Early M C

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clare - January 20

just thought i would keep you up to date, as any of you who have been in contact with me i was late and the hpt was a faint pos, anyway doc confirmed pos. but the sad news is i am at the stages of an early m/c. but i will keep my chin up and wish all of you the best of luck. please keep me posted on all your good news. i send baby wishes to all of you.

 

citrouille - January 20

lots and lots of hugs to you.. I know how you feel! It is a terrible thing to go through.. Just know that other woman have been through this and have gone on to have children. Give yourself time to grieve..

 

to clare - January 20

Im sorry about yr news i know its hard xxx

 

clare - January 20

i have spent alot of time crying, no one can hug me or put there arms round me at the momment.still really upset. but it feels good to talk to other ladies who understand, because my husband is also upset. but i know over the next few days my body is going to go through so many ups and downs. but its good because my whole family are there for me.

 

citrouille - January 20

Well let yourself cry as much as you need. And lean on your family for support and encouragement. Oh and btw don't let anyone say that just because it was an early m/c that it isn't as bad! Because it is.. I m/c at 5 weeks and it was both physically and mentally painful. How many weeks are you? Is this going to be a natural m/c or will you need a d/c or is it too early to tell? ~hugs

 

clare - January 20

i would have been 5 weeks saturday,the doc did explain that if the flow was light and no clots to go back and have an examination. but after 2yrs trying you do feel a bit like just giving up on the idea of trying.

 

citrouille - January 20

you shouldn't give up! (btw how old are you? if you don't mind) well the doc is right.. if your flow stays light you may be ok.. I know that when I was told i was probably having a m/c I kept asking how will I know?? and everyone said you'll know. And it is true! To be graphic, first of all it gets painful (strong cramps.. contractions) and eventually you will have a big clot of blood tissue that doesn't look anything like period blood plus you may see something white on it which would be the egg.. sorry if too much info, but I know that i was worried that I wouldn't know! The good news is that once it is out you'll feel a lot better. Ask you doc to give you iron pills and vitamin supplements so you'll get your energy back. wait a cycle so that your uterin wall can get back to normal and then if you feel up to it.. ttc again!

 

clare - January 20

i am 30yrs old, and i was trying to understand if i would know when i am over it, and when the tears will stop. every time i look at the pad i know when i see then clots one off them will be my little babys begining. and i know that will break my heart. hearing how you ladies cope, i feel so weak, and i am at the stage of blaming myself.

 

citrouille - January 20

you'll kow when it is over. there should be a relatively big clot that comes out;. then a bit more bleeding which will slow down after. Don't blame yourself (I know it is easy to do) you didn't do anything wrong! This is just natural selection; In most cases it is because your baby had a genetic problem and wouldn't have been able to survive anyway. 1 in 4 pregnancies end in m/c the pregnancy just stops because it isn't viable but that doesn't mean you did anything wrong!! If the pregnancy had continued you would have had a deformed or very sick baby; it is better this way even though it hurts.

 

clare - January 20

how long does it take to for your body to adjust back to normal and when will it be safe to consider to carry on trying. because i dont want to do anything that can cause my body any more distress. (where are you from).

 

citrouille - January 20

living in france (but Canadian). I would wait a cycle; if you want a good place to talk with other women who are going through or who have had a m/c go to this website : www.pregnancyloss.info (i'm on the ttc board under Jocelyn)

 

clare - January 20

i think i an going to find it hard because i work in a nursary and i am around young childern and babies, but i am lucky because once i inform my staff they will understand. and i know should the pain be extreme they will completly take over. i must go into work as i am there cook and i have to insure they are all given the correct meals.

 

citrouille - January 20

good luck my thoughts are with you! lots of hugs

 

clare - January 20

thank you for speding the time to listen and understand. its good to talk

 

Susan - January 20

Clare, I'm so sorry to hear about your situation. I can't imagine what you're going through but knowing how desperately I want a baby myself, I imagine it's horrible. My thoughts are with you.

 

Jess - January 20

Clare- I'm sorry to bother you, but I have a few questions. You do not hve to anser them if you don't want to. I think I may be 2 mths preg. I had my period last month, but they are always irregular, so i didn't know if it was late or not. My b___sts are bigger. I had c___ps on friday. I took a HPT test & was neg. My question is this. I feel hungry all the time and when i eat It doesn't go away. I don't even eat a lot. Also I have frequent as a couple of times a day pein wher I believe my uterus is. It feels like someone is gripping hard on me and pulling. Are these signs of M/C and when does your body usually do this?

 

johanna - January 20

dear clare- i'm so sorry to hear the info. be as nice as you can to yourself, and, when you are ready, surround yourself with those who care about you and who you care about. i can't say that i know what you are going through, but am sending a big hug your way.

 

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