My Husband Asked Me If I Hate Him

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Mommy1 - February 21

And he was dead serious!! I couldn't believe it! We got married this last Sept and ever since I found out I was pregnant I have such a short fuse and take it out on him. I don't even like when he touches me (unless I want him to) and sometimes I pull away from him. I thought this would go away after the 1st trimester. Does anyone else feel this way? I seriously felt horrible when he asked me if I hated him...the look on his face was heartbreaking....

 

aliciavr6 - February 21

My boyfriend asks me this too. I just say yes. :)

 

MNMOM - February 21

mommy1: I was an emotional train-wreck my entire first pregnancy. It was like I had no control over my own mind. It was horrible and what should have been a wonderful time for me was miserable and it definitely impacted my relationship with my husband. Just be patient with yourself and ask your hubby to be also, it does get better, unfortunately for me I had to wait until after delivery until I felt like myself again! Luckily, this pregnancy I have been very even-keeled, thank god! :)

 

suze42 - February 21

Alicia...LOL!!! Mommy1, I felt horrible my first tri...and didnt really want DH touching me either. I think thats fairly normal...alot of wierd stuff going on w/your body... On the days you feel okay, try to make it up to DH...Thank him for his patience....make him a nice dinner or whatever you feel like doing. It gets better.

 

Mommy1 - February 21

I guess I just thought I would feel like myself after the 1st trimester...but I don't. I'm 18w5d and I feel pretty c___ppy. I hope I'm not like this for the entire pregnancy. Thank you very much for your responses...I have a better idea of what to say to DH next time he asks if I hate him. I'm so mean to him but yet he's so nice, sweet and understanding.

 

c_baer19 - February 21

LOL. Sometimes my husband asks if I'm happy, just becuase I can be moody and am not 'in the mood' like I used to be all the time. You just have to explain to him exactly how you're feeling, and that sometimes you just don't feel like being touched, and apologize for being crabby. It helps.

 

aliciavr6 - February 21

I can be absolutely awful to my bf (although the effer does deserve a lot of it haha), just tell him that you are moody, maybe email him an article or read out loud some experiences of other women with hormones and being preg.

 

KristinTone - February 21

Yes I feel your pain! I am 17 weeks and my crazy hormones haven't stopped either. I must say that you are lucky to have a husband who is caring and nderstanding at this time. Mine on the other hand seems to like igniting my short fuse lol! I gues there is really nothing we can do except wait it out and pray this hormonal craziness ends soon!

 

jen327 - February 22

Yes, Yes Yes, my DH is so understanding. When he touches me it feels like pins, I hate it. I bought him the book "what to expect while your wife is expecting" and it has all these humorous things in it and he has been much more understanding. I am almost 17 weeks, and it is getting worse. I tought the second trimester would be better, but I just don't want to be touched. He does however had my blessing to rub my belly when he wants as it is his son in tehre too :) Good luck

 

mel2229 - February 22

I have had the same issue! My boyfriend says the same thing. I didn't want anything to do with him for the first trimester. I jsut wanted to be left alone but now that I am almost 14 weeks I have gotten a lot better. The mood swings are terrible and the smallest things irritate me.

 

mel2229 - February 22

I have had the same issue! My boyfriend says the same thing. I didn't want anything to do with him for the first trimester. I just wanted to be left alone but now that I am almost 14 weeks I have gotten a lot better. The mood swings are terrible and the smallest things irritate me. It will get better!

 

mamaof3 - February 22

This is my 4th baby and I was exactly the same way with each pregnancy. Unfortunately My att_tude and mood swings lasted my entire pregnancy. I feel so bad for DH. If your feelings for your husband don't get better as your pregnancy progresses you should most likely feel better after delivery. Pregnancy can cause crazy moods.

 

wailing - February 23

Mommy1 don't worry:) I thought my energy would never come back and I would never be normal again. Everyone was telling me how great the 2nd Tri is and it felt like I would never get there. FINALLY at 21 wks I started feeling like my old self, not to say I still wasn't a hormonal ball at times but I def felt better. Being touched wasn't as awful, I didn't feel nutty and I got some energy back. It does get better...Keep ur chin up and just get ur man a book. I bought mine a really funny (short) book that pretty much explains in manly laymens terms what's goin on. In the meantime just concentrate on what makes u happy:) Ur body is changing everyday and eventually it will even out.

 

JessC531 - February 23

I know exactly what you're going through. I'm almost 18 weeks, and instead of getting better, it's getting worse! I've been under a lot of stress, so that's probably contributing, but it is crazy. Dh and I were in bed talking the other night, and I disagreed with him about something (nothing major and I was feeilng pretty ok). He just looked at me and said, "You're going to go psycho again, aren't you?" LOL. I just got laughing hysterically.

 

pregnant76 - February 23

Mommy, my husband and I are newlyweds too. We just got married last June. We had a couple of big b__w-ups over nothing. I was such an agitation station and I felt really really bad afterwards. But he seems to understand that our emotions are little wild right now!

 

stephybella - March 17

OMG

 

stephybella - March 17

OMG I actually told my BF I hated him because I'm crazy with pregnancy.. I cried to him after (when I was unpacking my bags because I was sooooo leaving him) and I appologized and he's like " I still love you even though your crazy lady." lol

 

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