BrandiH

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mk9906 - October 22

Hi, I was just googling some stuff and came across your post. I felt the need to send you a message because you remind me SO much of myself :) In May 2007 my husband and I had been married for 8 months. We had planned to wait to TTC. My period was late so we thought I might be pregnant. At first we were afraid but then as time went by we got so excited. I ended up not being pregnant but we were so disappointed we decided to start trying. I went off BCP. And my first cyle after that was just like you described. Actually my first three off the pill were really messed up. Before going on the pill my period was like CLOCK WORK, you could set a watch by it. So anyway...I've been off the pill for 5 months now and actually just had an anovulaotry cyle last month. So yes, it does take a few months to get things straightend out for most women. Some it may not, but I think for the majority it does. My doctor has said that even if all of the circ_mstance are perfect, and you time s_x perfectly that each month your chance of getting pregnant is about 25%. I'm not trying to discourage you. I just wish that someone would have told me this early on so I wouldn't have had so much disappointment. I know it's hard, believe me. I know exactly what you are going through. Also.. your period will show up on average 12 to 14 days after ovulation. So stressing won't cause your period to be late, late ovulation is all that causes your period to be late. That's what my doctors have told me anyway...and I've done a little research online about it. The one thing that I've had to learn the hard way is that when it comes to getting pregnant you never know. I've had some cycles when I was SURE I was pregnant and wasn't. And I've had friends who didn't have one symptom and turned out to be pregnant. Trying to conceive is the hardest thing I've done in my life so far. It's so emotional, and confusing, and frustrating. The good news is... you could get pregnant next month.. you just never know. I really wish you the best of luck. And I hope you don't mind my post. I really am not trying to be a downer...I just was struck by how similar our stories seem. Again...... BEST OF LUCK :)

 

Bren1367 - October 22

I know this post is for BrandiH but I just wanted to tell you thanks because I know this will help a lot of the ladies on here. A lot of them are coming off bc and I never know what to tell them b/c I don't use bc. This was very informative and I hope others will read it. Thanks again!!

 

BrandiH - October 22

mk - thank you so much. It was a downer when af finally came that's for sure, but we have a lot going on anyway. I've started and temping and all that so I at least have an idea of when I'm ovulating. I think it's strange how little of chance you actually have each month to get pregnant and for some people it happens so quickly and for others it takes a long time. I know they suggest to wait 3 months after coming off bc before you start ttc, and that's to give your body a chance to get back on cycle. It's nice to know I'm not the only one to go through this. I think right now we are going to "try" basically by bding when we should, and if it happens it happens and if not it will be ok. We really wanted to have a house first so we are going to focus on the instead of the baby, but we'll still try for the the baby too, if that made any sense. Thanks for the post and you can't really say it's a downer post, it's the truth and like Bren said, I know there's a lot of women on here that could use the information.

 

mk9906 - October 22

Thanks girls. Like I said... it's all stuff I wish I would have known starting out. Yes, I ended up charting on fertilityfriend.com which I can't believe I ever did without and I found a "plan" online called "The Sperm Meets the Egg Plan" it tells you what to do every day of your cycle to increase your odds. Well...good luck everyone!

 

BrandiH - October 22

mk, I just looked up that plan and it sounds good. I think I might try it. Thanks!

 

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