Just Need To Vent I M Feeling Sorry For Myself

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JenS - December 11

hi ladies... Ohhhhhhhh... I'm feeling sorry for myself today! My dh and I have been TTC for 7months!! Every month I get a BF "let down" and I'm getting really sad about this! We want to start a family and it seems that everyone around us is getting pregnant! I know I shouldn't be feeling this way as many women wait months before they get a BFP, some wait years! I'm feeling guilty that I'm so sad and get disappointed every month. I just want to get started!!! It also doesn't help that every couple we know got pregnant with in 2 months of trying! My neighbour just told us yesterday that she was expecting and I almost burst into tears went I got in the house!! (I don't like feeling this way-I AM happy for her!!) Anyways, sorry for my venting, I just wish I could get a BFP!!!

 

Justine - December 11

Jen, vent away. I think it's completely natural what you're feeling and I went through exactly the same emotions until I got my bfp after 9 months ttc. I never thought it was going to happen for me and I'm sure you're feeling the same. But hold on in there as it'll happen when you least expect it. Good luck.

 

Angel - December 11

Keep trying...it took me about 8 months. I got my BFP on my birthday Oct. 14, and my due date is June 26, 06. I almost gave up myself...so, just keep trying. I went to my monthly cylcles.com because i did not know what days i ovulated, i had no signs...so what that site does is asks u about how long ur periods are and the next time ur due for a period and gives u ur most fertile days...if u go by that and have s_x the day b4, the day u ovulate, and the day after, its a pretty good chance you will have ur lil bundle of joy, thats how i got pregnant. lol, so try that and see what happens. Good Luck!

 

JenS - December 11

Justine, Angel, thanks for the words of encouragement! I really needed to hear that other women feel the same emotions when TTC! Also, congrats on your pregnancies!! Savour every moment!! It really seems like it's never going to happen! Isn't it funny that when you want something so much, it never happens quickly! I guess that's what so bitter sweet when women do get their BFP! I'm trying not to think so negative, but it's really hard! I'll check out the site, Angel!

 

Chas - December 11

Hi JenS, I know exactly how you feel !!! It's so hard trying month after month and getting those negitives!!! We have been ttc for a year now. I don't think it's ever going to happen ! It's so hard too when your friends have kids/babies and those who are preg. My 18 year old niece just had a new baby and as much as I was happy for her, I thought "that should be me" !! But, I know it's going to happen- I guess when I'm not thinking about it, but easier said than done ! so hang in there :)

 

JenS - December 11

Hi Chas, It's really hard with friends, one of my close friends is 7 mths pregnant and sometimes I almost can't be around her. I feel terriable about it!! I find myself wondering into the baby section of the department store and look at all the baby stuff--omg it's insane! I've been temping and this mth we used OPK's but I have a feeling it didn't work! Have you ever used OPK's?

 

Justine - December 11

Jen - i used opks (clearblue easy) for about 3 months and charted and temped using fertilityfriend.com for 2 months. i went through all the emotions you are and did the wandering through baby departments (even dragging my poor dh along sometimes too!) i'd just started to see an re when i got pg so i really do understand your frustration and fears about how long it's taking you to get pg. like chas says hold on in there as it really will happen.

 

Chas - December 11

Jen, yes I've used opk's. This month that was all I used. I didn't temp this month. But, dh and I bd'd everyday during my fertile period. (according to FF and my past cycles.) I am hoping it worked, because I know we bd'd two days before and on 'O" day and the few days after ! Still no af yet. Grandpa Viv replied to my other post, and said I shouldn't give in to the negs until 21 dpo. I am now 18 dpo. So, I guess we will see !

 

Vanessa - December 11

Hey girls. JenS, I could've written that exact same thing you did myself. My best friend got pregnant after 1 month of trying and although I was extremely happy for her, as soon as she left I burst into teats. My DH and I are on our 7th month trying and it's killing me. We want a baby so badly, the wait is torturous. I'm on month 2 of temping, have been using OPK's for 3 months and I we BD pretty much every day around time of O'ing. I keep thinking, what else can I do??? I think I may wait until after January and go see my doctor. May even fib a bit and say it's been a year of TTC. I'm trying not to think that there is something wrong with DH or I but after this long, it's hard not to wonder. If you're like me, the sadness only lasts for the duration of AF, but gets better as the days go by. I"m supposed to O this week sometime so I'm looking forward to getting through that and moving on to the 2ww. I'm a bit nervous as my DH will be gone during my fertile week in January so if I don't get BFP in this month, we have to wait until February. Seems so far away! Anyway, sorry to go on and on, just thought you should know that you're not alone and we can all get through this together. Baby dust!

 

Brooke F - December 11

I just found out that i am pg! I have been ttc for 6 months! I broke down and bought a ferti. montior from clear blue!! One try on that thing and here i am pg! I totally understand how you feel, its hard! Venting is a good thing to due, instead of keeping it all in! I wish you good luck.. and sticky baby dust! Just keep your head up, your time will come soon :)

 

AmyB - December 11

girl vent away, that is what we are here for!!!

 

Tiffany - December 11

It's okay to feel frustrated we all do. It took me 2 years for my first and 6 months for my second. I am now trying for number 3 and it's been almost 4 years. I need to tell you that I had ALL OF MY DATES WRONG! I thought I O'ed a LOT earlier that I really was. Please, Please go to Fertility Friend. It's free for the first month.. Start temping and charting with that site. You will totally start to see how your body is working. It's actually fun because, it gives you something to do everyday. They also have a chat board and a LOT of information about ttc'ing. I might suggest that you start some natural things to enhance your fertility. Dring green tea daily. Take royal jelly, pre-nates, vitiman c and e. Also, a baby asprin a day. Also drink red rasberry leaf tea. Those things are the basics when trying to enhance fertility. The green tea alone is said to boost your chances for conception by 50% each cycle! The charting will tell you if you have any kind of hormonal imbalance. I hope you feel better! Your Friend Tiffany

 

JenS - December 11

Hi everyone, It's soooo nice to hear from all of you and the tips and tricks on getting that BFP! I feel for all of you who are ttc, it's unbearable at times...I feel like I can't seem to think of anything else but conceiving! I'm at work and I think "baby" and doing laundry and I think "baby"! I'm really hoping that using opk's will help, I'm temping also and bd during fertile time if not almost everyday/everyother day during my cycle! I'm reading on how long it has taken some of you and I realize that 7 mths of ttc seems like nothing to some women who wait years to have a child! Good luck to everyone! I hope we all get our BFP soon! I'm around if anyone wants to chat! Cheers, Jen ps: I'm going to check out fertility friend! thx!

 

JenS - December 11

Oh and to Brooke F....C O N G R A T U L A T I O N S! on your BFP!! Happy 9 months!

 

Brooke F - December 11

JenS thank you! My friend is having problems ttc.. she was told preseed was great! you might want to try some of that! Also I heard green tea works good too! Just keep your head up!! You will get you BFP :))) baby dust to you ... they sticky kind :)

 

SweetP - December 11

I totally understand what you mean. When my SIL who doesn't even want to be pregnant announced hers when DH and I were first trying, and we're still TRYING!! This will make one year and one month that we've been going through this, one miscarriage and one chemical pregnancy. You're not alone and you have the right to vent every once in a while. The important thing is to get back up again because when we're blessed with our little ones all this frustration won't matter!

 

kb - December 12

You are not alone- I have been ttc for 10 months and everyone around me has gotten pg without even trying(my sister and one of my friends) my other friend just had twins, and although I am happy for them- I still think it's not fair. I'm hoping for a bfp this week-but don't feel like it's going to happen. I'm so used to getting bfn- I don't think I'll know what to do if and when I get that bfp!!

 

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