for an intrav____al u/s nexttime ( you have an empty bladder)-they can see the heartbeat better- if there is one- sorry! Do you still have symptoms? When you go, ask about the possibility of twins. As I said before, I think you are smart to ask for a second u/s. I lost my baby on Jan 28th. They first saw a weak heartbeat, and a week later-none. Even thought they also said the size wasn't correct, I sometimes wonder (even though I know they were right and know what they are doing) if pehaps they could have been wrong. Atleast with the second one, you might feel more at rest with things- and hopefully there will be another one in there- or the small possibility of a heartbeat. GOOD LUCK!!!

 

julie mc - February 28

thanx for your comment, i do still feel preg the symptoms are still there, its just a waiting game now time will tell thank you so much

 

jodi - February 28

I'm going thru the same thing 9wks no hb and twins I go back in 2wks but I'm scared no signs no bleeding

 

julie mc - March 1

to jodi, i feel so sorry for you what are your feelings have you been told there is still a chance for you

 

jaysmom - March 2

Hi, I am 21 years old ansd in the same position. I went to the doctor at 7 weeks and saw a baby and heartbeat. Then a week ago at 9w4d my doctor said that she couldn't find a heartbeat. I was sad and confused. I still have had no symptoms of a m/c. Maybe you and I both should get a second opinion.

 

- March 7

 

stacey - March 7

i'm not saying this to be mean, b/c it's the same thing that happened to me- but- if they saw the heartbeat the first time, there is usally no mistake if they can't find it the second time. I know it hurts, and there were times when I didn't believe it either, but I have heard once it's been seen, it's not hard to miss. Sorry!

 

S - March 7

Hi Everyone, I too was told at 8 weeks that there was no heartbeat even though one was detected at 7 weeks, I go in tomorrow for a ERPC and am still wondering they made a mistake but I did have three scans last week from two different health provider. So it must be right, I still have pregnacy symptoms, I think I'll start grieving properly tomorrow once I have had the sac taken out. Couldn't stand the thought of waiting to miscarry naturally. Good luck to everyone else out there waiting for a heartbeat really hope you hear it and have healthy babies.

 

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