Need Some Advice -pg119807842658

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kathykitt - December 19

Hi everyone: Im new to this forum and am hoping that your experiences and personal stories could give me some hope and support through this scary time in my pregnancy. First of all, Im 37 , and am 20 weeks pregnant. I have had the tran nuch scan and it came out normal, I had the blood work done and have a 1/10000 risk for trisomoy 18 and a 1/2800 risk for trisomy 21. All my ultrasounds have been great. The baby is very active, and measuring exactly to date. I recently went for the level II scan and they said I was having a girl, and that every organ looked normal, structures looked normal, but they did find two small spots on both ventricles of the heart. They said it was echogenic foci. They said if I was 25 they would not have to tell me, however because Im 37 they needed to explain the increased risk, and suggested I have an amnio. Well as you all might know, my heart sank. Im feeling overwhelmed and so scared. It took me 3 years to have a viable pregnancy again, This is my second child (god willing) I have a 4 year old beautiful and healthy daughter. All I want more than anything is to have one more healthy child to love, and care for. I am so upset and worried. I thought everything was going so well. The doctors made me think that from the first set of test results everything was great, and my odds were in my favor. I opted out of the amnio at 16 weeks because of the results. Now I have to decide what to do? I look at the ultrasound pics of my daughter and see that her fingers are perfect, nasal bone present, limbs fine, I am really losing it! Shouldnt other structural markers show up? the nuch test show something wrong? blood work show something wrong? Please I need your help! The specialist said that gut feeling..he thinks the baby is fine, but an amnio is the only difinitive answer. ?

 

Skyeblue - December 19

I KNOW EXACTLY WHERE YOU ARE COMING FROM!!!!! At my 20 week u/s my stupid "expert in the field" dr. said that my dd head circ_mference is below the 3rd percentile and this meant she had either a chromosonal defect OR some toxic exposure and he recommended an amnio because if I "wasn't satisfied with the results I could terminate the pregnancy." Mind you, this doc is regarded as an expert in the medical field. It was then I turned to my midwife who tried to convince me that all would be fine, sent me to a dr. recommended by her and was simply told my dd was just a bit on the smaller side. Well to make a long story short, I hyperfocused on what the male expert said and it RUINED the rest of my pregnancy with worry. NOTHING could console me. I went ahead with my planned homebirth (which went wonderfully) but even when my dd was born initially I was afraid to look at her. She was a bit on the small side 2.9 kgs but a PERFECT head. SHe is 8 months now and already standing and taking a few steps. If I ever get pregnant again, I will be soley in the care of a midwife and only have one u/s to get an EDD and that is it. So please do not worry, I know it is easier said then done. Good luck!!!!!

 

Skyeblue - December 19

And yes, I need to add because you asked....yes there should be other markers and that is exactly what my midwife recommended dr said. She said look, everything else looks normal, all organs, heartbeat, etc. the only thing is that her BPD (which is the width) of the skull was below the 3rd percentile making the head small, BUT she said there are many reasons a head can measure small including the fact that u/s diagnosis are not a precise science. Even though that relieved me, I still could not get over the original dr. diagnosis. Some fu*cking expert he was...

 

sarah21 - December 19

Don't lose hope, kathy. Chances are everything is fine. Ultrasounds are not fool-proof, nor are they 100% accurate. A lot of times they can see things that aren't there, or they can see something that resolves itself. Look at all of the things that are in your favor, and trust that everything will be fine. I found this info too: "up to 7.4% of unborn children have echogenic cardiac foci when the mother is in the second trimester (months 3 to 6). The vast majority of children with echogenic cardiac foci are born normal. This is especially the case for the children of mothers who are under 35 years of age. Only rarely are echogenic cardiac foci a__sociated with birth defects." And worst case scenario, it sounds like, is that your child could be at increased risk for downs. But is that so terrible? I mean, sure it would be difficult, but if you've ever watched people with downs syndrome, they can be so happy and loving and generous. They are amazing people. I was relieved to find my little girl was fine but just because things may look a bit questionable now, please don't give up hope and please don't decide on something like abortion if it turns out that your little one has downs syndrome. It'll all work out.

 

sarah21 - December 19

Oh and as a side note also, an amnio does not give a 100% accurate answer, either, and is known to give false positive results for downs also, so be careful.

 

goldfish - December 19

I didnt et ur question quiet rihgt. I just got my amino done and was scared like hell. amino is very scary thought but it isnt that very painful believe me if at all you decide to go with it. your numbers show that you arent at risk for Down S. What is this issue with the heart thingy i still didnt get it. Nuchal tarspency which you have got done already is a very acuurate scan for the same. If that is normal you have very less to worry about frankly. However if you still are scared of amino you should also get the AFP test done its a blood test and tally the results of AFP and Nuchal trans. My doctor suggested me that. This she told me when i was a never wreck lying on the table for my amino. I wasted 2 needles and finally gathered some guts to give the doc permission to do the amino. My husband and the nurse were constantly talking to me during amino and believe me I can to a conclusion that fear is more painful than the procedure. This is you second kid so atleast you have somebody to go and love back home.Dont worry. you will be fine. Dont be scared of amino please be positive and think from a very board future prospective.

 

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