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Kay - January 22

Right to cut a long story short my previous birth with my daughter 2 years ago was very traumatic for, i was in labour for 18 hours, didnt dilate, was induced, baby was distressed, she had a bowel movment in me the works basically. nothing progressed what so ever and then i was rushed in for an emergency cersarean, my daughter came out with black arms and legs and wasnt breathing, but after ahwile they got her breathing again and rushed her to SCBU. What i am getting at is i had an interview with a consultant about an elective cesarean for my current baby i am carrying now. Thing is , he was adamant that i WILL give birth naturally. hardly let me talk. I suffer from panic attacks and if i were to give birth naturally and one was to happen while in labour that will be it, i pass out and im bound to have another emergency. I would love to try natural but in my mind i want an elective, i know what will be coming so i wont panic. Its my body and my partner knew the distress child and i were in from previously so why wont the consultant allow me to have my birth the way i want it?? I know its best, can he make me have a natural? and just totally ignore my fear of the birth going the same way it did last time? thank you for any comments ,i have another interview scheduld for when im 36 weeks. Im currently 26 weeks. thank you for taking the time to read this :)

 

Kay - January 22

sorry 28 hours

 

softbreeze200 - January 22

Oh I am sorry to hear this. That must have been a terrifing time for you and your partner. Maybe get a second opinion?? If you can? Or talk to your dr. about the fears and reasons why you want to have an elective c-section. I am a first timer here, so I am sorry I can't offer any better avdice, but if it is something that is a medical concern then they should be listening to you. I hope everything works out and I am sure that your delivery will go without a hitch this time! Best of luck hon!!

 

xvkx - January 22

I don't know if it is this way everywhere, but I do know that at least where I live a woman cannot get an elective cesarean - there has to be a medical reason that the woman cannot give birth naturally. If they will not let you have an elective, I can suggest two things to help keep your panic attacks at bay - first of all, read up on childbirth, both from the medical perspective and the personal experience perspective, until you feel confident that you know everything you should know about what happens. Second, look into hypnobabies/hypnobirth - this program will help with your confidence on a subconscious level.

 

ShoppingForTwo - January 22

Hello Key. No way can this man force you to have a VBAC. That's out of this world lol. I suggest you make another appointment with him and speak your mind or get a second opinion by someone else. That's a big time lawsuit, he is trippen. Don't worry, you will be OK, they can't force you to deliver naturally especially with the little increased chance of rupture! I'm sure you have to sign a waiver before a VBAC anyway. Maybe not. Anyway, talk to someone else because technically your c section would NOT be elective, it is 100% necessary. Did he not know your medical history???

 

Whisper - January 22

I wouldn't think that a VBAC would be mandatory... that seems a bit extreme to me! A VBAC in itself carries some (imo significant) risks, and certainly isn't for everyone. In fact, in the state I live in, it is not allowed to be done here. I'd get a 2nd opinion, especially if you aren't comfortable with a VBAC. That should be something that is elective - the 2nd c-section should be the standard treatment. Where are you from if you don't mind my asking? Just curious where it is that they are trying so hard to push you into a VBAC. In the end, its your body, and it should thus be your choice. JMHO.

 

Kay - January 22

i gave birth in australia with my last child so no they dont have notes , its my word they have. I have discused it with my midwife and she too said its my body and that if i want and elective i have one just cos if the fact how my last one went and to push him over and over. I have another appointment with this same man, this time im going in with full force and my partner also will do the same. We are both not happy about me going natural.Im from England and i thought it would be my choice and my choice only not to be pressured. Dont get me wrong i gave giving birth naturally a thought but to re think if that happned again i would rather not go down that route. i wouldnt mind if i went through 28 hours of labour and gave birth naturally but there was so many complications its would be easier on partner and me to opt for an elective then i know whats coming and wont be so worried! But you do think i have the right to choose they can say your having a v____al and thats that ?

 

Kay - January 22

i ment to say they *cant say im having a v____al and thats that?

 

ShoppingForTwo - January 22

Kay, a second c section is NOT ELECTIVE. Maybe you shouldn't use that word when you speak to the consultant again. Makes it sound different from what it is. Its a necessity. No way can they force you to have a VBAC.

 

ShoppingForTwo - January 22

You have a c section scar to prove you've had one. And, you can always order your records as well.

 

Kay - January 22

Yea your right, i dont know why i say that. I suspose cos that what the consultant put it as, im quite shy so i need some b___s to stick up for myself and what i need! Thanks again for the reply feels alot better talking about it to others and getting peoples points of view :)

 

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