WHAT CAN I DO TO HELP

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P.M.O. - June 28

I AM 22 WEEKS PREGNANT, I WORK WITH A LADIE WHO IS 29 SIX YEARS OLDER THAN I. I ALREADY HAVE A CHILD SHE HAS NONE. WELL ON FATHERS DAY SHE MISCARRIED SHE WAS 15 WEEKS PREGNANT. WE TALKED A LOT ABOUT OUR PREGNANCY'S AND OF COURSE THEY WERE DIFFERENT BECAUSE THIS IS MY SECOND. WELL SINCE THEN SHE DOESN'T WANT TO BE ANY WHERE AROUND ME AND DOES NOT EVEN LOOK IN MY GENERAL DIRECTION I WANT TO BE THERE FOR HER AND WANT TO BE ABLE TO HELP HER THROUGH THIS BUT I WAS TOLD TO JUST KEEP MY DISTANCE FROM HER. IS THERE ANYTHING I CAN DO FOR HER EVEN THOUGH SHE DOESN'T WANT TO BE AROUND ME????PLEASE HELP!!!!

 

Eza - June 28

Give her time and space, she is not mad at you. She is grieving. Maybe get her a plant she can plant in her yard in memory of her baby. Send a note letting her know you care about her. (My son was stillborn at 20 weeks we planted a tree in our yard in his memory and we call it our Samuel Tree).

 

Eza - June 28

p.s. I think after she has time she will come around you again. Just be patient.

 

PMO - June 28

I TRIED THAT SHE PUT IT BACK ON MY DESK

 

Eza - June 28

Im sorry, there really is nothing else you can do but give her space b/c you dont want to bug her either. It took me 6 weeks before I could even be around people again when I lost my son. I think its very kind of you to want to help.

 

Tiff - June 28

I've had two miscarriages ... I'm 25 and have 4 friends pg right now and one who just had her baby. It is so hard to be around pg people after you just lost your baby. I don't hate my friends b/c their pregnant .... in fact I'm happy for them and wish them all the best. But right after both of my m/c I really didn't want to be around them. As much as you won't like to hear this .... You need to give her some space. She will come around but it has to be when she's ready. Right now she's greiving and she's feeling like life is really unfair. When she is ready to come around you just be their to support her ... that's what friends are for.

 

Marisa - June 28

Hi, as a woman who recently m/c i can say that it has been impossible for me to be around anyone preg. I teach prenatal cla__ses and i have had to cancel them. I fell such jealosy towards anyone pregnant. WHen i see some of my pregnant friends around the workplace i almost try to duck and hide. They are all being very suppotive and caring towards me but i cannot bring myself to face them. I am not mad at them i just find it too upsetting to see anyone preg aven total strangers. I think it is starting to get a little better and hopefully your friend will gradually start to feel a little better. I dont think there is anything you could do, or thats how i feel. just remain supportave at a distance and wait it out,. i hope my true friends wuill wait it out and still be there when i feel better. I sure she still cares for you deeply and in time i hope your friendship will be back to normal. hope this heloped some take care

 

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