Good Time

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Sweetgurl678 - March 4

Hi...well i wasn't getting any responses on the other forum..so i thought i might get more here. My boyfriend and I are trying to have a baby. But the problem is he goes back overseas to war in january. Which would mean either missing the birth or not being around for the first 6 months of our baby's life. And what if he doesn't come home..then i will be raising a baby by myself in such a hard situation. Do you guys think it is a good idea or should we wait till next year when he is home for good and safe? ?

 

Terio - March 5

You asked, so I'll say no. Wait until next year when he's safe at home, and you've decided to make the full commitment of marriage to each other.

 

SaraH - March 5

I would say that overall it is up to you, but my gut instinct would be to say wait. Being pregnant and having a new baby are difficult enough when you have him there to help you get through it --I don't know how I'd have made it this fare through the pregnancy (35.5 weeks) w/o my dh, as I've been somewhat sick and felt rather sucky through most of it.--- So, I'd wait, that way he can be there to experience it all too and you will have the help you'll need. And as Terio added I also believe that in general making the full commitment of marriage is a good option before deciding on a baby --it helps insure that you are both really committed and it often creates a more stable environments for the child (not always but often). Good luck on whatever you decide and I hope all works out well for you guys.

 

xoxticiaxox - March 5

I think this is old, but I would try now, because if he didnt end up coming home (heaven forbid) then you would have something of his to remember him forever...something to cherish even more than it just being your child. I realize that the other girls points are very valid also, but I think I would try now if I was you. Good Luck..

 

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