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Feeling Sad - March 17th, 2005 6:18 PM

My husband is no longer affectionate and will not have sex with me since I started showing. He says that it is "weird". Any advise?


sm - March 17th, 2005 8:43 PM

Some women dont like having sex later in pregnancy, and some men dont like it (though this category is smaller). Lots of women would think it great if their hubby lost interest for the last few months. Just relax, his interest will come back, maybe he has issues about hurting the baby? Perhaps you should also discuss whether he should be present at the birth, it is very popular for men to be there these days but if he is a bit sensitive, just outside the door for the final stages may be a good place for him.


expecting father - March 22nd, 2005 6:30 AM

'weird' can mean many things, but one thing it can mean to me is that men, throughout their sexual upbringing and maturing are not positively psychologically reinforced that sex during pregnancy is OK. we are told that it's medically OK but when was the last time that any show on commercial television or film showed a steamy (or any kind of) sex scene with a guy having sex with a pregnant woman? it is due to this lack of this psychological reinforcement that i understand that having sex with a pregnant woman (although medically OK) can seem wrong to a man.


Crystal Wright - May 18th, 2005 12:19 PM

Tell your hubby to get over it. Sex is great for the baby unless the doctor says so. Trust me I had two healty babies back to back and on the day I gave birth to both of them I had sex. And I am pregant with my thrid one and still having sex.


That's a shame - May 18th, 2005 3:26 PM

It is too bad your husband feels this way. Mine husband has wanted more sex now that I am pregnant. I think we have more sex now (I am 8 months) than ever before. He is waiting for the birth so he can try out my milk supply!!


Understand - May 18th, 2005 3:35 PM

My man as well towards the end of pregnancy loses some interest in sex. I think it is just fear and not wanting to hurt baby. Talk to him and tell him that you are feeling up to still having sex, maybe you could do different things...or seduce him in the middle of the night:) he he Anyways try not to let it bother you...and good luck!


kp - May 20th, 2005 3:05 PM

Funny, most men I know says sex with a prgnant woman is the best.


Mimi - May 21st, 2005 9:52 AM

My husband loves me being pregnant. It hasn't stopped us any. In fact he is more affectionate now. Sorry your husband doesn't feel the same. Tell him it bothers you. Let him read some of these comments, he might change his mind.
Good luck!


YUCK - May 27th, 2005 6:38 PM

Using TV for "psychological reinforcement" I know we are all affected by these images, but still yuck. Unfortunately you're probably right.


toni - May 30th, 2005 2:26 PM

my husband doesn't like it either. i guess one time the baby kicked during and he said it made him realize his penis was in "too close proximity to his daughter." i thought that was funny, so i accept his feelings about it. it's difficult for me, but i want him to be comfortable with this.


tatiana - June 2nd, 2005 9:43 PM

just tell him that it's not weird and that it's normal. tell him that it would help during labor. if he wants sex, he should start getting it now while he have the chance.


justaman - June 3rd, 2005 1:58 AM

I'm a man and let me just say that differnt men view sex with pregnant women differently. Pregnant women are a fetish to some guys and they even might rent pregnant porno videos. On the other hand, some guys can care less if you pregnant or not. Sex is sex, is sex, is sex to them and your weight, race, age, and even gender doesn't even matter to them! But...there is a third kinda guy like myself who would prefer not to have sex when his woman is pregnant (buldging and showing). Its a matter of preference. For instance, nothing is wrong with a husband asking his wife for anal sex, but she typically prefers vaginal vs. anal, and she'd rather not be pressured into anal sex. Likewise, don't pressure your man into pregnant sex. Physical injury to the unborn or wife may not even be his concern. You see, this 3rd kinda guy no longer views his wife as a sexy woman. He views here as a child-bearer, an innocent, emotionally delicate thought that crosses his mine when he's at work, on lunch break, etc. Its not that he's turned off by his pregnant woman's body. Its just that it might feel wrong to him. Again, the sex idea my feel okay to the woman, but it feels slightly wrong or weird to this 3rd kinda man and he'd rather feel like he hasn't taken advantage of you while you were pregnant. You may not feel taken advantage of as the eager pregnant woman, but his feelings are just a real as yours. What's the solution? I don't know but don't try to get revenge by excluding him from the delivery room as "sm" suggested. To some men, abstinence is a honorable noble thing during pregnancy.


Wait a minute - June 3rd, 2005 3:29 PM

SM did not say she wanted to get revenge by not having him in the delivery room. I think she meant that if he is not wanting to have sex with his pregnant wife, maybe he may not want to see the birth....I suspect she said this so the husband would not have his feelings changed about his wife after the birth.


Jim - June 3rd, 2005 3:46 PM

My wife is the greatest. The sex is so much better when she is pregnant. She is always wanting sex and I just love her body. She was not a thin woman before getting pregnant, but now at 8 months, her body is perfect. Her curves are beautiful. I wouldn't trade it for anything.


Great!! - June 3rd, 2005 4:21 PM

I really like having sex while pregnant. Thnak God my Husband loves it too! But not all men are the same. It is a shame your husband feels that way, but maybe he can make up for it in other ways.


to Jim - June 3rd, 2005 4:39 PM

I think it's great that you feel that way about your wife. Seems like you guys have a good relationship....wish we could all have men like you~


Cristi - June 4th, 2005 9:31 PM

I'm on my third child now. The first two pregnancies were with my ex-husband who wanted sex even more when I was pregnant. This time I'm with someone who hasn't touched me in over a month. All of a sudden our 2x's a day sex turned into nothing. The other day it came out that he didn't find me attractive sexually anymore. He doesn't understand why I've been crying so much. I feel extremely rejected. He assured me that it'll be better after I have the baby, and he went through the same thing with his ex. Well, I have four more months of no sex and rejection. Women who have men who desire their pregnant bodies should count their blessings. It is a horrible feeling when the man you're going to have a baby with won't even touch you.


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