Forum Etiquette Using The Search Function

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Lin - March 29

Hi all. Since most ladies who use this forum don't seem to be frequent web forum users, I figured that a post on standard forum etiquette is in order. Maybe I've just been spoiled, because the forum I usually frequent has excellent moderators, but the moderation on this site is sincerely lacking. I'm used to seeing similar threads merged to avoid redundancy, but here the same questions just get posted again and again ad infinitum. Anyway, it is common web forum etiquette to use the search function before asking questions, because the answers are often already there. I have found myself ignoring them at times, because I've typed big, long replies to the exact same question several times before, as have others. There is so much information already on this site, and it's a shame to see that people aren't actually benefiting from what's already there. Questions can be very easily answered with a simple search first (with the search box at the top of the page). This saves others from typing the same thing over and over. If you haven't found the answer with a search or your question is more specific, then post your question. Anyway, I'm not downing on anyone for not knowing this - just passing on the information in an attempt to get rid of some of the redundancy on this site. Baby dust to everyone!

 

Celia - March 29

I think you miss the whole point of this forum and it doesn't have anything to do with forum etiquette. Most of us know how to use the search and do but we also come to share OUR experiences and TALK with other's, maybe making a few new friendship's as we go. It's all about emotional support. Yes you can get answer's from reading old post but can you get comfort in having someone reply to you as an individual that way? Don't think so. I personally enjoy reading what other's have to say and don't mind that several women may post the same things, but hey if 3 women post with same thing and are going through the same at that time, well then there is 3 women who can get together and share, comfort and encourage each other. I say poo on someone's opinion of what they think the proper "etiquette" is and post away!

 

Emma2 - March 29

I agree with Lin...I have replied to the same question that was posted right below with the same t_tle. I too sometimes put in long replies and repeat myself over and over. The point of the forum is to get answers and yes to also share experiences. I think she meant only to help.

 

Celia - March 29

You are right, you can agree with whomever you want. I have to disagree with lin always being very accurate though, but I'm not here to discuss that. Why would you want to post something about etiquette that would make some women not post their question and seek support though? Isn't that why we are here, to give support? I don't think I'm over reacting at all. I just get tired of seeing lin push herself around here and making other's feel bad, and that's exactly what this thread will do. In my opinon lin is never trying to be helpful, lin try's to rule and dominate and that is never helpful. Anyway's I'm done, i've had my say. Keep on posting girl's,, no matter how redundant, most of us here enjoy reading and helping!

 

Emma2 - March 29

Well I don't think you should focus on that word only. Maybe it wasn't the right word to chose but the message is clear. It is to help out those searching for answers. I don't know Lin or anyone for that matter on this forum and like you and everyone else I came to get answers and I find myself giving them now.

 

Lin - March 29

Celia, why are you being so rude? When I say people should search first, I'm not talking about those who are looking to discuss their current situation with others. It's the hundreds of threads on "how do I temp," "how do I check my cervical mucous," and "what is a luteal phase" that I'm talking about. I just figured that if there's a thread explaining the search feature, then it might occur to the newbies to use it first before asking a redundant question. A lot of people don't notice it right away, and a lot of women come to this website unfamiliar with the etiquette that is common knowledge on most web forums, regardless of the topic.

 

Lin - March 29

Celia, not every thread is about support. Some are about answers to questions only.

 

Celia - March 29

I am not being rude lin. You came across in your original post that you are tired of reading the same things over and over and that women should search for an answer before asking redundant questions just because you've already answered similar questions. I think most women come here for support and like to talk things out. No, not everyone want's that but it's their option to post the same questions over and over if they want. Maybe you should learn how to say thing's in a nicer way if you don't want someone coming across rude to you. It would help if you started showing other's on here that same respect, and from what i've read throughout the forum's, everyone seems to have the same opinon of you.

 

Lin - March 29

Celia, I actually took a long time to write that and put in a lot of effort to make sure that it didn't come across that way. You, along with a few others on this forum, just read that into each and every one of my posts, because you've already a__sumed that you know something about me. Maybe you should learn how to not make a__sumptions about people you don't know. There is ABSOLUTELY NOTHING in my post above that was rude. The only one being rude here is you.

 

Tink75 - March 29

I have to agree with Lin as well...she has a point and she was only being helpful. Her post was NOT in the least bit rude and no where in her post did she say she was "tired of reading the same posts". Gee Lin...you can't win can ya? I thought your post was nice and polite and helpful and people think your "pushing yourself around".

 

AshleyB - March 29

I agree, I don't think there was anything rude or dominating in Lin's original post. I think she worded it well. She's just making a suggestion. Some new people really want to know answers so they ask a question that many of us have seen a thousand times, and sometimes skip over because we tire of responding the same thing and then the newbie doesn't get answers that she needs, so that's no good either.

 

Celia - March 29

No Lin I am not being rude, I found your original post to be very unecessary and stated my opinion on it. Are you the only one around here that can bluntly say what's on your mind and not be considered rude? My original reply was not rude at all. I also don't pretend to know you or anything about you. I don't a__sume anything about you. You come across as a very rude obnoxious person to me. Anyway I'm not here to talk about your character, I stick with my original reply to this post, it was unecessary and women should feel free to post whatever they want and not have to worry about "etiquette".

 

Cindy Lou - March 29

I kind of agree with celia on being about to post now then look back on old post...For one because some of those old post are long and take forever to load into ones computer...And for another the old ones are old and maybe things have changed somewhat on the topics at hand. Also to get on here and find new people with issues is always nice. There are alot of waiting threads you just can't get rid of them just because we are all still waiting...Some PG questions maybe different but having a same t_tle to the subject. So it might not be just etiquette but just wanting to meet new people. If you are tired of reading the same thing just skip it...and if some one has problems with this forums etiquette then write to the site to see if they can do something about double postings...or just skip it altogether. I like reading these post but if I see double I just skip it. I would think that would be the best thing because it can be time consuming...If you don't have the time then don't read it...and don't anwser it. Not trying to be negative towards Lin but don't want to repeat yourself then you have control of not repeating yourself by just not re reading same t_tled post...Ok sorry but that is it...Keep Posting and enjoy making new aquitences (sp?)...This is an awesome place when we all can get along...and quit trying to push others your way of thinking...Sorry if this hits you the wrong way Lin & Emma...It is just MY OPINION and as it has been said before we all have one just like A$$HOLES...and we are aloud to have our opinions it is called freedom of speech...Thank You for your time.

 

Cindy Lou - March 29

I also think the reason why we see the same question over and over is because we have been here to gosh dam long trying to get PG...If we could only get PG we would not see the same C___p over and over...Let us all get PG already and be happy!...LOL

 

angelinakai - March 29

i can see both sides, but dont see anything at all with Lin posting that. I mean she helps more people than any of us.. in my opinion, so i can see how that would get annoying. i just skip over things that have been asked over and over again.

 

mommy3 - March 29

I can see both sides here. But as a new user I tend agree more with posting a new question. i posted on older threads, you don't get anwers. i just posted a question about temping and got helpful answers, some from Lin. I am greatful. I'm sure that i could have gotten the same answers from old threads, but it is nice to feel like I am having a "conversation" of sorts. It can be very frustrating ttc, as most of you know. It is nice to come in and maybe find someone to sympathize or even going through a similar situation.

 

rossgirl - March 29

You know, I have to say that this kind of bickering and arguing has gone on on several different threads - I agree with Celia by the way- and it's made me decide to leave this forum and this website. I didn't come here to read debates and arguments that have nothing to do with what actually brought me here. Everyone has a different opinion and everyone's body is different and science can't always provide definitive answers for everyone. This is supposed to be a support forum and it's turned in to opinionated diagnoses and bashing other's opinions if it's disagreed with. The immaturity of all this, from people who are trying to have babies, is very disheartening. I wish all of you luck!

 

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