I Need Support Please Can Anyone Relate

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Shay - January 20

First of all, Hi to everyone!! I'll be 30 years old this March and ttc # 2. For the past 6-8 months, my cycles have ranged anywhere from 26-29 days in lenght. Prior to this period, they had slowly evolved from 29-39 days, to the shorter cycle periods. They have been fairly regular since evolving to the shorter period. The odd thing about my periods is that they start by slight brown discharge for approx. 2-3 days, then actually start bleeding. I count my periods from the 1st day of actual real red bleeding, not the brown discharge. Anyway, My last period started 12/18, which by my current cycle would put me about 5 days past due. Prior to this, my periods started on 11/19, 10/21, 9/23 & 8/27; so they have started earlier each month, calendar day wise, but on time each month. The only thing that I am experiencing have been menstrual like cramps that extend from my lower back/sides to my lower abdomen..basically from kidney area to abdomen, all below the belly button, headaches and low grade fever (99.2 or so). Not sure about more frequent urination, seems a little more frequent, but not much more. Maybe some slight br___t swelling, but not significant. These cramps are killing me though and I've NEVER cramped like this for days before AF. Usually, these type of cramps signify AF will be here any moment. These type of cramps usually come at night and AF arrives the next a.m. But, not yet. I have a 6 year old daughter, and main signs of pregnancy with her were late period, heartburn & full feeling. No full feeling now, and heartburn has been frequent since having her, so can't judge by that either. I am just so confused right now that I am going insane. I keep waiting for AF, but a no show so far. I am nervous about a + or a - if I take a test. I'd love to be a mom again, and my family is ready, just financially it would be a struggle. I've been off of birth control for 6 years, but used pull out method until the 1 & 1/2 years. I do get up right after s_x to urinate b/c I have frequent UTI's, so I feel that I am decreasing my ability to conceive by doing this because I don't give the sperm a chance. But, I just don't know what to think this month. This crampy feeling comes and goes and is making me nervous. Any words of advice or anyone feel this way too, out there? I obviously know I'm not all alone based on these posts, but am just at a loss as to how I've been feeling. Just different I guess, mainly these cramps! If AF is coming, just come already, you know??? Thanks to everyone for any advice you can give :)

 

Shay - January 20

I'm sorry! I just realized how long this is! Sorry for the book everyone :(

 

Jilly - January 20

Don't worry about the book. You are concerned. The best thing I can tell you is go ahead and take a test. Not knowing is the worst thing to do to yourself. If you want the most accurate test go to your doctor and get a blood test. It gives more definite results. Good luck.

 

Shay - January 20

Jilly - thanks for the suggestion. I'm wrestling with the test thing right now. I'm tempted to run out to the drug store and grab one, but am scared to know the results. This cramping just bothers me tremendously, because it's different than any other cycle. And fairly constant too, seems to be mostly on left side though. Thanks again for your response! Nice to know there are lots of folks in the same boat as me and I don't have to feel all alone :) I wish everyone the best of luck!

 

concerned - January 20

your cramping concerns me. I have friends and relatives that have had a condition where cysts form in the ovaries and cause all kinds of crampy pain and other problems, especially before periods, and then they just go away. it started in their late twenties or early thirties. Not to scare you, if you have it, everyone I know that has it lives full and productive lives , just extra discomfort around period time, or possible removal of cyst. I'd take the pregnancy test, and regardless of the result, see a doctor for a thorough exam and ultrasound. Other thing is that trying to have a baby can make your cycle go crazy. I've been trying for a few years and my cycle can often be impossible to predict. Good luck and good health!

 

Michelle - January 21

Hi, I would recommend purchasing an ultra-sensitive test, which are available online. They arrive within 2-3 days and are very precise or get a blood test done. Similar situation to you - AF normally ontime, but not this month, am late, but still have the severe AF-type cramping and lower back pain. Have done the ultra-sensitive test (repeatedly!), and they have put my mind at rest. Good luck, and hope you get an answer one way or another.

 

Shay - January 21

Michelle - thanks for your response. I took a 1st Response test yesterday and got a BFN. My cramps seemed to have subsided a little today. They're still there, but not as painful as the past 4 days. If possible, can you recommend a site where I can order the ultra-sensitive tests and maybe tell me what the difference is between those tests and regular tests? It's just crazy b/c if I am pregnant, I'd think that any test would show positive after being 5 days late, but maybe not. BTW, my pain today seems to be very low at times, or to the let side of my belly b___ton, kind of twingy pains. Weird! I'm just at a loss in this situation. Another question, if you don't mind me asking....If the tests have put your mind at ease but the cramping continues, do you still worry or are you considering seeing your doctor? I am concerned as to whether or not I should call my dr. and make an appt. I don't have a regular gyno, so not sure what to do :( Thank you again SO MUCH for your help.

 

Shay - January 21

sorry, that was supposed to read to the "LEFT" side of my belly b___ton, not to the let side :) hahaha!

 

Angie - January 21

Same exact situation, literally! My last period started 12/18, haven't seen it since and these cramps are killing me. They are tolerable but very uncomfortable. I would say the only other difference is that I am having an off color stretching discharge??...what's that all about? Sorry for the very forward question, haha.

 

Shay - January 21

Angie - not sure what's up with the discharge, and no need to apologize for the forward question...We're all women and we all have to deal with this yucky stuff! LOL...Anyway, I believe it was on Monday & Tuesday of this week (1/17 & 1/18) I did have clear, mucus discharge, which turned pale yellow in color and then disappeared. No noticable discharge since that date. But, still cramping and no AF. Cramps were better this a.m. then they are now...Guess I'll just keep waiting. I sure wish we could all find the answers we needed :) Everyone keeps telling me that I'm just going to start soon, and based on these cramps, if I do, it will be a whopper of a period for sure! Let me know how things go for you!!!!! :)

 

Angie - January 21

Thanks :) Today has been the only day I've had to deal with that discharge so far, thank goodness! I believe I bought some preg. test strips that the doctors use, off this website. They were only .94cents each. They should be arriving today (only takes 1-3 days).

 

Shay - January 21

Angie - those strips sound pretty cool...I'm probably going to wait another few days before I go any further with my testing. Maybe everyone is right and I'm just going to start late, I dunno. Just frustrated right now I guess. But, I'm going to keep trying! Seriously though, best of luck to you and please let me know how those strips work out for you. If no AF by next week, I may order them also! :)

 

Angie - January 21

Yeah, I definitely let you know how they work. I'll be back here on Mon. Hopefully they have come in today though because I'm suppose to start a new pack of bc pills tonight. I'll post something like "tried the preg. test strips" on Monday. That way you can find me if you would really like to know. Have a great weekend :)

 

Shay - January 24

just an update....so far, no AF...am 9 days late...but, as of saturday, still negative HPT results. So, still waiting to find out. Will probably give it til 31st before going to dr. I've just resigned myself to the fact that I'm not pregnant. Just confused about ovulating next month if i do start my period, because maybe being late this month means I didn't ovulate next month. I'm just really confused. I'm cramping a bit today, didn't cramp all weekend or friday, only M-Thurs last week. but, it's back today just lighter. No AF yet though. Any advice? Also, anyone test up to 9 days late for AF or longer but still turn up pregnant? Curious to see. I've kind of resigned myself, but still hopeful :) Thx!!!! :0)

 

ms.mae - January 24

Shay, I never have but my sister was only 8 days late and found out she was pregnant..so it is very possible...im 6 days late and really want to know...but imma hold off so i dont go thru the disappointment if its still possible to be pregnant!

 

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