44 Pregnant And Alone

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Heather - September 13

All I can say is....the first time you look down on that sweet little face, you'll know you're not alone. You and that little one are a family, and he or she is going to love you for loving himor her enough to see things that way. In April I'm looking forward to looking down on our 5th little one's sweet face. It doesn't matter if you've got 1 or 15....you're the only precious mommy your little one has. God's best to you.

 

Mum again at 41 - September 24

Im sure you will love this experience of being a mum - enjoy every minute of it and make sure you join some baby groups when junior arrives for company and support - Good Luck

 

Alison - September 29

Hello Julie Congratulations! I think it is fantastic. I am so envious. I am 43 and a half and wish you everything. I'm single, too, and wondering whether your route could work for me... Anytime you want to chat, just contact me on [email protected] Best wishes Alison

 

Apryll - September 29

JULIA - Motherhood will be a BLESSING at any age! You know the actress Holly Hunter? Well she is 47 and I believe she is pregnant with twins right now! Plus everyone else on this board puts you in good company. Dont worry about being too "oldish". If anything brings out the youthfulness in a woman it is her children! Whoo Hoo for you!

 

Tracy - September 29

Hi Julie, I am 39 and 12 weeks prego, and also alone...I will be 40 in two months. I had another child at 14 years (young mother) and he is 25 now. I raised my son as a single parent, never married, still waiting for that "soulmate" . I will be raising this child single parent also and feel that it is a wonderful and empowering experience. It happens naturally when we are coming from the place of trusting that all things work out divinely as we go through our lives with integrity...Good luck to you... and, enjoy this special time in your life, and, the little "miracle" growing inside of you...

 

anonymous99 - June 26

O, please have the baby and be joyous. Children will always be picked on at school, little ones can be bratty and will most likely find something, parents should teach them better. Teach your child to be strong and confident and no getting picked on will affect him that much. You and that child will be best buddies, you won't be alone.

 

anonymous99 - June 26

hi, anyone over 40 and wanting to share how they conceived?...besides the obvious, of course.

 

ibk8t - June 27

Hi anonymous99....are you trying to get pregnant? I am 43 and conceived naturally using an evening primrose supplement.....3000 mgs daily....We had only just decided to start trying on May 15th, and found out on the 18th that we we had already conceived....we had been using rhythm for contraception (not very well obviously) but weren't really concerned because of my age and the fact that I am missing one tupe and ovary. I thought it would take months and possibly fertility drugs to conceive.... The Evening Primrose oil apparently changes your cervical mucous allowing the sperm to live up to 5 days inside you....which would explain why rhythm didn't really work...

 

anonymous99 - June 27

hi, ibk8T, congratulations to you and yours, best wishes...thank you so much for sharing your story....yes I am trying to conceive and give birth to a healthy child....we're still fresh in the game...i love to hear others journeys...

 

anonymous99 - July 11

hi, just need to vent. I was married at age 37, I wanted to begin TTC on the honeymoon but hubbie was reluctant. I would have begun before then if it were up to me but anyways....my younger sister died tragically and he suggests that is one of the reasons. I don't know what to believe. I just think he wanted to control when, etc. This was not fair to me especially now since I'm playing race the bio clock. Then my eldest sister was diagnosed and died of cancer. She left a baby behind and other issues one being a horrible husband/father and mom taking it out on me....So from 37 until 40 there was enough tragedies and negative emotion, did not TTC. I have resentment towards my deceased sisters, mother and husband. How do I handle this? Any advice? Is anyone using Fertility Blend?

 

Sue Z. - July 11

anonymous99, I'm so sorry for all the hearbreak and pain you have suffered. My thoughts are with you. Please do not waste ANY time and go have a fertility work up with an RE just to be on the safe side. Have your Estridol and FSH tested to see where you are at fertility wise. It will not hurt to have it checked and it could save you the pain I've been suffering. This should be normal protocal for women over 35. I wish you the best of luck.

 

anonymous99 - July 12

Hi Sue Z, you are sweet!.....I did have midcycle hormone testing....I won't do clomid and I'm not sure about injectables to speed things up. I have used Fertility Blend for one cycle or two so far and my luteal phase increased by 3 days.... We've had about 3 good timings. One of them was a chemical or as I like to call it mini mini meeting of eggie and sperm. Sue Z what have you been suffering with?.....

 

Sue Z. - July 13

anonymous99, I've been suffering with a husband who didn't listen to me when I told him at 35 you never wait to have a baby. I had my son 3 months before I turned 35 and I also have an antibody disorder that caused 2 m/c's prior to having my son. I had to take blood thinners and baby asprin to stay pregnant. I can't help but resent my husband for all of his stupid excuses for not having our second child. Now, we are talking about adopting a little girl from over seas. I have to try and see the positives of this. I'd be happy to give a child a home and the love that she needs.

 

anonymous99 - July 13

Sue Z I am sending you hugs I am sooo sorry for your pain too .you sound like me. ....dealing with resentment is a difficult thing...I don't know what it is about men. I think most of them take the TTC thing for granted. I'm still trying to figure out mine, but I so do understand your resentment. There's a website that has true stories of women conceiving over 40. I'll look for it in my stuff and post it.

 

Sue Z. - July 13

anonymous99, Thank you for the hugs, I really appreciate them. I'm sending them to you as well. Right around my AF time I sink pretty low about this I would say almost into a depression and then I work my out of it and I get so excited about having a daughter that is out there waiting for me. I need her probably more than she needs me. The thing is about trying to get pregnant is that it is so stressful even without the drugs. I think most people are having s_x a lot more than me. I get so stressed about it I don't even want to try. I have to take blood thinners the day I ovulate and I don't have any. My FSH is 15.2, which is bad. Sometimes I feel like these feelings will never go away. Hopefully, by next week I'll feel better. I don't have the greatest marriage either. We just got out of counseling in March. My husband was verbally and emotionally abusive for 6 our of the 9 years we have been married. Only now has he realized that he can't just say anything too me. I;m not the most forgiving person either. I haven't forgotten the way he has treated me. It still hurts and I still resent him about the second baby. We agreed on two children when we got married and he failed me totally. I would not have married him if he didn't agree on two children and I wouldn't have married him if he treated me the way he did over the past few years. So needless to say , there's no a lot of bd going on at my house. I'm just venting and I'm trying because of my son. We both love him soooo much and I don't want to hurt him. But honestly, if it wasn't for him, I'd of left two years ago and I remember the day. My husband screamed and used the F word at me infront of our son at age 3. Like I said, I haven't forgotten and I don't know how my life ended up to be so sad. I love my son more than words can say, but if some one told me my story 10 years ago, my son would be the only reason I'd relive this. Thanks for listening to my sad story.

 

anonymous99 - July 14

anonymous99, Thank you for the hugs, I really appreciate them. I'm sending them to you as well. Right around my AF time I sink pretty low about this I would say almost into a depression and then I work my out of it and I get so excited about having a daughter that is out there waiting for me. I need her probably more than she needs me. The thing is about trying to get pregnant is that it is so stressful even without the drugs. I think most people are having s_x a lot more than me. I get so stressed about it I don't even want to try. I have to take blood thinners the day I ovulate and I don't have any. My FSH is 15.2, which is bad. Sometimes I feel like these feelings will never go away. Hopefully, by next week I'll feel better. I don't have the greatest marriage either. We just got out of counseling in March. My husband was verbally and emotionally abusive for 6 our of the 9 years we have been married. Only now has he realized that he can't just say anything too me. I;m not the most forgiving person either. I haven't forgotten the way he has treated me. It still hurts and I still resent him about the second baby. We agreed on two children when we got married and he failed me totally. I would not have married him if he didn't agree on two children and I wouldn't have married him if he treated me the way he did over the past few years. So needless to say , there's no a lot of bd going on at my house. I'm just venting and I'm trying because of my son. We both love him soooo much and I don't want to hurt him. But honestly, if it wasn't for him, I'd of left two years ago and I remember the day. My husband screamed and used the F word at me infront of our son at age 3. Like I said, I haven't forgotten and I don't know how my life ended up to be so sad. I love my son more than words can say, but if some one told me my story 10 years ago, my son would be the only reason I'd relive this. Thanks for listening to my sad story. = Hi SueZ, o, I am sooo sorry your husband was a numbnut to you. I relate to you on quite a few levels. Would you consider buying a clearblue fertility monitor. It detects your LH surge, the hormone that surges right before the eggie is released, you most likely know that already, but that way you can s_x only once out of the month. I have s_x issues with my husband too. Either his work hours are way too long and he is tired or possible stress related erection issues and sometimes just plain don't want to have s_x cause he was being insensitive. I was already to divorce mine after some of his "psychotic" fits after my younger sister commited suicide then the eldest was diagnosed of cancer. I deal with resent ment too. It's not the bestest of feelings..as you know. SueZ I am going to post another TTC board that is really great, great info on how to reduce FSH with herbs, acupuncture, etc. There is a lovely woman on the board whose FSH was 15 and got it reduced to 9.7. I'm glad for you that at least your husband is going to counseling and realizing his wrongs. You are not wrong for still being hurt about things. Forgiving is one long process. And I can just imagine the joy your son must bring you and makes it all worth while. I'm going to post that website for you. There's many women who get depressed when their AF shows up, me included, and it's great to vent there too. I'll be right back.

 

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