Odds Of Being Pregnant

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Nervous Boyfriend - June 29

My girlfriend is currently 6 weeks and 5 days late. We had s_x approx. 5 times since her last period, all with a condom. She thought one broke, although I'm 95% sure it didn't, so, to be safe, she took two birth control pills 36-48 hours after that time we had s_x. The doctor said that's the equivalent of a morning after pill and while it's not as safe, it'll get the job done. She normally does not take bcp's but keeps them around. She has no symptoms of being pregnant other than the fact her stomach has been feeling like she is going to get her period, but then she doesn't. That has happened on and off last week, but did not happen today. Also, she had been exercising almost everyday (running a mile or two), has been under a lot of stress and completely changed her diet (used to eat a lot of fast food, now eats very healthy food). She took a pregnancy test last Saturday (four days ago) which was negative and refuses to take another one, but swears she feels fine. She said she will not take another test until the time her period is due next month, which seems absurd. What does everyone think are the odds she is pregnant? Remember, no symptoms, took two bcp's out of nowhere, safe s_x each and every time (condoms), changed diet, test negative, stress, exercising. She obviously does not want to be pregnant and is not doing much to find out, whereas I am shaking about this everyday. I don't want a child, but understand and respect my responsibility if she is pregnant. Thank you all so much.

 

Nervous Boyfriend - June 29

Also want to add that we have not had s_x since approximately May 4th.

 

Nervous Boyfriend - June 29

Can anyone help me? Thank you.

 

Camilla - June 29

Hey there. So you mean she has missed 2 periods already? I'm confused. Ok, here are some numbers. Skip them, if it it becomes too much..:) .If she was 4 weeks overdue, she would have missed 2 periods already. (And she would now be called 10 weeks and 5 days pregnant if she was.) If she was 10 weeks plus preggers, she would have had to conceive around 8 weeks, 5 days ago. That falls into the time when you last had s_x. But..the good news is that she tested *negative* only a few days ago, whereas if she was 10 weeks pregnant the test would certainly be expected to be very positive by now! (It would be expected to be very positive only 3 weeks after last having s_x.) You say she hasn't got any other symptoms, like super sore bbs, nausea, extreme tiredness? I would say, that she is not pregnant, but taking the pills probably messed up her cycle. That, plus the other issues you mentioned could certainly delay a period. I don't think you need to shake too much, but she should see her gyno to find out why her body is still not returning to normal after taking pills. Hope this helps...

 

To NB - June 29

If she is 6 weeks to 7 weeks late she should have had a positive result on the HPT by now...You said she has changed her eating habit and under alot of stress and exercising alot more so all of that could affect her period...Women know there bodies pretty well so if she doesn't feel any different I would take her word for it...I know that you can get nervous about it but try to not worry....She should be fine. I hope I helped out a bit...Good luck to you.

 

Jennifer - June 29

The wait is tough, but most of us women do wait untill our missed period to take a home preg test. I understand your anxiety; it also sounds like you care about your girlfriend. It could be that taking the pills could have made her have the feelings as if she was about to get her period--especially if she doesn't regularly take them. Keep in mind, if her period is late, it may be due to the increase in activity and stress. Be patient and supportive to her. Let her know that you would like her to test again because you are feeling a bit nervous--make sure your nerves will not make you run away from her either way! Try not to get her worked up about it, that won't help. Do you know when she expects her next period to come? If not do you remember when her last one started? Most likely, you do not need to be concerned--if you are not interresting in having children, maybe you and your girlfriend should be using more than one form of of birth control in the future. The shot seems to be affective and she wouldn't have to worry about taking a pill every day, something like that along with condom use would be good for the two of you. Good luck!

 

Jennifer - June 29

oops--I meant to say: make sure she knows your nerves will not make you run away from her either way

 

Nervous Boyfriend - June 29

Thank you so much for your help. It makes me feel a little bit better, but not entirely. I think the only thing that will make me feel really better is if she has her period. Thank you!

 

Nervous Boyfriend - June 29

She was last supposed to have her period of May 12th and we haven't had s_x since May 4th (protected).

 

to Nervous - June 29

Pregnancy tests detect pregnancy in more than 99% of all women, around the time a period is due. The numbers go even higher, if you are late. You can be more than 99% sure she is not pregnant because she tested negative, even when more than 6 weeks late.

 

Nervous Boyfriend - June 29

You said that hpt's detect pregnancy in more than 99% of women around the time their periods are due. What if she was supposed to have it in the middle of May and the middle of June, didn't have it either time, and then took a test two weeks and six weeks after she was scheduled to have it? Should she take it immediately around the time her period is due or anytime now that she is six-seven weeks late is ok? Also, if hpt's detect pregnancy in more than 99% of women around the time they have their periods, why does it seem like so many women on this message board continuously say they feel they are pregnant even though their tests come back negative? Thank you and sorry for asking so many questions.

 

to nervous - June 29

She can take the test anytime at all, night or day if she is that late. The pregnancy levels double every 48 hours in early pregnancy, hers would be sky-high by now. The result line on a test would be really, really strong and likely come up within a minute. But you said that the test only 4 days was negative, so that really rules her out. As to why women ask..usually they ask when they're not late yet, or only days into being late. So, there's hope that their egg was just fertilized a few days later than expected, and the tests wouldn't confirm it yet. We are talking days late, not weeks...The women that have missed 2 periods or more, still test negative, and (!) believe they're pregnant are few and far between. Most of them would have other very noticeable symptoms causing them to suspect pregnancy. I'd see say as difficult as it may seem, try and chill, it's not likely you are a Daddy just yet...

 

Nervous Boyfriend - June 29

To "to nervous" thank you so much for everything. I feel much better, although not completely. I'm very paranoid and neurotic by nature! But you have helped easy my mind considerably. Be well!

 

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