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Jami - October 8th, 2005 11:50 PM

I am 45 years old and expexting my 3rd child. I have 2 daughters, 23 &10 years old. This time we're having a boy! What I thought was early menopause turned out to be a baby! Just wondering if anyone else out ther is in the same spot with much older children and a baby on the way.

Tammy - October 9th, 2005 9:53 AM

Jami- I am also 45 and have a 20 yr old daughter and a 4 yr old son and am also expecting a boy on 10/28. I don't quite know if I thought this was menopause, but I was clearly in denial. I have had a really great pregnancy, aside from the usual last month stuff. I am at the point where I want it to end now...Last night my son, my husband, and myself put the crib together and the bedding on. It made it very real. Me and my husband looked at each other and said "in a few weeks we are having another baby in this house!!" It is sometimes sureal. Good Luck with your pregnancy, When are you due?

Pam - October 9th, 2005 10:28 PM

I'm 41 and thinking about having my 1st baby. The statistics I'm reading are really scary.....what have you learned to be the truth?

to Pam - October 10th, 2005 2:16 AM

go for it now and don't expect a big family you'll be okay WHAT A BLESSING they are to have. I am 44 and my wife is 41 we had our last when she was 38 . The only hardship I have is praying everyday that I will get to know grandchildren ... that issue burdens me everyday and I'm sick of it ... sometimes I go about my day with a bit of a broken heart because I wore out a little earlier than I hoped when they want to play soccer . Nothing wrong with what you are doing but for me if I could have done this years ago I would have . Sorry to say this and don't take it the wrong way but I really do believe I am a little... maybe alot sick about not doing it earlier in life but wouldn't trade having kids for anything . Shit ... I really need to hear good stories from older people in the same situation as me and know their grandchildren . Sorry ... I'm not trying to put a twist into this . You'll be so happy trust me ! but don't be so happy that you end up like me . Hope noone feels the way I do .

Milie - October 11th, 2005 5:59 PM

I was 29 and my husband was 23 when we had our first child. Over the years my husband has said he was too young to be a father, he had been missing all the fun of being a single young guy like his friends. Now he is 30 and we are expecting our 3rd child. He's still saying he's too young to have so many kids already while all of his friends are still single. I guess no matter what age you are, you just have to make the best out of it: )

Maidencanada - October 12th, 2005 3:14 PM

I am 41. I have a 19 year old and a 14 year old, and a new hubby. I miscarried in July and am trying to conceive again. Some people think I am crazy to want another baby at my age but other people like my mom thinks differently. My mom is now 61 and she says she wishes she had of had a child while in her forties. That way instead of only having grandchildren to hug and give back she would still have teens in the house and she thinks that that sounds wonderful. My kids think it is great and were sad when I miscarried the last time. So congratulations and enjoy your baby!

susan - October 18th, 2005 7:06 AM

yes i have 3 daughters 23,22,19 and i have i little boy 15 months with my secound marrige and have another baby on the way 5 weekspregnant and i feel great our little boy keeps me on my feet but its werth it.

Silent_Wish - May 5th, 2006 4:03 PM

just read these great responses. Ive just turned 45 and im 21 days late although ive had 7 neg tests?. My doc did a blood test and the results were due today but ive been told they wont be back til Mon or Tues. We are so upset as we really want a little boy together ive never been late b4 always early. Any view or comments welcome.

Kristin72 - May 5th, 2006 6:39 PM

I just wanted to say congratulations..I am 38 and pregnant in my 12th week..with my first.. I too hope to have one more after this one ;)..Again far along are you? Kristin

Perl - May 9th, 2006 2:47 PM

Jami: I'm not in the same spot as you but just had to say CONGRATULATIONS to you!!! I also wanted to let you know that my brother and I have a 13 year gap in age between us (I was 13 when he was born). I feel closer with my little brother than I do with my sisters who are 4 and 5 years older than I am. I have no doubt your daughters too will adjust to the age gap and will be great helpers while they dote on their baby brother. To the husband who wrote "To Pam": you're still young and unless some unforeseen thing or illness happens to you, you will most likely be either 60 something or 70 something when your grandchild from your last child is born (depending on whether he/she has a child in their 20s or 30s), less likely that you'll be 80 something if they wait til their 40s. Either way, my own grandma is 87 and just starting to lose some of her spunk and energy but she's still very capable and very much alert and full of energy. The 70 year olds that I know are still full of loads of energy, taking trips overseas every year, driving all around town and involved with their hobbies with no problems. Don't worry that you won't know any grandkids--you most likely will. Besides, your own children will keep you younger longer.

elianah - May 9th, 2006 8:57 PM

Hi JAmi,

I'm new here. Congrats on your pregnancy. I am 7 days late. Did you feel warm. I don't feel like I have temperature but I feel hot a lot. I also took 2 home preg. tests and they were both negative. Last test was yesterday.

When should I test again? Thank you

Andrea H - May 10th, 2006 11:33 AM

For the ladies pregnant and over 35 years, did you use any kind of fertility aide? I'm 38 and have one 4 year old but we keep trying for another. Since 2004, I've had one tubal (lost my left tube), one miscarriage, and right now I'm waiting on results of my HCG levels to see if this one is viable. I'm pretty sure I don't have a fertility issue, but as I get older and keep losing pregnancies, I get worried about my eggs getting old and wonder if I'll need to resort to fertility aides. Any thoughts?

Perl - May 10th, 2006 4:40 PM

Andrea: First, congratulations on your pregnancy. I hope it all works out this time for you. I'm so sorry for what you've had to go through--loss of a tube and a miscarriage. I'm 37 and also had a miscarriage last year but, no I did not use any fertility treatment to become pregnant again (in my 12th week now). However, with one tube does your Dr. advise other options so that you protect the other tube? Only thing is that you needed to be a little more patient since it takes a little longer to wait for pregnancy right? You've gone through a lot in two years and I'm sure there were months right after the tubal pregnancy and after the miscarriage (at least about 6 months I'm guessing) where you may not have been trying to conceive. I hope this pregnancy will work out perfectly for you--good luck on your test results!

Karena - May 11th, 2006 3:58 AM

Hi i am 37 with a 17 year old daughter, a 13 year old son and a 2 year old son I have just found out that I am 12 weeks pregnant with my 4th child and exhausted. I haven't told my older children yet I think my daughter will freak although she dearly loves her little brother now she was not at all happy the last time and I am not sure how to approach the subject any ideas?????

Andrea H - May 11th, 2006 8:36 AM

Thank you Perl for the congrats but unfortunately the results were not good. My doctor said it isn't viable. I didn't mention in my posting that after the tubal in 2004, we tried when it was safe to do so without success. I read about Fertilaid on and tried it. I was pregnant within 3 weeks of using it. But that was the miscarriage last Nov. 1. So, in March I tried it again and was pregnant again (this one). I emailed the product manufacturer and they assure me that it would not be cause for miscarriages. So, I'll wait to pass this one and then some and try again. I'm just worried my eggs are getting old!! BTW, I'll be 39 in August.

Betul - May 11th, 2006 9:00 AM

Andrea, have you had a FSH test to check the quality of your eggs? it is a simple urine test done around day 3 of your cycle. It may put your mind to rest. Also I used the FertilAid too after one year of ttc and was pregnant my next cycle! I turned 39 in March and I am currently 19w. (When taking the FertilAid, did you take it only from day one of your cycle until ovulation? )

Andrea H - May 12th, 2006 1:28 PM

Betul - Thanks for that info. I'll have to ask my doctor about the test. I've never mentioned my concern about my eggs. I will this time. She's great and so optimistic and will probably to anything! I think I took the Fertilaid either right after my cycle or right when I started. I do know that I stopped when I suspected I was pregnant. What did you do?


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