Am I Too Young

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Worried - April 13

I am 21 and my husband is 24. We have been ttc for 5 months now, and haven't told anyone until recently when we told his mother. Her reaction was that we are way too young! We have been married 2 years and just bought our first house. I am wondering if everyones reactions will be the same? I guess I shouldn't care so much what other people think, but sometimes I can't help wondering? What does everyone think? what would you think about us?

 

Gabrielle - April 13

hey hon 21 is not too young at all you sound like you have a good head on your shoulders and you already bought a house that is great! you sound like you are ready to me. i will be sending baby dust your way. good luck!

 

Worried - April 13

Thanks Gabrielle, that makes me feel a little better to hear something positive!!!

 

?? - April 13

thats between you and your hubby... if you 2 think your ready. then go for it and god bless both of you :)

 

C - April 13

WE WERE MARRIED AT AGES 19 AND MY HUSBAND 21.WE HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR 8 AND A HALF YEARS. BOUGHT A HOUSE NINE MONTHS INTO MARRAGE. OUR FIRST CHILD WAS BORN. ONE MONTH AFTER OUR THREE YEAR ANNIVERSARY. OUR RELATIONSHIP WAS GOOD. WE ARE VERY CLOSE, BEST FRIENDS. YOU HAVE TO BE STABBLE TO HOLD A FAMILY UP TOGETHER. HAVING A BABY IS ONE OF THE GREATEST THINS AND ONE OF THE HARDEST THINGS TO DO IN YOUR LIFE. IF YOU GUYS HAVE A GOOD RELATIONSHIP, A HOME TO SHARE, LOTS OF LOVE TO GIVE. THEN JUST ENJOY LIFE TOGETHER. BECAUSE AT THE END OF THE DAY ALL YOU HAVE IS EACHOTHER. AND NO ONE ELSE MATTERS.

 

rose - April 13

i had my 2nd at age 21!!! i think youll be just fine...many mothers react that way...you sound ready to me

 

KEEKEE - April 13

HI, Worried I had my first son when I was 20. We are doing fine. I love my boys and you will love you little angel. Do what is best for you and your husband. Don't worry about what other people think. You and I both know, Moms can be busy bodies. Just smile and say "I understand, but this is my choice... Once the baby come, she will love him or her reguardless of your age.........Good Luck!!!!!!!!!............Baby Dust.............

 

eee - April 13

I have been told I am WAY too young at 22, by pretty much everyone, including people on here....but yet all my friends/family my age are married with babies on the way. And even they tell me we are too young! People can be such hypocrites. Anyway my dh tells me I shouldn't care what people think, that we know what is best for us. But that is so hard! I want people to be happy for us! I don't understand why all these other women my age are getting all the praise and everybody is telling them congratulations, but then I am too young and they would be mad??? And we have a way more stable relationship/home life than some of these other women I know having babies! Anyway I don't think you are too young, if that helps any. You know what is best for you.

 

Worried - April 13

I really appreciate all your support ladies! We really feel ready to ttc, but I just get a little upset when people react so harsh! Thanks everyone!!!

 

Worried - April 13

eee~ I feel exactly the same way as you. I have a friend who is pregnant, and her and her husband have a terrible relationship. She is 23, and people are always saying, "once the baby comes, things will work out". I feel like we are a lot more prepared than they are but people react to our age like it is terrible! Are you pregnant now or ttc?

 

eee - April 13

not ttc yet, but thinking about it...but with all the harsh criticism we've been getting I haven't wanted to ttc...I want everybody to be happy for us! Hubby doesn't care at all what other people think, says we know what is best for us, but I still can't help but care what other people think. Another thing that bothers me with my situation is a lot of these people I know met, got engaged and got married and got pregnant, all within a 2 year time frame...dh and I have been together going on 6 years! I think for us, it may have a lot to do with him being in college. He took a few years off and went back last year, he has 2 years left. But we have a very stable loving relationship and I have a great job, and I feel like our finances are none of their business anyway. dh is 23 btw.

 

eee - April 13

not that I think there is anything wrong with moving that fast, but you'd think us being together 6 years would show them we are in this for the long haul!

 

Sarah - April 13

I think you guys sound liek you are ready and know what you are doing. IF you guys have a house, and think you're ready. Forget everyone else, because once the baby is here, they won't be saying anything but aww look how cute he/she is!! I say GO FOR IT and GOOD LUCK!!

 

bump - April 14

bump

 

chezed19 - April 14

hi. I married my husband when we were both 19, i have just found out that we are expecting our first baby im 5wks, we are now both 20. I dont think that it matters on age its your situation & how you both feel, if you both want it then that is all that matters. good luck to you both x

 

Worried - April 14

eee~ It sounds like we both feel the same way. My husband and I have been married 2 years but together for almost 5 years. I know so many people my age who have children but no husbands, but I don't hear everyone saying they shouldn't be having babies! It makes me so mad, but my dh says not to worry about it too much! How can I though? Sometimes I think maybe we should wait to ttc for a few years just to make other people happy! Although that is not what we want! We feel ready. The thing that I hate the most is when people tell me, 'oh you don't want to get pregnant it's terrible', or 'You won't be able to handle it'. I don't know what makes them think this but it drives me insane! It's mainly my sisters and sister in law who tell me this since they all have kids. Sometimes I just want to say 'yes I can, and I will handle all of it better than you! Just watch!' Because it makes me so mad! I am starting a new job in May and we have decided to wait for a few months after that to ttc again.

 

Worried - April 14

Thanks everyone for you support! It really makes me feel better, and also feel like it doesn't really matter what anyone else says! It's OUR decision!!!

 

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