Anyone A Little Disappointed With The Sex

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Linda99 - June 7

God help me for even saying it, my bby is healthy and I am so grateful for that, but last night we found out it's a boy and I can't help but be a little disappointed. I have 2 gorgeous nieces and was looking forward to having them play together and share clothes. Please forgive me for being a little sad :-(

 

eyes82000 - June 7

I found out a couple of weeks ago that I'm having a boy too! I already have a 5 year old son so I really was looking forward to having a girl. At first I was a little disappointed, but now I'm very excited and grateful that he is healthy and my son is thrilled to have a brother to play with.

 

lexa - June 7

I have an 8 1/2 year old son now, and was hoping I would have a boy this time around too. We found out 2 weeks ago that it's a girl. I have to admit that I was a little disappointed too. Actually, this is the only place I have admitted that out loud! I kept saying, I don't care as long as it's healthy, but I secretly "hoped". I am so very grateful that she is healthy! I couldn't ask for more! It's okay to be sad. Just think, he is healthy, and being the only boy...your neices will still absolutely love playing with him! Maybe even more so because he is a boy. And just think of how spoiled he will be! I keep thinking to myself, if I did have another boy, would I end up wanting to have a girl down the road? This is my last, so I will be grateful knowing that either way, I have 2 healthy beautiful children to love and cherish everyday. No matter what the s_x is. You may be sad, but once you see that gorgeous face, nothing else will matter. Not even the s_x:-)

 

Linda99 - June 7

Thanks for your posts. I'm counting on that moment that he's born! I've been picturing all morning what his little face will look like, hopefully he'll look like DH with blond hair and blue eyes. I think the disappointment fades a little each hour, I just feel so guilty feeling that way in the first place. But thank God he's healthy!

 

KellyO - June 7

Linda99 - I have 7 year son and my husband and I decided that we were only going to have two children and we both knew that we wanted a boy and a girl. I went out of my way to make sure I got a girl. I even got a book - How to choose the s_x of your Baby. Someone suggested it to me. Everyone I know who has it has got what they were trying for so I thought it couldn't hurt. I am not sure if I would swear by it but I found out that I was having a gril, so maybe that is something to think about next time, if you plan on having more. Good Luck!

 

Linda99 - June 7

Thanks Kelly, wish I had thought about it sooner! Although when I did conceive I was so happy I didn't care since it had taken me 7 months to concieve and mc and then another 3 months to conceive again. I'm just being silly I know, I'm sure he's going to be great! (But between you and me, next time (The final time!) I'll look into that book!

 

HannahBaby - June 7

Dont feel bad for feeling that way, its natural. I think i would have bee really upset if my first wasnt a girl. (shes 17 months now.) I was torn with this baby. I wanted a girl for hannah to be close with and because i have so many girl clothes, and i wanted a boy for my husband, (even though he said he wanted a girl, i know that he really wanted a boy) It looks as though we are indeed expecting a boy and hes really excited, and i am too. It doesnt mean that you love your baby any less because you are a little disappointed that its not a girl and once you stare into your sons eyes for the first time, trust me, it doesnt matter whats between its legs. Congrags and good luck.

 

Linda99 - June 7

Thanks Hannah. It helps to know I'm not alone in my disappointment, no matter how trivial it is. At least I have a forum like this to vent to - I wouldn't want my family to knwo I felt this way even though they all knew I wanted a girl. I don't feel right expressing it to them. I'd rather be happy about it with them and "get over it" in private (or as private as the internet can be HA HA!!)

 

mcatherine - June 7

Linda99, I went through 2 mc and a stillbirth of a son at 22 weeks. When I got pregnant this time, all I could say was please let the baby be healthy, I don't care what it is. We found out it was a boy and I was disappointed without ever having thought that I really wanted a girl. We have a 10 year old son and he is at the stage where he is dirty all the time, he smells like a boy, his room smells like a boy, he doesn't care if his clothes match, brushing his hair really means putting on his ballcap and he shoots me all the time and wants me to play dead. I guess it was all of those things that made me want the cuteness of a girl. But, even after all of this - there is nothing better in the entire world to me than having his arms around my neck and hearing that he loves me, then leaving me with a huge peanut b___ter and jelly stain on the side of my face!! And do you know who his best friend is? His cousin - a nine year old girl!

 

Linda99 - June 7

You guys have been so supportive - thank you!

 

HannahBaby - June 7

its something that EVERYONE goes through. I really think this is one topic that we all can relate to!

 

Newhoneybuns - June 7

I kinda wanted a boy more since my boyfriend was praying for one but deep down inside i always thought it was a girl and it was confirmed at the scan last week. He was disappointed at first cause he would not get his little boy but now he's happy with the baby girl and all excited. As we both said as long as she's healthy it's all that really matters :)

 

Jade - June 7

My husband and I are expecting our first and don't care what the first one is (though we would like one of each eventually). When I found out it was a boy, I was a little disappointed. I guess each s_x has its pros and cons and had it been a girl, I would have been sad it wasn't a boy. Oh well. Just focus on the positive!

 

lexa - June 8

mcatherine...Is this what I have to look forward to in another year? LoL! My son is the same way already! But I have to admit, I do love it! I love baseball games, playstation, basketball...it's all fun. I think I wanted another boy because I'm used to all of this now and I enjoy it! Oh, and I have all the clothes too which was a bonus:-) A friend of ours gave us two full garbage bags of girls clothes yesterday and my DH said "go ahead and look through them all." I just didn't want to. I still don't want to. I don't know if it's the stress of everything right now that's going on (we are in the middle of moving) or what, but I still don't care to look at them. Horrible I know. I got a little snappy and told him to look at them all! He said he wanted me to because he's not an expert on clothes or what looks "cute". (Thank goodness I finally got him to admit something, hahaha)! It's okay though to be a little sad about it! Like I said, as long as she's healthy, nothing else matters! I'll get used to playing dress up, barbie dolls, baby dolls etc. just like I did with getting dirty and playing catch! It'll be a whole different experience which will be fun too.

 

mcatherine - June 8

Lexa - I'll admit, boys get rougher as they get older - no doubt about it! My son is all boy - every sport, playstation, guns, food, food, food, and now girls are starting to call every night. He got hurt in a baseball game the night before last and we spent all of yesterday at the hospital and orthopedic surgeon's office. Ligaments torn away from thumb and index finger and a fractured growth plate that will requuire surgery to fix. He hasn't even gotten out of school for the summer! By this morning, his cast was already dirty... I am outnumbered!!! I am having him fotted tomorrow for a waterproof cast so he can swim this summer. My hubsand wanted me to have my little girl for many reasons, but my new boy will be loads of fun, too. I have to say I know I am spoiled by my two boys already (aren't you?) I have the best mother's days and birthdays a woman could ask for. And my husband plans and looks forward to the future so much - he's just happy we don't have to pay for college AND a wedding!

 

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